enya1234567890OPRedwood City, California USA115 posts
i met this guy from a diff site, and i really like him, but i told him i didn't want to kiss him on the first date (which he was cool with) but now i feel like i'm ready to kiss him, but i don't know how to tell him i want to kiss him. does anyone have any ideas? And how do we know it's real love, not lust or infatuation? -Andrea
Have to agree with the prof if its the first date its lust. but theres nothing wrong with a kiss you dont have to be inlove to kiss someone so lean in close and lay it on him
PanthersSpiritmiddlesex county, Massachusetts USA643 posts
Hmmm, approach him gently and give him a tender kiss...but the next time kiss him like he needed CPR!....I think you will figure out your emotions by then....
maybe take your time,so you can get to know each other sit down and talk to each other honestly and open find at where both of you want to go for sometimes one wants to go one way while the other wants to go another way
you have nothing to lose by taking it slow,but you have everything to lose when you rush somethings.do not rush into something that you later might regret.
always remember this if they are the right one,they will be willing to wait on you.they will not rush you into something you are not ready for.but they will be willing to take the time to know the person you are on the inside
if the kiss is meant to happen-the right moment will come. I think its a way you look at a guy with the eyes that lets him know its okay. As far as real love vs infatuation or lust-that will take a little more time. Every relationship feels good in the beginning, the first several dates but eventually you will see some flaws and you will either wonder why you thought love or it will just become more intense.
hi andrea,you never know when its real love till much later,initially there will be an attraction,play it cool best advice be honest tell him you want to kiss him and i'm sure he'll appreciate your honesty.
enya1234567890OPRedwood City, California USA115 posts
it was actually kinda funny, how he said he wanted to kiss me, but i told him i wanted to wait, and he emailed me back saying that kissing on a first date is kind of a stupid thing to do. but what i'm really trying to ask, i think is; what kind of moment would be a good one? should it be when i first see him next, or, eh, this hurts, thinking too much, ouuuuwwwch!lol. also, to clear up any confusion, i technically didn't meet him online. my friend met him online, went out with him once, and she said that she wanted to play matchmaker, and we all three agreed. (we just so happened to be signed up for the same site, lol). so before i ramble on and on, i'm going to stop talking and see what people say, lol. l8rz!
enya1234567890OPRedwood City, California USA115 posts
few ? u mean alcohol? ahem, nineteen year old girl abides by the law (for the most part, lol) and besides, i wouldn't want to get drunk with someone unless i knew 100% that they wouldn't try to do anything.
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And how do we know it's real love, not lust or infatuation?
-Andrea