seperated = SINGLE.. period (74)

from what I have read gods view is that a man 'takes a woman to wife'. It dosen't say any thing about marraige which is a legal contract administed by a government.

more of my 2 cents.

AB

Ya i agree AB...
I brought God up because Optimistic is making it sounds like so many others are sinning and so immoral. I dont believe this to be the case for many people. Our society tells us that our countries use rules for marriage and divorce which is administered by our government. Our regulators put marital contracts in place...not God. Marriage laws, divorce etc are enforced by our courts.

As for me, when my marriage ended, we drew up a legal separation agreement first. This because we had to "wait" the required "time line" set by our government - 1yr apart before we could proceed with finalizing a divorce...this is not stated by God or the bible....our government put this into effect as far a i know. For me it took about 2 yrs to get my divorce finalized.

So back to the thread...while i was legally separated according to the law...not yet divorced because of the government process making you wait)...was i doing something wrong if i dated as a single person.. HECK NO

A religous debate should be a separate thread in my opinion.

Optimystic, you will noticed that I looked up your profile... Just curious since there is not much info in it: what do you stand for, what are your beliefs/wants? From another thread about looking at pictures before deciding to contact someone, I'd say you are a prime candidate to explain that a picture is not WHAT you are. I'd say you are a pretty lady, but based on your inputs in these forums, I'd walk away faster than a speeding bullet. There is DEFINITELY a compatibility issue here

Most "separated" people are opened about their status, who/what they are, what they want. Why not share with the rest on your profile?

There is nothing wrong with your opinion Optimystic. Everyone is entitled to have one. You and I and everybody else don't have to agree with those. However, we all are ENTITLED to freely express those opinions.

It becomes out of line when posters start to personally attack other members. There is no need for that.

I may not always agree with your opinion - and I sure don't on this topic; however, I am sure others share your opinion as well. A medal has two sides. I need to see both sides of the argument to make an informed decision.

So, to all who disagree with my opinion I say: Thanks for letting me seeing things from your side. As a result, I am better informed, and will still take the MOST appropriate decision based on MY beliefs of right/wrong.


Sylvain

You will note that both her and TT just quote others and make antagonistic remarks...that's because neither really have anything to say...they are not here to voice their opinion...or to share their views...they are here to stand in judgement of all who don't see things their way....

I will concede though, they both put some effort into it, because they actually have to log off the international and log back in to the Canadian site to have access to the Canada Forums...the international forum does not have access to both forums the way the Canadian site does...


..."...what some lack in intelligence..they make up for in ignorance...."...

Unnecessary and uncalled for.

Like reading these forums though.

It gives me an idea of what other people think of our situation - being separated, and whether I should pursue someone who disagrees with the idea.

A lot of things to re-learn about dating/entering into a new relationship after being in one for so long.

The test will be how well do we handle that new challenge in our lives.

I'll tell you right now Sylvain, the majority of people do not view "separated" people as "lepers"...

As with people of ALL status...you will either date them or you won't...and yes some will be because of them being "separated"..but some will also be because of height, weight, distance, divorcee, children, no children etc etc (I'm sure you get the point)...

I would almost be willing to bet money on the fact that if a person who formerly would not date a "separated" person, met the "right" person and they were separated, they would be willing to weather things out with them...love does not make the distinction between "separated" and "divorced" i can tell you that...

And there are alot of married people out there right now involved in "affairs" who will also tell you that "piece of paper" - legal as it was - made no difference

Personally,

I don't have a problem associating or even trying to court someone that is separated. I would venture that another person living this situation will likely have empathy for what I am going through.

There are ups and downs to this situation - some you can readily, others, unexpected.

If I am still going through this when the time comes for me to be in a relationship, I hope to have my partner's moral support in dealing with the issue - NOT judgement.

I file the info in my "social database" of factors that may affect any future relationship I may have.

Bottom line, marital status wouldn't affect my choice. I have an idea of the qualities I am looking for in a partner and if those qualities are present in a separated person, then my choice will be HAPPINESS over marital status. And an easy decision at that.

Sylvain

And Urs,

I REALLY hope so!

Otherwise, the prospects are bleak until I get that divorce

Sylvain