Etiquette regarding Gift for Christmas (22)
JO2010: I have a 8 month old baby and when he was 4 months old my ex-fiance moved in with another woman. She visited at his mom's place a week before I arrived for a holiday and left me a cake which she had specially baked for me with flowers on and the works.
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
My suggestion would be , bring them both a present ,stay as short as you can, and smile ,even if you feel like taking their head off ...
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JO2010: I have a 8 month old baby and when he was 4 months old my ex-fiance moved in with another woman. She visited at his mom's place a week before I arrived for a holiday and left me a cake which she had specially baked for me with flowers on and the works.
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
I know the feeling...have to spend boxing day with my sons fathers family..arrghh
I would suggest something small but effective. A christmas cake sounds lovely...im going for the bottles of wine as gifts
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Now if everyone would just have the sense to be a grumpy old t*sser like me, you'd never have any of these problems of visiting people, or buying gifts for people you don't like.
What a load of humbug.
What a load of humbug.
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jac379: Now if everyone would just have the sense to be a grumpy old t*sser like me, you'd never have any of these problems of visiting people, or buying gifts for people you don't like.
What a load of humbug.
What a load of humbug.
no social graces..
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Boban1: My suggestion would be , bring them both a present ,stay as short as you can, and smile ,even if you feel like taking their head off ...
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plainlyjune: in the spirit of Christmas of course
well starting to have some kind of good communication with the ex`s ,for the sake of the children ,is good ... in my opinion
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cherrybrandy: no social graces.. i do that sometimes..
i've just been reprimanded for not saying thank you enough. how many thank yous does it take to show gratitude? i dont have any courtesy at all. 
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Boban1: well starting to have some kind of good communication with the ex`s ,for the sake of the children ,is good ... in my opinion
yep, bury the hatchet... somewhere
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JO2010: I have a 8 month old baby and when he was 4 months old my ex-fiance moved in with another woman. She visited at his mom's place a week before I arrived for a holiday and left me a cake which she had specially baked for me with flowers on and the works.
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
At whose place (whose home)are you spending Xmas eve? If at place other than your own house then I would give the host/hostess a small gift. Under no circumstances are you obligated to return the gesture of gift to her and your ex. Stay for half an hour say "baby is tired, has been a long day and need to put baby to bed" and then leave. OR totally beg off going at all. If ex entitled to "visit" son during holidays make sure you follow the letter of the law.
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What the hell are you doing that for? Listen as you embark on your life as a single parent, you had best set boundaries right now. Be civil to your ex for the sake of the baby but thats it. I wouldnt put myself in that position for all the tea in China for heavens sake! 
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Boban1: My suggestion would be , bring them both a present ,stay as short as you can, and smile ,even if you feel like taking their head off ...
I wouldn't take an individual gift for both, but more so a gift for both.
Personally, and this is just me, I wouldn't have inserted myself into that situation, but if I had, I would just make it a joint gift.
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JO2010: I have a 8 month old baby and when he was 4 months old my ex-fiance moved in with another woman. She visited at his mom's place a week before I arrived for a holiday and left me a cake which she had specially baked for me with flowers on and the works.
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
I'd bake some cookies or buy a cookie platter for the occasion, leave out the ex-lax and arsenic...tis the Season! Good luck, I honestly do not envy you this situation at all..
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JO2010: I have a 8 month old baby and when he was 4 months old my ex-fiance moved in with another woman. She visited at his mom's place a week before I arrived for a holiday and left me a cake which she had specially baked for me with flowers on and the works.
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
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Sorry about the last post, clicked before I got my reply down 
It would all depend on the actual circumstances of your present relationship of these people, it almost sounds as you think you are obligated to attend in the first place and are not on very friendly terms with some or all of them, but if you must go take a small gift for whoever you wish and excuse yourself early and get out of Dodge and go somewhere where you feel more comfortable so you can enjoy the evening...JMO Good Luck
It would all depend on the actual circumstances of your present relationship of these people, it almost sounds as you think you are obligated to attend in the first place and are not on very friendly terms with some or all of them, but if you must go take a small gift for whoever you wish and excuse yourself early and get out of Dodge and go somewhere where you feel more comfortable so you can enjoy the evening...JMO Good Luck
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Christmas1: At whose place (whose home)are you spending Xmas eve? If at place other than your own house then I would give the host/hostess a small gift. Under no circumstances are you obligated to return the gesture of gift to her and your ex. Stay for half an hour say "baby is tired, has been a long day and need to put baby to bed" and then leave. OR totally beg off going at all. If ex entitled to "visit" son during holidays make sure you follow the letter of the law.
I agree with a host/hostess gift.
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JO2010: I have a 8 month old baby and when he was 4 months old my ex-fiance moved in with another woman. She visited at his mom's place a week before I arrived for a holiday and left me a cake which she had specially baked for me with flowers on and the works.
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?
Hmmm, maybe you can behave like a perfect lady, bring her a cake, and bring a better man with you. And, if the girl hits on the other man, she'll annoy your ex.
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It's the holidays and your baby is very young yet. This woman may marry your ex, she may be in his life forever. You may want to get along with her right from the beginning for the sake of your little baby.
It looks like she is trying to extend the olive branch to you, so smile and accept her graciously. Bring a plant, food or wine would all be perfect I think.
It looks like she is trying to extend the olive branch to you, so smile and accept her graciously. Bring a plant, food or wine would all be perfect I think.
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Thank you so much for all the replies.
To give a bit more information, the only reason I got myself into this situation is for the sake of my son. My son's grandfather is the host and his aunt will be there as well so they would really like to spend his first Christmas with him. If it wasn't for that I wouldn't be going. My ex fiance never wanted our baby and wanted me to abort but I refused so he then told me I'm on my own and to expect nothing from him. He helps us in no way, shape or form but since the girlfriend has arrived on the scene he pretends to care about his son but it's only words. He's threatened to destroy me professionally and emotionally until I am so traumatized I'll commit suicide if I dare take him to court for maintenance so daddy is a real gem.
To give a bit more information, the only reason I got myself into this situation is for the sake of my son. My son's grandfather is the host and his aunt will be there as well so they would really like to spend his first Christmas with him. If it wasn't for that I wouldn't be going. My ex fiance never wanted our baby and wanted me to abort but I refused so he then told me I'm on my own and to expect nothing from him. He helps us in no way, shape or form but since the girlfriend has arrived on the scene he pretends to care about his son but it's only words. He's threatened to destroy me professionally and emotionally until I am so traumatized I'll commit suicide if I dare take him to court for maintenance so daddy is a real gem.
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Now I'm spending Christmas Eve with my ex-fiance, his girlfriend and his dad although I'd rather have my toe-nails removed. Do I need to take her a gift? Any suggestions? Perhaps a cake with flowers on? Oh, and do I need to take my ex-fiance a gift as well? Perhaps a ticking gift?