Retirement ( Archived) (80)

I agree with you I wonder how I found the time to work

I am working and don't expect to retire for quite some time. I dated a man my age who was already retired. It was wonderful! He didn't have to jump into the rat race every day - could see things from a different perspective than I did, and I appreciated that. Not to mention he had time and was able to help me when I needed it most. Honestly, it's not about whether you are retired or not. We all struggle to find the right person.

Being retired or having children (another thread I saw) may redefine the selection process a bit, but are honestly not a deterrent to finding someone.

Just my thoughts...

I don't treat any one any different. No matter their background health or anything. I only give respect until it is not deserved. I know many people in those categories and they are no different than me or anyone else.

you seem to assume quite alot, I am also disabled and your opinion is totaly wrong. Some people are best keeping their opinions to themselves until they have some idea what they are talking about.

Exactly. You can't judge a book by it's cover and neither should you judge a person on looks or just a few words in a profile.

Thanks.

First off, I am not single. Secondly, I have been manipulated by men who try to paint themselves as fit and active when they have allkinds of l imitations. People should be honest. Up front and honest. Why is that a bad thing. I am not judging anything but the use of dishonesty in trying to meet someone. What about all the people in this world who won't date someone because they are too tall or too short, too fat or too thin, too young or too old? Where does it end? You must date someone, you must give them a chance even though you know they are not right for you? And if you don't you are a pig with problems? How many women do you get to know, take time to date and make them a part of your life even though they are not your type and do not fit into your life, just because think you should? And btw, how many disabled women have you dated? But the real issue here is lying. How many woman have you dated who told you they were average weight online and when you met them you found they were obese? It is the same thing: saying you are one thing when you are in reality another.

I am thinking you should not have answered in this thread. and the reason is You are not single. You being married/ltr/whatever has clouded your judgment. Yes there are lots of people who judge based on looks but that is the nature of things. I have dated a couple of larger women and am not against it. the same for height and adnauseum.

The problem is that we have certain views of our selves and want someone to compliment us. I'm not saying a 3 or 6 foot person or any other body type would not it's just a mater of getting to know them.

I'm sure there are lots of women who think that me being 5'7" and 200-210 lbs is obese. but I'll take a kind woman who is the same body type as me over some bean pole girl who is high maintenance any day.

I understand that you are just trying to get your point across about honesty, however, I think that you could have done that without being so hurtful.....
If someone lies on their profile, for whatever reason, they will be found out. Lies always have a way of turning back on itself...so, I am asking you to PLEASE, just lay off...