How to get a man to truly open up! (51)
StephyBear91Wondecla, Queensland Australia2 Threads 17 PostsHi there, I was just wondering how I would go about getting a man to open up and not be so shy around me. The Situation: I've been dating a guy for almost 4 months now, he seems to open up more in txt messaging more then he does when we are actually together. . . He seems all romantic and even says he loves me over txt and phone conversation but in person he is just so shy and I have no idea why. . . He's 23 never had a relationship let alone a woman who cares about him before so maybe this could be inputting it. . . Any ideas or suggestions on what do to do as I don't wanna lose this fella...??
StephyBear91: Hi there, I was just wondering how I would go about getting a man to open up and not be so shy around me. The Situation: I've been dating a guy for almost 4 months now, he seems to open up more in txt messaging more then he does when we are actually together. . . He seems all romantic and even says he loves me over txt and phone conversation but in person he is just so shy and I have no idea why. . . He's 23 never had a relationship let alone a woman who cares about him before so maybe this could be inputting it. . . Any ideas or suggestions on what do to do as I don't wanna lose this fella...??
A BIG CAN OPENER
Im still trying to figgure them out !!
Good luck
Good luck
The good thing about him is he's not like your normal "typical male", he's so much different and I love him for it, I just wish I could figure him out, he's such a mystery, Like I make the moves, just wish he would try doing the same back like I would appreciate it if he hugged me or kissed me every once in a while but nah he doesn't
StephyBear91: The good thing about him is he's not like your normal "typical male", he's so much different and I love him for it, I just wish I could figure him out, he's such a mystery, Like I make the moves, just wish he would try doing the same back like I would appreciate it if he hugged me or kissed me every once in a while but nah he doesn't
maybe as he is comfortable talking and being responsive on the phone, try talking about it to him there.
On the phone he obviously feels that it is a lot easier to be demonstrative.
talk to him about how you are feeling, he may just not be comfortable in making the moves, not that he doesnt want too.
but if you dont tell him, he wont know that you are finding it difficult
JMO
yeah but seeing as im him very first girlfriend i don't wanna put pressure on him, like even I'm finding it hard to make moves, like ok I've been in relatioships but they've never turned out, I finally feel like this is "the relationship", I dont wanna let this one go... I'm finding it hard to express how i feel to him, considering everything is new too him
StephyBear91: yeah but seeing as im him very first girlfriend i don't wanna put pressure on him, like even I'm finding it hard to make moves, like ok I've been in relatioships but they've never turned out, I finally feel like this is "the relationship", I dont wanna let this one go... I'm finding it hard to express how i feel to him, considering everything is new too him
Just take you time and things will run their cause. Some men take a long time to express their feelings there could be a underling reason why he is lke this. Just keep on trying to talk to him about it. But dont push too hard as he might give up.
If he is affectionat on the phone and other place grab all you can to tide you over.
GMO
I would recommend talking to him in the dark. My ex and I used to have great d & m's in the middle of the night.
I do wanna tell my man how i really feel, just one thing because I'm his first ever girlfriend, he's never been kissed or touch, he's never had someone who cares about him and loves him so I'm umming and R'ing about everything cuz i dont know how he'll react
StephyBear91: Hi there, I was just wondering how I would go about getting a man to open up and not be so shy around me. The Situation: I've been dating a guy for almost 4 months now, he seems to open up more in txt messaging more then he does when we are actually together. . . He seems all romantic and even says he loves me over txt and phone conversation but in person he is just so shy and I have no idea why. . . He's 23 never had a relationship let alone a woman who cares about him before so maybe this could be inputting it. . . Any ideas or suggestions on what do to do as I don't wanna lose this fella...??
Tried an axe?
Generally I've found that if 'we' share our feelings most people will reciprocate by sharing 'their' feelings. So one question that comes to mind is .... are you being open and honest with how you feel. Are you freely saying - 'I really enjoy your company', 'Im so excited to see you', 'its great when we spend time together'??? Because if you arent then you're not giving him a chance to say the stuff he may want to share.
Of course Im actually a cynical cow, so in my deepest heart, I'd really say that he's quiet because he has NOTHING to say - yep thats it - he's probably not mysterious - he's more likely just an empty vessel..
Its a little known fact, but sadly its very true, that when you ask a man what he is thinking and he replies 'nothing'. He actually has been sitting there for the past hour and a half thinking n o t h i n g
As for men who say that they've never had a relationship with a woman, I always feel so sad for their mums...
Of course Im actually a cynical cow, so in my deepest heart, I'd really say that he's quiet because he has NOTHING to say - yep thats it - he's probably not mysterious - he's more likely just an empty vessel..
Its a little known fact, but sadly its very true, that when you ask a man what he is thinking and he replies 'nothing'. He actually has been sitting there for the past hour and a half thinking n o t h i n g
As for men who say that they've never had a relationship with a woman, I always feel so sad for their mums...
akaRALF: I would recommend talking to him in the dark. My ex and I used to have great d & m's in the middle of the night.
Ye nothin like it with the lights out.StephyBear91: So you reckon all he needs is a good root and he'll be right to go then aye?? Typical males in here I dunno
Yep..
some people like myself are just introverts and can't change that.
If he doesn't come good!!..sit on his face and tell him to take a good hard look at himself!!!
Billy6456: If he doesn't come good!!..sit on his face and tell him to take a good hard look at himself!!!
Nothing beats a good facial..
and dont forget to peddle his ears..You boys really need to get laid.....
sxc666: some people like myself are just introverts and can't change that.
Such a delicate little wallflower you are.
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