Lonely and disappointed (103)
lovelyliza: Hello!!!Friends,
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
Sometimes...guys need their space.
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lovelyliza: Hello!!!Friends,
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
Well Lonely, I think in a sense, everyone has been in that situation regardless of the distance that may seperate them from their signifigant other. From my perspective, it could be something as simple as he may be feeling unsure with the relationship and possibly confused as to where it is going and whether it can sustain itself.
However, if those are the cases, then he needs to open up a line of communication and express the things that may be going on inside of him emotionally. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't worry too much, but I also wouldn't take it lightly either (which it seems you are not). If I was you, I could continue to keep those avenues of communication open with one another as long as you can possibly can handle it emotionally yourself, because in the end, you have to do what is best for you. If I was you, I would give him some space, but also try and find that fine line of also trying to contact him. I know it can be an emotional roller coaster in a situation as this, but in the end, that's all you can do is, try.
I guess there really is no real advice here except to try and find that fine line of giving him some space & also showing him you care. Wish you the very best because it really seems like you care about him very much, and if that is the case, then he is a fool to act like this.
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lovelyliza: Hello!!!Friends,
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
Maybe he feels you took him for granted...WHO KNOWS..maybe he had an emergency.
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Maybe nothing....give it a little time - diba? If he is worth having he will talk to you 
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Any relationship should be taken slow for it to grow fully,whether it be online or someone from your area.You will have ups and downs,long distance makes it harder because you can't see and touch that person as much,just give him some space,if its meant to be he will get in touch with you.Communication is the key in any relationship,in understanding your partners feelings,and space at times...no one wants a clinging vine,good luck,i wish you the best.
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Ps,airing a relationship on a forum about another cs member might not be the best thing,he might be very unhappy with you when he reads this thread.
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Ps,airing a relationship on a forum about another cs member might not be the best thing,he might be very unhappy with you when he reads this thread.
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lovelyliza: Hello!!!Friends,
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
Ask him - not us. Why speculate?
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lovelyliza: Hello!!!Friends,
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...
One set back do sent tell the all story...
To promise you something...Is out of my control because I can not foresee the future...
But because I love you...I will do anything for me and you...
To make sure your are with me...I will de sell you with things that you can only dream about...I will post things that will hit
you at the point of no return...And when you are there I will
post to you something that will keep you there...
If he is avoiding you...then you don't need my advice...
Haw a good look at your self in a mirror...there is only one thing that is a conclusion...And that is that you are so nice...
And him is got Boban problems...
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Maybe he has died ,,
like you said ,he did email to say he was kinda sick ....
like you said ,he did email to say he was kinda sick ....
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jonnt: Maybe he has died ,,
like you said ,he did email to say he was kinda sick ....
like you said ,he did email to say he was kinda sick ....
That's kinda in bad taste!
LL, I would take JSuburbia's advice. Just give him a little space, then when you get a chance to speak to him, ask him what he's thinking.... 
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leostartingover: That's kinda in bad taste! LL, I would take JSuburbia's advice. Just give him a little space, then when you get a chance to speak to him, ask him what he's thinking.... Don't jump to any conclusions yet!
Thats humour that comes out of Liverpool u.k
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give it time Liza. 
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To THEWALL,
Thanks!!for the advice,,.Now i know what to do..I have to focus in myself with my education, and doing the things that I love...
TY my friend.. I know I can count on you for an honest opinion...
Liza
Thanks!!for the advice,,.Now i know what to do..I have to focus in myself with my education, and doing the things that I love...
TY my friend.. I know I can count on you for an honest opinion...
Liza
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JSuburbia: Well Lonely, I think in a sense, everyone has been in that situation regardless of the distance that may seperate them from their signifigant other. From my perspective, it could be something as simple as he may be feeling unsure with the relationship and possibly confused as to where it is going and whether it can sustain itself.
However, if those are the cases, then he needs to open up a line of communication and express the things that may be going on inside of him emotionally. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't worry too much, but I also wouldn't take it lightly either (which it seems you are not). If I was you, I could continue to keep those avenues of communication open with one another as long as you can possibly can handle it emotionally yourself, because in the end, you have to do what is best for you. If I was you, I would give him some space, but also try and find that fine line of also trying to contact him. I know it can be an emotional roller coaster in a situation as this, but in the end, that's all you can do is, try.
I guess there really is no real advice here except to try and find that fine line of giving him some space & also showing him you care. Wish you the very best because it really seems like you care about him very much, and if that is the case, then he is a fool to act like this.
However, if those are the cases, then he needs to open up a line of communication and express the things that may be going on inside of him emotionally. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't worry too much, but I also wouldn't take it lightly either (which it seems you are not). If I was you, I could continue to keep those avenues of communication open with one another as long as you can possibly can handle it emotionally yourself, because in the end, you have to do what is best for you. If I was you, I would give him some space, but also try and find that fine line of also trying to contact him. I know it can be an emotional roller coaster in a situation as this, but in the end, that's all you can do is, try.
I guess there really is no real advice here except to try and find that fine line of giving him some space & also showing him you care. Wish you the very best because it really seems like you care about him very much, and if that is the case, then he is a fool to act like this.
T JSURBIA,
Wow!! really appreciate an effort to write me an advice..coming from you guys I will take it heart for the matter...even my job is in counseling/social work, I'm just human beings that need someone's opinion...Ty.
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thewall2: Maybe he feels you took him for granted...WHO KNOWS..maybe he had an emergency.
TO THEWALL,
wHO KNOWS!!!! what guys are thinking...or vice-versa...
TY...
now, I feel ok now and feel like dancing...he,he,he,that's what I do every morning before I start the day...play my ballroom dancing, salsa,and karaoke songs..have a good day!!!------ This thread is Archived ------
NCC1968: Maybe nothing....give it a little time - diba? If he is worth having he will talk to you
To NCC1968,
Thanks!!!for the comfort that you sent...It's very reasssuring in my part that you guys can be a real pals, in a world of cyber communication...I will do that..
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When I hear about situations like this, it makes me think of a quote by Neil Gaiman:
“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defences, you build up a whole suit of armour, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life... You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”
Love is like a roller coaster but we always want to ride again.
“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defences, you build up a whole suit of armour, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life... You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”
Love is like a roller coaster but we always want to ride again.
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demonfairy: Ps,airing a relationship on a forum about another cs member might not be the best thing,he might be very unhappy with you when he reads this thread.
To DF,
First of all let me say to you,,,GOOD TO SEE YOU AGAIN!!!..I know the consequences but somehow, I have to gamble...Everything in life takes courage...So, for my situation right now!!!...I look at this way..when I take love and relationship, I take it to heart..i don't have time to play games cuz I am not a kid anymore, and so do ppl in here..If, HE does happened to read my "pity me" forum/blog, either He gets mad at me and don't write nor call me. I just take it as a stride in my life it's not the end of the world for me..As the saying says"ONE DOOR CLOSE AND ANOTHER DOOR WILL OPEN"..I thank God that He gives ME this positive attitude outlook in life...::cheering: :
TY for your heartfelt advice..
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I know that You guys out their have different perspectives of what's going on with a relationships when it become a sourgrapes..Well,,I was dating this guy that I found here in CS, when I was just new...We been seeing each other every week for 7 months even it seems like a distance is keeping Us apart..but he would faithfully calls me, emails me, and now, I feel like he keep distant to me..He emailed me yesterday saying that he was sick...But he promised to me that he would come thursday (11/04/10)to be with me...then I don't hear from him today, even I called him 2x and sent email...
I need your advice, especially coming from the guy's point of view.. we've been talking about lots of things suchas; going on vacation to the Philippines, or living together, then all of a sudden I felt the wind get shifted.. Lonely and cold in PA...