How to get a man to truly open up! (51)
Billy6456Wonthaggi, Victoria Australia3 Threads 2,069 Postssxc666: You boys really need to get laid.....
uh huh
akaRALF: Such a delicate little wallflower you are.
See you see it Ralph 
Billy6456: uh huh
I can sort you out with a simulator. 
I know it just isn't the same but beggars can't be choosers. 
In response to: Hi there, I was just wondering how I would go about getting a man to open up and not be so shy around me. The Situation: I've been dating a guy for almost 4 months now, he seems to open up more in txt messaging more then he does when we are actually together. . . He seems all romantic and even says he loves me over txt and phone conversation but in person he is just so shy and I have no idea why. . . He's 23 never had a relationship let alone a woman who cares about him before so maybe this could be inputting it. . . Any ideas or suggestions on what do to do as I don't wanna lose this fella...??
anyway I'd get him to open up by spreading his legs personally.akaRALF: I can sort you out with a simulator. I know it just isn't the same but beggars can't be choosers.
have a couple of drinks, play some video games and go to the footy with him, if this doesn't work, ask him the big question, but remember this commitment question has made older men run the other direction many times before so be prepared for a bit of running to chase him down and lassoo him, tie his legs up and then go for it, he should open up then.
normalguy68: have a couple of drinks, play some video games and go to the footy with him, if this doesn't work, ask him the big question, but remember this commitment question has made older men run the other direction many times before so be prepared for a bit of running to chase him down and lassoo him, tie his legs up and then go for it, he should open up then.
WOW!!!...that's great advice 'Norm'...I think I can see myself turning!!!!
Billy6456: WOW!!!...that's great advice 'Norm'...I think I can see myself turning!!!!
See, told you I was getting worried about you.It's almost like he's a caveman or "Adam" from Adam & Eve, he wouldn't have a clue how to respond to things, everything is new to him. . . Like me making every move, like holding his hand, kissing him,hugging etc. I thought he would tell me how he feels, like if im doing something he doesn't seem to pull away but he hasn't returned anything yet so maybe he's too afraid to tell me what he likes and doesn't like, we've been together for almost 4 month and i felt right well it's time to tell him i love him so far so good as he hasn't runaway so im guessing he feels the same, I dunno. But he still hasn't said anything back yet not even an "I love you", back, so yeah I have absolutely no idea what's goin on in this fella's head, its confusing me and I dont know what to do about it, like people keep saying kick him to the kerb but my heart says stay and give him a chance because I can teach him things, seeing as he is new to the whole having a girlfriend/being in a reltionship. He a very hard case to crack
StephyBear91: It's almost like he's a caveman or "Adam" from Adam & Eve, he wouldn't have a clue how to respond to things, everything is new to him. . . Like me making every move, like holding his hand, kissing him,hugging etc. I thought he would tell me how he feels, like if im doing something he doesn't seem to pull away but he hasn't returned anything yet so maybe he's too afraid to tell me what he likes and doesn't like, we've been together for almost 4 month and i felt right well it's time to tell him i love him so far so good as he hasn't runaway so im guessing he feels the same, I dunno. But he still hasn't said anything back yet not even an "I love you", back, so yeah I have absolutely no idea what's goin on in this fella's head, its confusing me and I dont know what to do about it, like people keep saying kick him to the kerb but my heart says stay and give him a chance because I can teach him things, seeing as he is new to the whole having a girlfriend/being in a reltionship. He a very hard case to crack
Gawd you hope he dont stumble on this thread..then he will really rip and tell you what his feeling..
StephyBear91: Dont worry Ive already told him what i feel and all he says is he doesn't wanna lose me
Thats a start..good luck sweetie..
StephyBear91: You all have great advice guys, maybe you all should have been Marriage & Relationship councellors
I'll give you some advice..............Please don't listen to us 
StephyBear91: Dont worry Ive already told him what i feel and all he says is he doesn't wanna lose me
I know that I can be a bit 'harsh' in the old relationship game, but have you considered that the man hasnt said 'I love you' because he doesnt actually love you
Of course he doesnt want to loose you!!! He has an incredibly attractive woman, who loves him hanging off his arm, not to mention you are putting up with the whole 'Im some sort of emotional recluse' routine.. in all honesty he's likely clinging to you like ivy to an outhouse door.... but it still doesnt mean that he wants a relationship, or that he is in love.
Bit of advice, because we women are really good at doing this, myself included - dont project your feelings onto him. If you love him thats fine, but it doesnt mean that he feels the same way, or the same intensity towards you. Our feelings are not someone elses feelings.
I hope it works out for youShell225: I know that I can be a bit 'harsh' in the old relationship game, but have you considered that the man hasnt said 'I love you' because he doesnt actually love you
Of course he doesnt want to loose you!!! He has an incredibly attractive woman, who loves him hanging off his arm, not to mention you are putting up with the whole 'Im some sort of emotional recluse' routine.. in all honesty he's likely clinging to you like ivy to an outhouse door.... but it still doesnt mean that he wants a relationship, or that he is in love.
Bit of advice, because we women are really good at doing this, myself included - dont project your feelings onto him. If you love him thats fine, but it doesnt mean that he feels the same way, or the same intensity towards you. Our feelings are not someone elses feelings.
I hope it works out for you
Of course he doesnt want to loose you!!! He has an incredibly attractive woman, who loves him hanging off his arm, not to mention you are putting up with the whole 'Im some sort of emotional recluse' routine.. in all honesty he's likely clinging to you like ivy to an outhouse door.... but it still doesnt mean that he wants a relationship, or that he is in love.
Bit of advice, because we women are really good at doing this, myself included - dont project your feelings onto him. If you love him thats fine, but it doesnt mean that he feels the same way, or the same intensity towards you. Our feelings are not someone elses feelings.
I hope it works out for you
Shell has a good point, I was going out with a man last year, we liked being together, and the instinct between us was good. But as long as I was making all the effort it was good. But it got to the stage that the only time I saw him was when I went to his place, the only time I had a phone call was when I rang him.
I decided that ok, next time we have contact it had to be his effort, as things cannot be one sided all the time.
Evidently because I wouldnt jump into bed with him (because I wasnt sure where I stood) I wasnt worth the effort.
So I walked away before it screwed with my emotions any longer.
So I guess what I am saying is dont allow yourself to be locked into a non responsive box, it is emotionally damaging, confusing and hurtful.
Try by all means but it maybe the case that it might be you walking away that works out how he feels, and if not, well you will hurt but you will be stronger for it.
sorta damned if you do and damned if you dont
good luck
Maybe you're right shelly, maybe he doesn't love me at all and its probably time i kicked him to the kerb, its so hard to let go of a man you love so dearly, i just dont know where i stand with him, he said he loves me over the phone and in txt but when it comes to being with me in person, he wont say a word and when i say it too him, all he can do is put his head on my should and shrug and say ahuh
sxc666: I'll give you some advice..............Please don't listen to us
what she said ^^^^^^^^^
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