should single parents date other single parents? (58)
blipper2000: the dating world is full of highs and lows these days
it really is but ya need a thick skin
it really is but ya need a thick skin
yeah thats true i dont let it get to me just a bonus if i find some1
anneh88: yeah it makes sense i completely agree wit the time cos its not good for the child or the relationship if its earlier i have a friend that has a 2year old son and she dates all the time hasnt ever lasted more then 4 months and shes always brought them to meet her son in the 1st couple of weeks i personally wudnt b that trustin
I know loads of women in their 20's and 30's that do that too and I feel sorry for the kids. It's really hard to do, but for the sake of their little emotions it's best and no one is supposed to look out for them more than their parents!
My ex used to stay in a b&b down the road if he came down and only ever came over if the kids weren't here, took lots of planning and some frustration let me tell you but these are the things we do...as parents!!
blipper2000: my kids met a girl once but i went out with her for 16 months and im still pals with the girl and they like her too
its too confusing for kids
its too confusing for kids
yeah i think id b more like that and its really great thats yas are still pals good for the kids too
SereneGreen: I know loads of women in their 20's and 30's that do that too and I feel sorry for the kids. It's really hard to do, but for the sake of their little emotions it's best and no one is supposed to look out for them more than their parents!
My ex used to stay in a b&b down the road if he came down and only ever came over if the kids weren't here, took lots of planning and some frustration let me tell you but these are the things we do...as parents!!
My ex used to stay in a b&b down the road if he came down and only ever came over if the kids weren't here, took lots of planning and some frustration let me tell you but these are the things we do...as parents!!
id say it wud be frustating alright but it is somethin that is needed kids get attached alot quicker then adults
anneh88: yeah thats true i dont let it get to me just a bonus if i find some1
thats the attitude to have
interesting discussion.....Relate recommend waiting at least six months before introducing a partner to your kids.....
anneh88: im a single mother of one and the other day my friend said that i should only look for single fathers? tell me wat u think please. i personally dont think it should come into it at the start of a relationship and when the time is right that person knows that the other person has a child so its up to them individually am i right?
i'm a divorced mam of four and i met my partner on here a couple of years ago - he has no kids so i more than make up for it but for all our differences we're still together
my point is everyone is different so its not right to generalise - some guys dont want the hassle some guys do - thats their choice but it also goes the same for us girls too jmo
well my partner got kids but more or less grown up
im still trying to convince the stepdaughter to bring the bf down so i can practise every fathers or stepddads right to scare the living jasus out of him
im still trying to convince the stepdaughter to bring the bf down so i can practise every fathers or stepddads right to scare the living jasus out of him
anneh88: thats true so ultimately its down to the individual themselves and not wat my friend said about single parents
but honestly do u know any 20-30 year old that doesnt have kids that WUD date a single mother? If ya do were are they hahahahaha
but honestly do u know any 20-30 year old that doesnt have kids that WUD date a single mother? If ya do were are they hahahahaha
Well I agre with everyone her that says you shou;ln't eliminate single people with no kids straight off the bat.
I was 21 when I took on a single mother and her three children, 10 years later we split up and I have two of my own now. They are out there. Just be patient and keep your eyes open.
As a 30 year old childless guy who's found himself dating a single mom, I may as well throw in my 2 cents worth.
Honestly, I used to rule out single moms when I first went on here but got chatting to one in particular and asked why would i care if she already has kids? Does that mean I suddenly don't like her anymore? I realised that my pre-conceived (no pun intended
) notions were crap and had to throw them out.
Since then. Yeah, it's hard going sometimes. I think any guy who's worth his salt will know that if you date a single mom, you won't come first. There will be cancelled dates cause of the kids sometimes, you may not get to see each other as often as you like and you have to be available for HER schedule cause it'll be coincedence if the night you're free turns out to be the same.
But when it comes down to it, what is all that? Nothing but small stuff that you can work around if the girl is special enough. That's the dating side of it. I have no experience any further into the area of meeting the kids or whatever and in that, I'll bow down to "mom(or Dad) knows best".
I guess there may be further scrutiny than usual into my morals etc because the kids will always be in her mind and she wouldn't want to introduce her kids to someone who may turn out to be an a**hole. But I've learned that this girl I'm seeing is a kind, loving mother who has a strength that only someone who will fight tooth and nail for her kids well being will have and I've found one thing to be totally different from some of my ex's. They were massively material and thought only of money. She knows that there are things more important in life (this is not generalising all Mothers or childless women. Just, fom the experience I've had)
If it doesn't work out, I'll not JUST go for single moms but won't ever rule them out again. Saying that though, hopefully it does.
Honestly, I used to rule out single moms when I first went on here but got chatting to one in particular and asked why would i care if she already has kids? Does that mean I suddenly don't like her anymore? I realised that my pre-conceived (no pun intended
) notions were crap and had to throw them out.Since then. Yeah, it's hard going sometimes. I think any guy who's worth his salt will know that if you date a single mom, you won't come first. There will be cancelled dates cause of the kids sometimes, you may not get to see each other as often as you like and you have to be available for HER schedule cause it'll be coincedence if the night you're free turns out to be the same.
But when it comes down to it, what is all that? Nothing but small stuff that you can work around if the girl is special enough. That's the dating side of it. I have no experience any further into the area of meeting the kids or whatever and in that, I'll bow down to "mom(or Dad) knows best".
I guess there may be further scrutiny than usual into my morals etc because the kids will always be in her mind and she wouldn't want to introduce her kids to someone who may turn out to be an a**hole. But I've learned that this girl I'm seeing is a kind, loving mother who has a strength that only someone who will fight tooth and nail for her kids well being will have and I've found one thing to be totally different from some of my ex's. They were massively material and thought only of money. She knows that there are things more important in life (this is not generalising all Mothers or childless women. Just, fom the experience I've had)
If it doesn't work out, I'll not JUST go for single moms but won't ever rule them out again. Saying that though, hopefully it does.
Alpha01: As a 30 year old childless guy who's found himself dating a single mom, I may as well throw in my 2 cents worth.
Honestly, I used to rule out single moms when I first went on here but got chatting to one in particular and asked why would i care if she already has kids? Does that mean I suddenly don't like her anymore? I realised that my pre-conceived (no pun intended ) notions were crap and had to throw them out.
Since then. Yeah, it's hard going sometimes. I think any guy who's worth his salt will know that if you date a single mom, you won't come first. There will be cancelled dates cause of the kids sometimes, you may not get to see each other as often as you like and you have to be available for HER schedule cause it'll be coincedence if the night you're free turns out to be the same.
But when it comes down to it, what is all that? Nothing but small stuff that you can work around if the girl is special enough. That's the dating side of it. I have no experience any further into the area of meeting the kids or whatever and in that, I'll bow down to "mom(or Dad) knows best".
I guess there may be further scrutiny than usual into my morals etc because the kids will always be in her mind and she wouldn't want to introduce her kids to someone who may turn out to be an a**hole. But I've learned that this girl I'm seeing is a kind, loving mother who has a strength that only someone who will fight tooth and nail for her kids well being will have and I've found one thing to be totally different from some of my ex's. They were massively material and thought only of money. She knows that there are things more important in life (this is not generalising all Mothers or childless women. Just, fom the experience I've had)
If it doesn't work out, I'll not JUST go for single moms but won't ever rule them out again. Saying that though, hopefully it does.
Honestly, I used to rule out single moms when I first went on here but got chatting to one in particular and asked why would i care if she already has kids? Does that mean I suddenly don't like her anymore? I realised that my pre-conceived (no pun intended ) notions were crap and had to throw them out.
Since then. Yeah, it's hard going sometimes. I think any guy who's worth his salt will know that if you date a single mom, you won't come first. There will be cancelled dates cause of the kids sometimes, you may not get to see each other as often as you like and you have to be available for HER schedule cause it'll be coincedence if the night you're free turns out to be the same.
But when it comes down to it, what is all that? Nothing but small stuff that you can work around if the girl is special enough. That's the dating side of it. I have no experience any further into the area of meeting the kids or whatever and in that, I'll bow down to "mom(or Dad) knows best".
I guess there may be further scrutiny than usual into my morals etc because the kids will always be in her mind and she wouldn't want to introduce her kids to someone who may turn out to be an a**hole. But I've learned that this girl I'm seeing is a kind, loving mother who has a strength that only someone who will fight tooth and nail for her kids well being will have and I've found one thing to be totally different from some of my ex's. They were massively material and thought only of money. She knows that there are things more important in life (this is not generalising all Mothers or childless women. Just, fom the experience I've had)
If it doesn't work out, I'll not JUST go for single moms but won't ever rule them out again. Saying that though, hopefully it does.
Jeez I must be hormonal this morning Alpha but that nearly made me cry!!
Alpha01: As a 30 year old childless guy who's found himself dating a single mom, I may as well throw in my 2 cents worth.
Honestly, I used to rule out single moms when I first went on here but got chatting to one in particular and asked why would i care if she already has kids? Does that mean I suddenly don't like her anymore? I realised that my pre-conceived (no pun intended ) notions were crap and had to throw them out.
Since then. Yeah, it's hard going sometimes. I think any guy who's worth his salt will know that if you date a single mom, you won't come first. There will be cancelled dates cause of the kids sometimes, you may not get to see each other as often as you like and you have to be available for HER schedule cause it'll be coincedence if the night you're free turns out to be the same.
But when it comes down to it, what is all that? Nothing but small stuff that you can work around if the girl is special enough. That's the dating side of it. I have no experience any further into the area of meeting the kids or whatever and in that, I'll bow down to "mom(or Dad) knows best".
I guess there may be further scrutiny than usual into my morals etc because the kids will always be in her mind and she wouldn't want to introduce her kids to someone who may turn out to be an a**hole. But I've learned that this girl I'm seeing is a kind, loving mother who has a strength that only someone who will fight tooth and nail for her kids well being will have and I've found one thing to be totally different from some of my ex's. They were massively material and thought only of money. She knows that there are things more important in life (this is not generalising all Mothers or childless women. Just, fom the experience I've had)
If it doesn't work out, I'll not JUST go for single moms but won't ever rule them out again. Saying that though, hopefully it does.
Honestly, I used to rule out single moms when I first went on here but got chatting to one in particular and asked why would i care if she already has kids? Does that mean I suddenly don't like her anymore? I realised that my pre-conceived (no pun intended ) notions were crap and had to throw them out.
Since then. Yeah, it's hard going sometimes. I think any guy who's worth his salt will know that if you date a single mom, you won't come first. There will be cancelled dates cause of the kids sometimes, you may not get to see each other as often as you like and you have to be available for HER schedule cause it'll be coincedence if the night you're free turns out to be the same.
But when it comes down to it, what is all that? Nothing but small stuff that you can work around if the girl is special enough. That's the dating side of it. I have no experience any further into the area of meeting the kids or whatever and in that, I'll bow down to "mom(or Dad) knows best".
I guess there may be further scrutiny than usual into my morals etc because the kids will always be in her mind and she wouldn't want to introduce her kids to someone who may turn out to be an a**hole. But I've learned that this girl I'm seeing is a kind, loving mother who has a strength that only someone who will fight tooth and nail for her kids well being will have and I've found one thing to be totally different from some of my ex's. They were massively material and thought only of money. She knows that there are things more important in life (this is not generalising all Mothers or childless women. Just, fom the experience I've had)
If it doesn't work out, I'll not JUST go for single moms but won't ever rule them out again. Saying that though, hopefully it does.
OMG....you are developing sensitivity.....walk away before it's too late. Repeat the mantra after me:
Treat them mean and keep them keen
Treat them mean and keep them keen
Treat them mean and keep them keen
Treat them mean and keep them keen
@ALPHA
@GODSGIFT
@GODSGIFT
Was up thinking about this last night and guess once I started writing, it didn't stop.
Anyone else notice you're at your most honest at 3am? (When you're NOT drunk
)Don't cry though! Not what I intended.
Godsgift: I think the treating them nice thing is working a bit better at the moment so I'll stick with that.
In response to: im a single mother of one and the other day my friend said that i should only look for single fathers? tell me wat u think please. i personally dont think it should come into it at the start of a relationship and when the time is right that person knows that the other person has a child so its up to them individually am i right?
I didn't take the time to read through the pages of this thread so I'm jumping in here and responding directly to the OP.
From the perspective of you looking for a partner as a single mother, there's absolutely no reason why you should narrow the playing field down for yourself, take your pick of what you want, a parent or not. Although I think that honesty from the outset is best in this regard and let it be known that you're a single parent to any potential date.
Alpha01: Was up thinking about this last night and guess once I started writing, it didn't stop.
Anyone else notice you're at your most honest at 3am? (When you're NOT drunk )
Don't cry though! Not what I intended.
Godsgift: I think the treating them nice thing is working a bit better at the moment so I'll stick with that.
Anyone else notice you're at your most honest at 3am? (When you're NOT drunk )
Don't cry though! Not what I intended.
Godsgift: I think the treating them nice thing is working a bit better at the moment so I'll stick with that.
What a tragedy. A young man with his whole life infront of him and everything to look forward to has decided to hang up his chauvinism. You see lads, this is how it happens and before you know it you're walking down a church aisle or changing nappies! It's a sad day for men everyhere!
Godsgift: What a tragedy. A young man with his whole life infront of him and everything to look forward to has decided to hang up his chauvinism. You see lads, this is how it happens and before you know it you're walking down a church aisle or changing nappies! It's a sad day for men everyhere!
My Chauavenism was kicked out of me by my female friends a loooong time ago. Fraid I'm a lost cause at this point.
I won't make it......... Go on without me
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my kids met a girl once but i went out with her for 16 months and im still pals with the girl and they like her too
its too confusing for kids