I have read that we may have past lives and with people we know now because of unresolved conflict. Some days I think that I must have been awful in a past life or lives and am paying for my mistakes now.
We all have our days when what seems humorous at the time may actually cause conflict by being taken out of context. I see no reason for hard feelings and maybe one day CS will pardon her.
I will still be growing up until I am laid to rest. My sons think they are older than I think I am. If I ever reach the point that growing old is my only option, I will let ya's know.
If being with someone means that they will drag me down with them then they will be on their own. I have spent the last few years climbing out of the hole my last ex put me into once I got away from him. The Sheriff's are looking for him now and if he were to come back around I would gladly hand him over in the name of self preservation.
We all need to maintain balance between the real world and the cyber world. Either way it goes, it takes time for anything to happen. With the cyber world you stand a better chance of meeting someone wonderful who you would not meet in your location. Go with the flow and something will happen in its own time.
It has been 5 years. I can't really say that he other person was a partner, but more like a chain tied around my neck. The longer I am alone, the more set my ways become.
I would agree with this, but there are people who are simply afraid that the person may not be all they are hoping for. Sometimes it's better to leave well enough alone/better safe than sorry. Some may think they are ready to begin a new relationship and their lifestyle from being alone may be interrupted by having to share their space. If they have been hurt the fear of trusting someone else comes into play. This does not make anyone an emotional cripple, they just need more time to heal. I have been told that all men are cut from the same cloth so why bother. The opinion from well meaning friends or family may convince them that they could be walking into an emotional trap. The variables are endless.
When you search, you never find what you wish for. Love can be a choice, but it's also motivated by chemistry. A person can love you and you won't feel the same because there is a lack of connection/chemistry. Not falling in love with someone because you feel an attraction to their photo or what they say is a choice. I personally choose not to get attached to anyone until we meet and there is time to see what they are about. From there it takes time to feel as if I am on solid ground before making a choice to allow my heart to take over.
Of course I am not interested in having something long enough that I have to stand 3' away from a guy, but I do need to have something long enough to be able to feel it. I mean I have been with some guys who were so short it was not worth the effort. Sad yet true.
No one can deny that a glock can do more harm than a dog, but with a child in the house I would not feel good about having a gun. She can play with the dog, not a gun. The dog is big enough that he never sleeps in our beds, but on his own comforter in the living room. A dog can hear the sound of an intruder and alert me where a gun stay silent unless it goes off. The dog is house broken and doesn't sniff anything, but his food. Consider this, by the time you are aware of an intruder and get the padlock undone you may have just enough time to say your prayers.
After being divorce for 5 yrs. now, I am happy. I can live my life as I choose, no drama, or the stress that went along with my marriages. I have 2 ex. husbands and neither was better than the other. I have not been in any relationships and one day that may change. The one thing that will not change is that I will not marry again. Why ruin a good friendship by getting married? As things are now, if it ain't broke, why fix it?
If you choose to live alone and you are single why shouldn't it be normal? Personally I don't play well with others, so living with someone or marrying them would be a disaster. I like my personal space.
That works for me. Since last week I have been shopping online and in the store for the things I and my granddaughter need. This seems to be the best thing for the blues. Online I get the better bargains.
midnight_angel_1 Forum Posts (399)
RE: so, who wants to complain?
I follow the "Serenity Prayer." Being single again keeps me from having to hear him complain. My grandmother didn't complain like that.