low income moms ( Archived) (16)

im a single mom living in income based housing rasing my two year old daughter off child support. we dont get much but we get by. i dont ask people for money ever! my parents help me out only when i really need it. i am a strong independant woman. i have been looking for work but with my situation is makes it hard to find a job that will fit my familes needs.... so why is it that when guys see/ hear unemployed or stay at home single mom they automatically think needy, gold digger, or that your looking for a free ride. i dont believe that someones worth should be based on how much money they have or where they live. i have a lot to offer someone but feel like i get overlooked because i dont work.

Today in these times there are alot of people out of work that have worked all there lifes,the job market stinks right now,there only a few jobs,and millions applying for them.So alot of people are on unemployment,food stamps just to get by,doesn't make them bad people at all,just someone going threw a ruff time at the moment.Hang in there hopefully it will get better

no it only when they are a stay at home mom who likes the finer things of life , i like your self am a single parent 6 months out of the year so my money is tight for 6 months and its the joy of my life doing all i can for her ,you just keep being your self you will meet a good man ,about the gold digger stuff its very real so you will have 2 work your way through it

Yes it is wrong but I guess people do think some of those things your saying, im not saying all.

My advice is, at the 1st chance you can get out and find work, show these guys your asking for nothing and if they want to be with you they need to accept you as you are.

Ps. dont sit at home, thats a cop out.

Wise words young man..

I saw the statistics on single moms and that is staggering but the stats on single moms who never go after the biological dad for any money is astounding. Why do you think certain cultures have men with babies from so many different women? Because the women let them get away with it.

I would garnish his wages til hell froze over; and if he's not working get his unemployment.

back on topic, of course some would think that because it happens all the time.

Look at all of the famous men with mistresses and wives that they literally buy to be with them. Of course it's an issue. You may not be that way but you can't look bad at a guy that wonders about it.

i dont think badly of guys who wonder that. what i am saying is that they see/hear those words and they dont even wanna talk. if they would just give me a chance they would see that i am not that girl

Your single? You have a young child? SO WHAT!!!

Those facts would make NO DIFFERENCE at all to me, and any man who did overlook you for either of those reason is a man not worth having anyway.

A man should be able accept a woman for who she is, not what icome she has (and vice versa I might add).

Of course income matters in the bigger picture, but it DOES NOT make you any less a woman (or man) because your situation makes it difficult for you.

BEST OF LUCK countrygirl03

I understand whay you are saying. The stigma in those words "single parent on a low income". People are shallow if they cant see past those words and not worthy of being your friend. True friends are like expensive jewellery or fine wine.

I am a single parent too and I have sacrificed after working hard to be at home for my child until he is older. I feel 15 months is a bit too young to leave in a daycare. The father and I are separated after 6 years and he sees our child etc.

I feel you are like me an independent strong woman and that is a plus. I encourage you to widen your circle of friends and network with people you come in contact with daily. Keep positive and strong and focus on quality time being a parent and good things will come. Best of luck!