Is CS a private club???? ( Archived) (56)

I've been a forum member since the beginning.

Usually, folks reply to those who they disagree with or those who they are interested in.

They welcome newbies to be polite or to see if the new person might be interested in them.

It's an egocentric world here.

Egocentricity: is what it is...and not a surprise to be a driving force in this or any other linguistic interaction between people who are at or beyond the age of consent. It is supposed to be as such. However, this has nothing to do with the topic at hand.

I think maybe my point has been lost in the defense of the protocal and trends........

I am not speaking about someone starting a new thread.....because as has been clearly pointed out....a thread can die or be killed off for a number of fair and valid reasons.....

more specific I have noticed on-going dialogue about a topicor which started within a topic....which converts to "private" dialogue between folks.

A fictitious example.:


P-1, P-2, P-3: part of the "club" p-4 Not part of the "club"

P-1: Hey does anyone have a good joke
P-2: okay here is one....
dah dah dah dah
P-4: (non-club member)...hey that was a good one...I heard this one that is kinda the same...wanna hear it?
P-3: hey sally that is funny but your talkin' about last saturday.
P-1 well you were clearly not listening on saturday...cuz' that was not what jerome was sayin'
P-2: yeah...so?
P-4: did you guys want to hear my joke?
P-1: You know Jerome, you and Sally are both being rude!
P-2: whatever! So here Now you guys listen. This is my new joke....
P-3: no wait....listen to this first
P-4: So I guess nobody wants to hear my joke? It really is pretty funny
P-2: Just like you did the other day, your tryin' to get all the attention
P-1: What is up with you two? I can't believe your still talkin' about this
P-3: well I know what ya'll are talkin' about!
p-4: guess nobody want to hear my joke or even say hello...oh well...guess I will leave now....
p-2: you only think you know about what is whatever whatever
p-4: bye everyone....can I come back another time?
p-1: blah blah
p-3: blah blah
p-2: blah blah


I hope you get the picture now.

Now I could be way off base....if I am I apologize and welcome somebody telling me that I am off base.....

Further, I have only been around here for a couple of weeks...and maybe I am out of line for sticking my nose in where maybe it is not welcome........But in my always humble opinion, I seem to have noticed that this is often times, how P-4 above was treated is not uncommon......

for whatever it is worth.....
here I offer you my humble opinions and observations.

I'm inclined to agree with you, it does appear to be that way. It is always difficult to break into a social circle but I was under the impression this was a dating site. Am now of the opinion that it is more of a talking shop. Although I have had a few replies the impression one gets is that CS stands for Closed Shop, not Connecting Singles. That will open the debate up, or not as people will choose to ignore it.

Signed Devils Advocate

sOMETIMES PEOPLE JUST USE THIS TO MAIL EACH OTHER BACK AND FORTH AND SOMETIMES YOU JUST END UP ON THE OUTSIDE. IT HAPPENS A LOT. THERE ARE A COUPLE CLICKS IN HERE BUT FOR THE MOST PART EVERYONE THAT I HAVE MET HAVE BEEN VERY FRIENDLY AND OPEN, JUST GIVE IT A LITTLE TIME AND LET PEOPLE GET TO KNOW YA

dont know if i am reading this right or not but it never (with me anyways) means to be "private" if you have something to add then by all means say what it is you are goin say

yes some threads do endup in "Private" conservation but unless people let it trun that way then thats not what its meant to be

I rest my case so will reply to my own threads, at least I know I will get a reply. LOL

I UNDERSTAND WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM BUT AFTER PEOPLE GET TO KNOW YA IT BECOMES A LITTLE MORE FUN. THERE ARE SOME MATCH MAKING THREADS THAT COME AND GO AND HAVE SEEN MATCHES MADE FROM THIS SITE. JUST SEND OUT LOTS OF FLOWERS AND MESSAGES IF YOU DESIRE THE ONE ON ONE COMMUNICATION WITH SOME OF THESE LOVELY LADIES.

just jump into the threads


its kinda like when you go to a club in the real world sometimes people talk to everyone sometimes they only talk to those in the circle



hope you stick around though it can be fun and interesting

Ta, just like my profile says am the eternal optimist. Think will take up your suggestions and start my own 'somebody love me please thread'

THAT WILL GET YOU SOME ATTENTION. MAYBE NOT ALL GOOD. SOME PEOPLE WILL GIVE YOU A LITTLE RIBBING.