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matabacLansing, USA11 Threads 22 PostsI have been around with people had arranged marriage in their country. You will supprise that these marriages last longer than today's "personal decision" marriage. Who support arranged marriage and who doesn't and why?
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no arranged marriage, don't want to be forced into anythin g with anyone. and they stay together because they have it was arranged after all.
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My Mother made me wear strange looking clothes when I was a kid. I sure as heck wouldn't want her picking out my husband!
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i'd much rather make my own mistakes thank you and i have three times,lol
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why not,I dont seem to be doing any better on my own...lol
am having a hot flash,mother pick a hubby for me,NEVER,
am having a hot flash,mother pick a hubby for me,NEVER,
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This "fact" (arranged marriages last longer than chosen marriages) has been bandied around by fundamentalist groups (of all denominations) since I was a child.
I remember a Muslim man coming to my primary (grade) school and telling us about the advantages of arrange marriages and multiple wives ... how there was no social security so a man who could afford to provide for more than one wife would take multiple wives.
What he didn't do was bring his wife or wives along to varify the fact that they were in wedded bliss because their parents had chosen (if they had chosen) her powerful husband for her.
The "statistics" do not take into account that a woman my be murdered by her own brothers and father if she objects to her arranged partner. And this has happened (called "honor killing") even in secular countries such as Australia. Imagine how brave a woman would have to be to ask for a divorce from an arranged marriage.
I remember a Muslim man coming to my primary (grade) school and telling us about the advantages of arrange marriages and multiple wives ... how there was no social security so a man who could afford to provide for more than one wife would take multiple wives.
What he didn't do was bring his wife or wives along to varify the fact that they were in wedded bliss because their parents had chosen (if they had chosen) her powerful husband for her.
The "statistics" do not take into account that a woman my be murdered by her own brothers and father if she objects to her arranged partner. And this has happened (called "honor killing") even in secular countries such as Australia. Imagine how brave a woman would have to be to ask for a divorce from an arranged marriage.
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I can assume that many arranged marriages have many problems, but the parties do not have courage to speak them because of fear from outside. However, I believe they are some arranged marriages who have found themselves a "perfect" match, and they are happy of whoever made decision for them to be together. Everything has both pro and cons!
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I am with you Jacki. no parents choosing my role. My mother would have being gay and my father well that is another story altogether.
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I am with you Jacki. no parents choosing my role. My mother would have being gay and my father well that is another story altogether.
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-One more try before I let this one slide into the depths of oblivion ... of course no one may have anything to add, subtract or devide this one about.
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I believe in arranged marriages for a price!
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Way to go dark ...maybe you are not so dark after all!
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Arranged marriage.
Well if you know nothing about what love is, it could work, you wouldn't know if you could be happier with someone else.
How about unarranging marriages? I've seen people get married to awful people that you knew would never last.
I think if your friends say it's a bad idea and your parents and sibblings too, then you should listen.
I was thinking if you allowed your parents to pick your future partner you should be aware that they are looking for the ideal that they want for the person they wish you to be as opposed to the person you are.
There is a radio station here that every three years, get two strangers married, so far the two marriages they have arranged have stayed together and one couple have children and claim to be happy, but then the station did their best to match the two people over a quite a few weeks, had them analyzed ect.
They also talked to the families and exes and friends, I'm looking forward to next years actually.
Well if you know nothing about what love is, it could work, you wouldn't know if you could be happier with someone else.
How about unarranging marriages? I've seen people get married to awful people that you knew would never last.
I think if your friends say it's a bad idea and your parents and sibblings too, then you should listen.
I was thinking if you allowed your parents to pick your future partner you should be aware that they are looking for the ideal that they want for the person they wish you to be as opposed to the person you are.
There is a radio station here that every three years, get two strangers married, so far the two marriages they have arranged have stayed together and one couple have children and claim to be happy, but then the station did their best to match the two people over a quite a few weeks, had them analyzed ect.
They also talked to the families and exes and friends, I'm looking forward to next years actually.
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