Just the way I am... ( Archived) (9)

Hello there)....Wanna share some thoughts...
I have never had long term relations..cos we were always been far away at the end and for guys its difficult such kind of relations..
But guys who are really want serious relations wanna live together..after 1-2 weeks...for me its hard as i have never tried and to say the truth cant imagine as i have never had a father...
I dont know how to live with a man in 1 flat 24 hrs every day...I even cant spend 2 days at the same space with a man..
So I am scared...even more I scared of myself thinking like why when i meet a nice guy who loves me wanna do everything for me...i can't feel the same...I am afraid to loose myself,that I wont be able meet with most my friends( all of them are males)...Wont be able have fun and feel free..I am always like dis..when i meet guys who want family with me,love me...i dont have same feelings and afraid...when i love smbd he doesnt want or smth like that....I am always afraid that maybe this person next to me not this special and right ..and being with him means i wont be able to meet my real soul mate...

Hi,
Dont worry when it's right you will know it so dont rush it. If it doesnt feel right it's probaly not.

First of all, I would never move in with someone after one or two weeks, so don't think that you have a problem of any sort! That idea is ridiculous, in my opinion. After one week, how do you even know anything about each other? This is just the very beginning of learning about each other.
As for the rest of what you wrote, I would just say that you will know it when you feel it. You won't have to second-guess and wonder; you'll KNOW and it will feel right and special and all that it should be. Until you feel this way, carry on with your head held high.

Thanx...but I am already 23....quite old...should have a family...as i dont wanna born a baby in older age...I am afraid if i wont marry now I will not do it never ever...as I am like a lonely wolf..feeling good alone...but its not right.

I've learnt much about the soul of real women from this post, many thanks ladies, keep it up

Maybe you have father issues because of not having one. What I mean is you have a love/hate relationship with men.

You say you want a soul mate, but inadvertently push the ones that care for you away-before they hurt you, you run to avoid getting hurt or taking a chance.

By picking the ones you know deep down are bad for you, you are maybe sabotaging yourself because you know they are all wrong, yet, you can't help yourself.

As far as living together w/ a man you've only known 1-2 weeks, uh, that's a smart decision...never rush into something because it almost always ends up badly.

Slow down a bit, find out why you are having this stream of broken relationships, fix yourself, learn to forgive your father for his shortcomings and work on getting better and stronger.

You must first learn to LOVE yourself before you are ready to love someone else.

You are not quite old at 23

23 is very young for getting married AND for having babies ...

A lot of women these days marry and have baies in their 30's because they are focusing on their career before that ...

Maybe your not ready for a serious relationship yet?
Your only 23 years old..Give it some time, maybe when the time is right you will be ready.