I think it's only common courtesy for people to reply to an email, even if they are not interested. (85)
SummerUK: Thing is though, its common courtesy to READ someones profile before emailing then you will find out if you're compatible..
Most don't
Most don't
Absolutely agree, Summer!
Its very not-courteous when people,
who are in a relationship, separated and/or other-wise attached,
dismiss explicitly stated in profiles - not interested.
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I DON'T and WON'T reply to anyone who writes to me and who did not read my profile before to find out what I would like to have or not have, does not qualify and am not interested. So people don't write to me. I have NO common courtesy. I have NO manners.
I won't reply to you.
I won't reply to you.
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Laura25: Absolutely agree, Summer! Its very not-courteous when people,
who are in a relationship, separated and/or other-wise attached,
dismiss explicitly stated in profiles - not interested.
who are in a relationship, separated and/or other-wise attached,
dismiss explicitly stated in profiles - not interested.
AMEN, sista. Thank you.
I will be as discourteous as they are.
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yes it is, but pls dont play games with their heart when you are not really interested in them.
I also think it is not impolite if you dont reply the email from profiles who you are not interested in, then can avoid hurting bothsides's feelings, and could end the conversation effectively.
I also think it is not impolite if you dont reply the email from profiles who you are not interested in, then can avoid hurting bothsides's feelings, and could end the conversation effectively.
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Cruzanon: Each to their own, that's what makes us unique. Personally as I think I have said I am not bothered by rejection from someone I don't even know. After all they have the right to, no reason to take it to heart.
and I want to avoid insults from someone I rejected. It is my right and my choice to reject whoever I am not interested in.
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Ocee35: I think it's only common courtesy for people to
stop acting butthurt cause they were rejected
on the internet.
stop acting butthurt cause they were rejected
on the internet.
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...came on a bit too strong, girl, no?
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equiya: I DON'T and WON'T reply to anyone who writes to me and who did not read my profile before to find out what I would like to have or not have, does not qualify and am not interested. So people don't write to me. I have NO common courtesy. I have NO manners.
I won't reply to you.
I won't reply to you.
The difference between your profile and that of many women here, is that yours is well written and you actually state a good range of stuff you're looking/not looking for. I've read your profile and actually thought it's one of the best ones here, both as a read, and the blunt way you write things (same goes for your forum posts even if I don't always agree with your views).
I see a lot of profiles of women in my area who are of the "I don't really like writing about myself here, contact me and we'll talk/just looking for a good man who is thoughtful etc" type of profiles which really doesn't weed out a lot of possibilities.
Well, when you do actually write to the woman who are 'just looking for a good man' and 'asking to contact them', they just don't reply. If that isn't impoliteness I don't know what else is?
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If someone has written a well thought out mail to me and it is written in a friendly manner i see no reason why i should not respond.
Maybe i was born before my time and feel any correspondence(within reason) should be answered purely for politeness.
Its quite sad to think that many new members here who are shy will write to someone they see posting in the forum in a friendly manner to be rebuffed...
IMHO
Maybe i was born before my time and feel any correspondence(within reason) should be answered purely for politeness.
Its quite sad to think that many new members here who are shy will write to someone they see posting in the forum in a friendly manner to be rebuffed...
IMHO
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Amity: If someone has written a well thought out mail to me and it is written in a friendly manner i see no reason why i should not respond.
Maybe i was born before my time and feel any correspondence(within reason) should be answered purely for politeness.
Its quite sad to think that many new members here who are shy will write to someone they see posting in the forum in a friendly manner to be rebuffed...
IMHO
Maybe i was born before my time and feel any correspondence(within reason) should be answered purely for politeness.
Its quite sad to think that many new members here who are shy will write to someone they see posting in the forum in a friendly manner to be rebuffed...
IMHO
Well said Amity.
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I rarely reply unless they live in somewhere like outer Mongolia or somewhere like that and its only a curiousity thing.
Guess im rude.......
Guess im rude.......
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wulfen: The difference between your profile and that of many women here, is that yours is well written and you actually state a good range of stuff you're looking/not looking for. I've read your profile and actually thought it's one of the best ones here, both as a read, and the blunt way you write things (same goes for your forum posts even if I don't always agree with your views).
I see a lot of profiles of women in my area who are of the "I don't really like writing about myself here, contact me and we'll talk/just looking for a good man who is thoughtful etc" type of profiles which really doesn't weed out a lot of possibilities.
Well, when you do actually write to the woman who are 'just looking for a good man' and 'asking to contact them', they just don't reply. If that isn't impoliteness I don't know what else is?
I see a lot of profiles of women in my area who are of the "I don't really like writing about myself here, contact me and we'll talk/just looking for a good man who is thoughtful etc" type of profiles which really doesn't weed out a lot of possibilities.
Well, when you do actually write to the woman who are 'just looking for a good man' and 'asking to contact them', they just don't reply. If that isn't impoliteness I don't know what else is?
If I say in my profile that I am only interested in men who are my height and I am 5 ' 8'' so someone 5' 4'' contants me. I reply and say I am not interested in a relationship with you but we could be just friends if you want, he replies and insults me a lot saying things i didn't want him because he was black and how can a black woman as black as you are he said, go for white men, etc. I want to avoid such confrontations so I WON'T REPLY to such emails. I want my peace of my mind. I will ignore and block if I am not interested. Think of me as being IMPOLITE. That does not bother me at all.
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Depends what the other person has emailed you! I will always send a reply but refuse to if I find anything offensive.I just delete them.
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equiya: If I say in my profile that I am only interested in men who are my height and I am 5 ' 8'' so someone 5' 4'' contants me. I reply and say I am not interested in a relationship with you but we could be just friends if you want, he replies and insults me a lot saying things i didn't want him because he was black and how can a black woman as black as you are he said, go for white men, etc. I want to avoid such confrontations so I WON'T REPLY to such emails. I want my peace of my mind. I will ignore and block if I am not interested. Think of me as being IMPOLITE. That does not bother me at all.
Hey lady I wasn't attacking you in my previous post. I did in fact say that you have clearly put what you are and are not lookin for in your profile correct?
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wulfen: Genghis Khan scamming you via internet, scary!
The Great Khan soon runs when I ask for money.......
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Amity: If someone has written a well thought out mail to me and it is written in a friendly manner i see no reason why i should not respond.
Maybe i was born before my time and feel any correspondence(within reason) should be answered purely for politeness.
Its quite sad to think that many new members here who are shy will write to someone they see posting in the forum in a friendly manner to be rebuffed...
IMHO
Maybe i was born before my time and feel any correspondence(within reason) should be answered purely for politeness.
Its quite sad to think that many new members here who are shy will write to someone they see posting in the forum in a friendly manner to be rebuffed...
IMHO
You've done it now, Am, you're gonna spend the next month doing nothing but answering emails.
Love the new hairdo btw. Kinda wavy. Different look for you.
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wulfen: Hey lady I wasn't attacking you in my previous post. I did in fact say that you have clearly put what you are and are not lookin for in your profile correct?
When I read that I did not take her as meaning you personally, just a statement of fact she was making. 
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Proudamerican100: When I read that I did not take her as meaning you personally, just a statement of fact she was making.
Thank you.
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A reply can be cruel, however hard you tailor it to be kind - it's still an explicit rejection.
Yes, it is.