Single Parents-All alone! (25)
demonfairyNewton,hickory, North Carolina USA120 Threads 17 Polls 5,654 PostsI was 21 when my husband passed,my daughter was 6 months old,just a kid raising a kid really!I raised her for 18 years never letting any man into our life,protecting her from the evils of the world i though.Then she met a guy in the air force on leave and fell in love,got married,started a new life of her own,my job was done.In my mind and heart i was happy for her and her new husband.But the world as i had known it for so many years had come to a end,kind of like a dead in the family.I realized i had made a mistake sheltering her and me from the world,from finding a new life,i could have build a new family with someone else,he would have added to our family,not taken any thing a way from it.Do you think Single Parents tend to over protect there children,try to hold own to tight to them not letting anyone else in.....
She turned out to be a great kid,but if i had it to do over again,i would do it differently. 
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IMO you did the right thing at the right time for you. Any parent would do the same.
You are still a young woman and if it is ment to be you will be found by your true love or soul mate.
You are still a young woman and if it is ment to be you will be found by your true love or soul mate.
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merrilou: IMO you did the right thing at the right time for you. Any parent would do the same.
You are still a young woman and if it is ment to be you will be found by your true love or soul mate.
I was useing me as a example,wondering if some times we go to far trying to protect them,when theres a whole world out there for both parent and child..You are still a young woman and if it is ment to be you will be found by your true love or soul mate.
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demonfairy: I was 21 when my husband passed,my daughter was 6 months old,just a kid raising a kid really!I raised her for 18 years never letting any man into our life,protecting her from the evils of the world i though.Then she met a guy in the air force on leave and fell in love,got married,started a new life of her own,my job was done.In my mind and heart i was happy for her and her new husband.But the world as i had known it for so many years had come to a end,kind of like a dead in the family.I realized i had made a mistake sheltering her and me from the world,from finding a new life,i could have build a new family with someone else,he would have added to our family,not taken any thing a way from it.Do you think Single Parents tend to over protect there children,try to hold own to tight to them not letting anyone else in..... She turned out to be a great kid,but if i had it to do over again,i would do it differently.
Hey my dear,
That was a few years ago now! You were probably right in your thoughts. You brought her up good, but maybe at YOUR own expense, but you still did the motherly thing for your daughter.
Nowadays, single parents can have a few different partners, which can have varied affects on the kids involved, and result in the not not so good outcome, of those kids!!!
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demonfairy: I was useing me as a example,wondering if some times we go to far trying to protect them,when theres a whole world out there for both parent and child..
Yes I understand you . I just know by my experiences of a few women who are close to me ... they like you have put their children first and have not allowed any guy into thier lives in years once the relationship with the kids dads ended.
Who knows if its a good thing or a bad thing. You were happy at the time and you kept your daughter safe and well cared for . Yes I agree with you , there may be a big world out there and more the reason to protect your child.
It seems to me that in your case what you strived for was healthy , in that you understood the need for seperation . You were able to let your child go when she met the person she wanted to marry . I commend you , as I have heard stories where the parent can't let go and do their utmost to ruin their offsprings relationships.
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estate: Hey my dear,
That was a few years ago now! You were probably right in your thoughts. You brought her up good, but maybe at YOUR own expense, but you still did the motherly thing for your daughter.
Nowadays, single parents can have a few different partners, which can have varied affects on the kids involved, and result in the not not so good outcome, of those kids!!!
I see your point,one good parent is better then maybe getting involved with some one and it not working out or not being good on the child in a positive way... sry internet troublesThat was a few years ago now! You were probably right in your thoughts. You brought her up good, but maybe at YOUR own expense, but you still did the motherly thing for your daughter.
Nowadays, single parents can have a few different partners, which can have varied affects on the kids involved, and result in the not not so good outcome, of those kids!!!
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merrilou: Yes I understand you . I just know by my experiences of a few women who are close to me ... they like you have put their children first and have not allowed any guy into thier lives in years once the relationship with the kids dads ended.
Who knows if its a good thing or a bad thing. You were happy at the time and you kept your daughter safe and well cared for . Yes I agree with you , there may be a big world out there and more the reason to protect your child.
It seems to me that in your case what you strived for was healthy , in that you understood the need for seperation . You were able to let your child go when she met the person she wanted to marry . I commend you , as I have heard stories where the parent can't let go and do their utmost to ruin their offsprings relationships.
We all have lives to lead and you have to let them go to find there own happniess sooner or later,we might want to keep them for ever but we can't.Who knows if its a good thing or a bad thing. You were happy at the time and you kept your daughter safe and well cared for . Yes I agree with you , there may be a big world out there and more the reason to protect your child.
It seems to me that in your case what you strived for was healthy , in that you understood the need for seperation . You were able to let your child go when she met the person she wanted to marry . I commend you , as I have heard stories where the parent can't let go and do their utmost to ruin their offsprings relationships.
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demonfairy: We all have lives to lead and you have to let them go to find there own happniess sooner or later,we might want to keep them for ever but we can't. good post
I think so too, but you would be amazed at the amount of people that can't achieve healthy seperation , you did well by your girl.
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There is not enough protection for our children. I once let someone in because my mother said that is the way of life and he way the biggest mistake I ever made in my life.
If my life is only to give my child the best I have to give, let it be so.
The gifts I have because of my child no one could ever match.
If my life is only to give my child the best I have to give, let it be so.
The gifts I have because of my child no one could ever match.
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NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: There is not enough protection for our children. I once let someone in because my mother said that is the way of life and he way the biggest mistake I ever made in my life.
If my life is only to give my child the best I have to give, let it be so.
The gifts I have because of my child no one could ever match.
If my life is only to give my child the best I have to give, let it be so.
The gifts I have because of my child no one could ever match.
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merrilou: I think so too, but you would be amazed at the amount of people that can't achieve healthy seperation , you did well by your girl.
I ment to say how tragic a loss you had at 21 !!
Very sad indeed , and delighted you overcame and raised your daughter to be happy ,loving person.
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Dear DF, I'm so sorry for your loss 
I know firsthand how difficult it is to raise a child on your own but I must say you did a perfect job raising your daughter and you sacrificed many things to ensure that she turned into a fine young woman. I had the unfortunate experience of having another relationship when my son was 8 yrs. old that I believe did just as much damage, if not more than when his father left us. Sometimes a new relationship works out quite well for people but there are no guarantees. So, if I had it to do over again, knowing what I know now, I would have done what you chose to do.
I know firsthand how difficult it is to raise a child on your own but I must say you did a perfect job raising your daughter and you sacrificed many things to ensure that she turned into a fine young woman. I had the unfortunate experience of having another relationship when my son was 8 yrs. old that I believe did just as much damage, if not more than when his father left us. Sometimes a new relationship works out quite well for people but there are no guarantees. So, if I had it to do over again, knowing what I know now, I would have done what you chose to do.
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demonfairy: I was 21 when my husband passed,my daughter was 6 months old,just a kid raising a kid really!I raised her for 18 years never letting any man into our life,protecting her from the evils of the world i though.Then she met a guy in the air force on leave and fell in love,got married,started a new life of her own,my job was done.In my mind and heart i was happy for her and her new husband.But the world as i had known it for so many years had come to a end,kind of like a dead in the family.I realized i had made a mistake sheltering her and me from the world,from finding a new life,i could have build a new family with someone else,he would have added to our family,not taken any thing a way from it.Do you think Single Parents tend to over protect there children,try to hold own to tight to them not letting anyone else in..... She turned out to be a great kid,but if i had it to do over again,i would do it differently.
Wow! I believe you had a season but I dont see you doing anything wrong.Im not sure if your saying you wish you did it differantly because since shes out on her own and your world has done a completely turnaround. Be thankful for the years you raised her..you never know who you would have married while bringing her up so just look at it as a new birth for you.You know,I really wished I did some things differant but I cant let it overtake me..whats done is done.I made a huge mistake and married a man thinking he could take care of her and I(her fathers dead)and the horrible day came when she was 2..I was at the store and he called me to tell me he was leaving and left leaving her screaming on the front porch calling for daddy and when I drove up I never seen a heart so broken as I did that day.Here it is 5 years later..and I get leary about who I date.I was very overprotected but now I seem to let go and let God. She is a happy person.sometimes its hard but I know where you been.
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Lulibella: Wow! I believe you had a season but I dont see you doing anything wrong.Im not sure if your saying you wish you did it differantly because since shes out on her own and your world has done a completely turnaround. Be thankful for the years you raised her..you never know who you would have married while bringing her up so just look at it as a new birth for you.You know,I really wished I did some things differant but I cant let it overtake me..whats done is done.I made a huge mistake and married a man thinking he could take care of her and I(her fathers dead)and the horrible day came when she was 2..I was at the store and he called me to tell me he was leaving and left leaving her screaming on the front porch calling for daddy and when I drove up I never seen a heart so broken as I did that day.Here it is 5 years later..and I get leary about who I date.I was very overprotected but now I seem to let go and let God. She is a happy person.sometimes its hard but I know where you been.
I wanted to see both sides of the picture,so any single parent reading this forum can see the good,bad and the ugly so to speak.Telling our storys is worth it if it helps one single parent or child...don't you think...giving our experiances.. ------ This thread is Archived ------
NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: There is not enough protection for our children. I once let someone in because my mother said that is the way of life and he way the biggest mistake I ever made in my life.
If my life is only to give my child the best I have to give, let it be so.
The gifts I have because of my child no one could ever match.
My mother gave me that same song and dance,but i wouldn't listen..If my life is only to give my child the best I have to give, let it be so.
The gifts I have because of my child no one could ever match.
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demonfairy: I wanted to see both sides of the picture,so any single parent reading this forum can see the good,bad and the ugly so to speak.Telling our storys is worth it if it helps one single parent or child...don't you think...giving our experiances..
Your so right!!
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In response to: I was 21 when my husband passed,my daughter was 6 months old,just a kid raising a kid really!I raised her for 18 years never letting any man into our life,protecting her from the evils of the world i though.Then she met a guy in the air force on leave and fell in love,got married,started a new life of her own,my job was done.In my mind and heart i was happy for her and her new husband.But the world as i had known it for so many years had come to a end,kind of like a dead in the family.I realized i had made a mistake sheltering her and me from the world,from finding a new life,i could have build a new family with someone else,he would have added to our family,not taken any thing a way from it.Do you think Single Parents tend to over protect there children,try to hold own to tight to them not letting anyone else in..... She turned out to be a great kid,but if i had it to do over again,i would do it differently.
I have had custody of my granddaughter since she was 18 months old and now she is almost 5 yrs. old. I have done all I can to protect her from being exposed to relationships because if it fails she will be more hurt than I would. For more than a year she has wanted me to meet someone and have a life. The world is not what it use to be so even if I put a lot of effort into it, this does not mean it will happen.
I have no regrets about being alone because she is safe from what is out there. She has been a great kid and I want her to grow up to be untouched by a bad experience that I may have put her through.
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midnight_angel_1: I have had custody of my granddaughter since she was 18 months old and now she is almost 5 yrs. old. I have done all I can to protect her from being exposed to relationships because if it fails she will be more hurt than I would. For more than a year she has wanted me to meet someone and have a life. The world is not what it use to be so even if I put a lot of effort into it, this does not mean it will happen.
I have no regrets about being alone because she is safe from what is out there. She has been a great kid and I want her to grow up to be untouched by a bad experience that I may have put her through.
I have no regrets about being alone because she is safe from what is out there. She has been a great kid and I want her to grow up to be untouched by a bad experience that I may have put her through.
we all agree,a childs safety comes before our own happiness ,i love kids that age,they say the cutest things,make you laugh and smile all the time.. 
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demonfairy: we all agree,a childs safety comes before our own happiness ,i love kids that age,they say the cutest things,make you laugh and smile all the time..
She has an infectious laugh, a sense of humor, and she is the light of my life. Loves shopping and is a fashionista.
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Hi DF,
I understand exactly what you mean. I seperated from my ex husband when my daughter was 8 and my priority was to give my full attention to her and not have her upset by any new relationships that may or may not work out. I felt it was too just too risky. She is 13 now and I still have the teenage years to get through, and I am a bit older but I am still very wary of letting people in. It would be a very special man that I let into our lives. So I know that I may end up alone and I sometimes wonder what I can do about it but I still believe I am doing the right thing.
I understand exactly what you mean. I seperated from my ex husband when my daughter was 8 and my priority was to give my full attention to her and not have her upset by any new relationships that may or may not work out. I felt it was too just too risky. She is 13 now and I still have the teenage years to get through, and I am a bit older but I am still very wary of letting people in. It would be a very special man that I let into our lives. So I know that I may end up alone and I sometimes wonder what I can do about it but I still believe I am doing the right thing.
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