I can sum this up in two ways. Yes, good honest men exist and finding them takes time. By time I mean it can take a course of years, but at the end of the day you will reap the rewards for your patience. I have been single for awhile, but I am going on with life. I'm not looking and have become selective as well. Good luck to ya.
Kids are resilient so they tend to bounce back. Considering how well mannered they are you should be glad that what you do to them hasn't scarred them.
If you have the good fortune of having and knowing any animal you will realize that the each have their own personalities and therefore they have a soul. They are true with their feelings which is more than can be said for most humans. We could learn from them if we don't look down on their existence.
First don't try to grow up too fast, there is always time to be an adult. Go to and finish college. Don't get serious about anyone when you are young. If you want to get married wait until you have done all you can. Be certain about having children of your own. If you neither get married or have children, remember that I don't have to be a great-grandmother. Listen better to this advice then your parents did.
My make-up routine takes all of 10 minutes to apply and less time to take off. It takes practice to learn how to wear make-up to where you don't look like you have left your face in the bathroom when you take it off. I feel badly for those who still apply make-up like they used a putty knife.
Divorce won't produce over night results, but you will find that you can pick up the pieces and live again. Make your own routines without having to consult with anyone. Never wear your heart out on your sleeve. You will be setting yourself up for a disappointment. I never wonder if or when I will meet anyone else. The longer I am on my own the more comfortable I become in my own skin.
For the most part it would seem that we are to be avoided at all costs. I've been raising my granddaughter for almost 7 yrs. now and there has never been anyone in our lives. It has taken me almost 4 yrs. to convince her that I don't have to have anyone. Meeting someone who can think way outside the box is a tall order. You just have to ride the wave and see what happens.
I have been with those who were supposed to be compatible with my sign and that was a disaster and then those who were not and we are still friends. You can't go by what is written in the stars, only by what is in your heart.
It would sem that you fall into the same category that many of us are in. If we are judged by the way we look then it's by what we write in our profile. By today's standards you even the best people are overlooked whether you reach out or not. I feel your pain.
People tell me that they feel sorry for me becasue I will be alone for Xmas. I don't see myself as being alone when the granddaughter I am raising will be with me, we have 3 cats, and a dog here with us. If you lack any form of company try adopting a cat or perhaps a dog for Xmas. All of ours have been adopted at one time or another. You will both feel the joy of giving something to one another.
Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, being single works much the same way. Studies show that being in a relationship helps you live longer. This may be true, but how about those of us who wind up in bad relationships? I have had two nightmarish marriages that nearly killed me. Being single gives me freedom, I can be myself and live healthy. ALthough I am not counting out how a good relationship can enhance your life. I just attract the wrong men, but I don't become attached to anyone making it easy to step back.
I started on here because my granddaughter wanted me to meet someone. I am more interested in making friends, but if things are right that can become something more. The problem is that the friends I have made are so far away that all we can ever be is email pals. I would not trade them for any upgrades.
This is not intended to mean that I hold a higher opinion of myself, but I really don't care what others say or think about me. Not everyone is going to shine favorably on you and so what, think about what you do have to offer. Treat others with the same courtesy that you would like to receive and forget those who cannot appreciate it.
All I can say is wait until you marry someone. Sure it may all be buns and roses before you bite the dust and it will change before the ink has time to dry on the marriage license. You live and learn, that's when you learn to become patient. Hang in there all you have is time.
This may come as a surprise, but I don't checkout a guy's profile. I think way outside the box, so there isn't anyone who goes without a reply from me. This includes those from over seas even though we will never meet, we can become friends. If you read my profile you may not be interested in me. This happens a lot when guys read that I am raising a young granddaughter alone. How many at the age of 50ish or up want to entangle in that? I see your point, now take into account mine.
Not to make this sound like a put down, but when someone stops answering my emails suddenly I just let it go. For me that is closure. Personally if I were to keep trying after hearing nothing I would appear desperate. Why give someone that impression when the opposite is true?
If you allow yourself to invest time into someone who is not ready to return the feelings, why inflict pain on yourself? I find its usually better to follow what your head tells you. Step back and read the signs before going after what is unobtainable.
midnight_angel_1 Forum Posts (399)
RE: I need a good man Where are you?
I can sum this up in two ways. Yes, good honest men exist and finding them takes time. By time I mean it can take a course of years, but at the end of the day you will reap the rewards for your patience. I have been single for awhile, but I am going on with life. I'm not looking and have become selective as well. Good luck to ya.