I am not here to get dates. I just like the forums, some of the emails I get from those who just want to say hi. No pressure, no strings. It doesn't get any better than that.
After being divorced for almost 5 yrs. and raising my granddaughter alone I actually appreciate being where I am at. I live by my own rules, enjoy my own company, and having animals as family members doesn't hurt a thing. They have more compassion than most people who may have the chance to meet. I celebrate every day that I have and stay active at living.
In my experience I was glad to see my two sons go out into the world, but then a funny thing happened........... They came back and somehow they multiplied. LOL. My oldest son left me with his 18 month old daughter who is now 5 going on 21. My mother is happy now that I finally have a kid who is just like I was.
Perhaps stupid is a strong word. Clearly you are in need of having someone in your life, but to go to such lengths is ludicrous. If you cannot get with the program and move on then I would strongly suggest you invest your time and money into counseling. Honestly you have issues that can be sorted out that way.
In these times love has become pragmatic. Most of us go into it for different reasons, but not necessarily for romance or passion. Considering how many mixed families and new age families exist how else can it be?
In response to that, I don't wear make-up unless it is an important occasion, I wear jeans and sketchers, ordinary shirts, I have short hair and don't much care to impress anyone. If they don't like me they can bite me.
I have been there more than once to bail someone out, relay messages to a prisoner, but never as a detainee. I have gone toe to toe with a state trooper and a police lieutenant when they got up in my face. Neither wanted to take me in though. Maybe they were afraid I would take over.
Although my mom lives 700 miles north of me, have no siblings, and my two sons are busy with their lives I have my granddaughter here to be Santa for. I was good with that until my younger son's house burned to the ground last night. He lost all of his daughter's Xmas gifts and all he owned in the fire. I feel so sad for him as he worked so hard for what he has and doesn't have a home anymore. When he ran out of here last night telling me his house was on fire I was absolutely sick. I realize that others suffer more than I ever could over the holidays.
For me that answer is en easy one. I don't have a social life and even if I did I would not want to introduce them to my granddaughter. She gets hopeful that this would be the one and become attached to them. She still wants me to meet someone badly, but I like things as they are now. One day if someone should come along I will want to wait some time before introducing him to her. You can't be too careful these days and that is sad.
I suppose you are not being too picky when you consider that I like guys who are tall, have a job, their own place, likes kids, is not controlling, preferably bearded, neat, has more brains than God gave a piss ant and is not a redneck.
For the most part they are set in their ways and want someone who has no ties so that they are free to run with them. Even to find one as a friend is not the easiest thing to accomplish.
It would seem that if there was any chemistry to begin with it would not matter how long before you met someone. If you come out with a good friend, you still have gained something you did not have before.
midnight_angel_1 Forum Posts (399)
If I make friends then I have accomplished a lot. 
Much happiness to both of you.
RE: how many of you are considering leaving cs?
I am not here to get dates. I just like the forums, some of the emails I get from those who just want to say hi. No pressure, no strings. It doesn't get any better than that.