What Do you guys think??? (14)
pisces80: I was dating a single mother of 3kids few months ago, i treated her like a queen and did everything to make her happy even if it means going out of my way. I was honest to her and loved her kids and gave them my time when they demand it, she called off the relationship thrice and after a while we always get back together, because she keeps telling me she is sorry that she doesn't know watz wrong with her and she doesn't deserve me. I encourage her to give herself another chance, that she also deserves to be happy. To cut the long story short, one night she text me and said she wants to end the relationship and that was for the 4th time, i asked why and she said her kids father came back. I said ok, after 5months she text me from no where telling me that she is sorry that she hurt me that ever since she left me that she has never been happy blah blah!!! And now she wants another chance, after doing all she did..
Tho it hurts when people you love so much turn out to be the ones who hurts you without looking back and later they ask to come back when the are hurt by someone else. Do they think the people who have good heart are foolish???
Tho it hurts when people you love so much turn out to be the ones who hurts you without looking back and later they ask to come back when the are hurt by someone else. Do they think the people who have good heart are foolish???
She's obviously not come to terms with the break up of her marriage to the father of the children. She'll be confused trying to do what's best for them too even though she's probably got no idea what that is. It's something she needs to sort out for herself in her own time.
From your description, she sounds decent enough, but she's hurt and you can't do anything to take that away.
BUT.....Where are you in all that?
No doubt trying to do your Sir Lancelot and rescue her. Let me tell you from experience: It won't work. You can't give her what she needs right now. In her heart she's comparing you to a memory of happier days.
You need to let go with love before you become embittered and damaged yourself. Remember, anything you did for her and the kids, you chose to do. It's not fair to use it for leaverage or emotional blackmail now!
Wish her well and every happiness and get on with your life. If this is meant to be, it WILL come round again.
Life is trying to teach you something here. Let it and let it be!
Godsgift: She's obviously not come to terms with the break up of her marriage to the father of the children. She'll be confused trying to do what's best for them too even though she's probably got no idea what that is. It's something she needs to sort out for herself in her own time.
From your description, she sounds decent enough, but she's hurt and you can't do anything to take that away.
BUT.....Where are you in all that?
No doubt trying to do your Sir Lancelot and rescue her. Let me tell you from experience: It won't work. You can't give her what she needs right now. In her heart she's comparing you to a memory of happier days.
You need to let go with love before you become embittered and damaged yourself. Remember, anything you did for her and the kids, you chose to do. It's not fair to use it for leaverage or emotional blackmail now!
Wish her well and every happiness and get on with your life. If this is meant to be, it WILL come round again.
Life is trying to teach you something here. Let it and let it be!
From your description, she sounds decent enough, but she's hurt and you can't do anything to take that away.
BUT.....Where are you in all that?
No doubt trying to do your Sir Lancelot and rescue her. Let me tell you from experience: It won't work. You can't give her what she needs right now. In her heart she's comparing you to a memory of happier days.
You need to let go with love before you become embittered and damaged yourself. Remember, anything you did for her and the kids, you chose to do. It's not fair to use it for leaverage or emotional blackmail now!
Wish her well and every happiness and get on with your life. If this is meant to be, it WILL come round again.
Life is trying to teach you something here. Let it and let it be!
Well said GG ...yeah P being the fall back or safety net will only destroy you ...not saying that this lady doesnt genuinely have some feelings for you but not enough at this time ....as GG said step back and give this relationship some breathing space - it will make or break it in time
pisces80: Tho it hurts when people you love so much turn out to be the ones who hurts you without looking back and later they ask to come back when the are hurt by someone else. Do they think the people who have good heart are foolish???
Sounds like a relationship I had. I don't know how many times she "finished" with me and every time if I rose to the bait she would apologise profusely and didn't know what was wrong with her, etc. Insecurity I think.
I would think what is more important here than either your feelings or hers, not that they are unimportant, but the kids. They're gonna be pretty confused by all this coming and going and for their sake, and your own, sounds like you shouldn't go back to her this time.
pisces80: I was dating a single mother of 3kids few months ago, i treated her like a queen and did everything to make her happy even if it means going out of my way. I was honest to her and loved her kids and gave them my time when they demand it, she called off the relationship thrice and after a while we always get back together, because she keeps telling me she is sorry that she doesn't know watz wrong with her and she doesn't deserve me. I encourage her to give herself another chance, that she also deserves to be happy. To cut the long story short, one night she text me and said she wants to end the relationship and that was for the 4th time, i asked why and she said her kids father came back. I said ok, after 5months she text me from no where telling me that she is sorry that she hurt me that ever since she left me that she has never been happy blah blah!!! And now she wants another chance, after doing all she did..
Tho it hurts when people you love so much turn out to be the ones who hurts you without looking back and later they ask to come back when the are hurt by someone else. Do they think the people who have good heart are foolish???
Tho it hurts when people you love so much turn out to be the ones who hurts you without looking back and later they ask to come back when the are hurt by someone else. Do they think the people who have good heart are foolish???
You sound like you were a bit of a door mat mate. I doubt she respects you so how would the relationship ever work. Next time don't be such a doormat. Relationships should be 50/50 but it sounds like yours was all one way. JMO!
Godsgift: She's obviously not come to terms with the break up of her marriage to the father of the children. She'll be confused trying to do what's best for them too even though she's probably got no idea what that is. It's something she needs to sort out for herself in her own time.
From your description, she sounds decent enough, but she's hurt and you can't do anything to take that away.
BUT.....Where are you in all that?
No doubt trying to do your Sir Lancelot and rescue her. Let me tell you from experience: It won't work. You can't give her what she needs right now. In her heart she's comparing you to a memory of happier days.
You need to let go with love before you become embittered and damaged yourself. Remember, anything you did for her and the kids, you chose to do. It's not fair to use it for leaverage or emotional blackmail now!
Wish her well and every happiness and get on with your life. If this is meant to be, it WILL come round again.
Life is trying to teach you something here. Let it and let it be!
From your description, she sounds decent enough, but she's hurt and you can't do anything to take that away.
BUT.....Where are you in all that?
No doubt trying to do your Sir Lancelot and rescue her. Let me tell you from experience: It won't work. You can't give her what she needs right now. In her heart she's comparing you to a memory of happier days.
You need to let go with love before you become embittered and damaged yourself. Remember, anything you did for her and the kids, you chose to do. It's not fair to use it for leaverage or emotional blackmail now!
Wish her well and every happiness and get on with your life. If this is meant to be, it WILL come round again.
Life is trying to teach you something here. Let it and let it be!
spot onGodsgift: She's obviously not come to terms with the break up of her marriage to the father of the children. She'll be confused trying to do what's best for them too even though she's probably got no idea what that is. It's something she needs to sort out for herself in her own time.
From your description, she sounds decent enough, but she's hurt and you can't do anything to take that away.
BUT.....Where are you in all that?
No doubt trying to do your Sir Lancelot and rescue her. Let me tell you from experience: It won't work. You can't give her what she needs right now. In her heart she's comparing you to a memory of happier days.
You need to let go with love before you become embittered and damaged yourself. Remember, anything you did for her and the kids, you chose to do. It's not fair to use it for leaverage or emotional blackmail now!
Wish her well and every happiness and get on with your life. If this is meant to be, it WILL come round again.
Life is trying to teach you something here. Let it and let it be!
From your description, she sounds decent enough, but she's hurt and you can't do anything to take that away.
BUT.....Where are you in all that?
No doubt trying to do your Sir Lancelot and rescue her. Let me tell you from experience: It won't work. You can't give her what she needs right now. In her heart she's comparing you to a memory of happier days.
You need to let go with love before you become embittered and damaged yourself. Remember, anything you did for her and the kids, you chose to do. It's not fair to use it for leaverage or emotional blackmail now!
Wish her well and every happiness and get on with your life. If this is meant to be, it WILL come round again.
Life is trying to teach you something here. Let it and let it be!
god all that time we were bumping I never realised how insightful you are, well said, your a right we gem arn't yeh
Godsgift: She's obviously not come to terms with the break up of her marriage to the father of the children. She'll be confused trying to do what's best for them too even though she's probably got no idea what that is. It's something she needs to sort out for herself in her own time.
From your description, she sounds decent enough, but she's hurt and you can't do anything to take that away.
BUT.....Where are you in all that?
No doubt trying to do your Sir Lancelot and rescue her. Let me tell you from experience: It won't work. You can't give her what she needs right now. In her heart she's comparing you to a memory of happier days.
You need to let go with love before you become embittered and damaged yourself. Remember, anything you did for her and the kids, you chose to do. It's not fair to use it for leaverage or emotional blackmail now!
Wish her well and every happiness and get on with your life. If this is meant to be, it WILL come round again.
Life is trying to teach you something here. Let it and let it be!
From your description, she sounds decent enough, but she's hurt and you can't do anything to take that away.
BUT.....Where are you in all that?
No doubt trying to do your Sir Lancelot and rescue her. Let me tell you from experience: It won't work. You can't give her what she needs right now. In her heart she's comparing you to a memory of happier days.
You need to let go with love before you become embittered and damaged yourself. Remember, anything you did for her and the kids, you chose to do. It's not fair to use it for leaverage or emotional blackmail now!
Wish her well and every happiness and get on with your life. If this is meant to be, it WILL come round again.
Life is trying to teach you something here. Let it and let it be!
nicely put
once twice three four times a lady ,it wont work bud you both have to move on fully endorse what K says and we both have been around a bit .the voice of experience
you both have to move on fully endorse what K says and we both have been around a bit .the voice of experienceI would go along with what everyone's said on here. Most of us here have been hurt in this way....I have...twice in the last 7 months....where both the men after a while texted me asking to see me again.
Bottom line is, if someone doesn't treat me well, I don't touch them with a barge pole. We all deserve to be treated with some degree of respect.
The devil in me is thinking
, you should tell her you are now seeing someone else!!!
Bottom line is, if someone doesn't treat me well, I don't touch them with a barge pole. We all deserve to be treated with some degree of respect.
The devil in me is thinking
, you should tell her you are now seeing someone else!!!Thank you so much guys you all spoke well, @God'sgift, i understand you very well and i already wished her a happy life. She told me how the guy treated her and how he almost killed her 4yrs ago when she was pregnant of her last child, well that is her business i am done and that is it. There is no going back on that, guess its just another lesson like you said.
Thanks for your post guys i really appreciate.
Thanks for your post guys i really appreciate.
pisces80: Thank you so much guys you all spoke well, @God'sgift, i understand you very well and i already wished her a happy life. She told me how the guy treated her and how he almost killed her 4yrs ago when she was pregnant of her last child, well that is her business i am done and that is it. There is no going back on that, guess its just another lesson like you said.
Thanks for your post guys i really appreciate.
Thanks for your post guys i really appreciate.
Glad to see you have learned your lesson, you were a mug in the past as many of us men (myself included) have been. She clicked her fingers and you came running.
To answer your question....being nice doesn't pay. Many women say they want a nice bloke who cares for them and knows how to treat a woman well. Some genuinely do but many out there have no interest in a nice guy.
What they really want is a charmer, a guy who is a bit of a cheeky chappy and many like the appeal of a guy with a bad boy image.
Strange then how they wonder why these guys flirt with other women, cheat and lie.
Do women think these guys suddenly change over night just because the guy is with them. I don't think so!
The person you meet for the first time is the person you will end up in a relationship. Any character traits that attract you to that person in the first place may well be the character flaws you will come to hate because the person hasn't changed in the way you want them to.
Women (and men too) need to be realistic when they date, what you see when you meet someone for the first, second or even third time is what you will still see five, ten 15 months and years down the line. People only change in very subtle ways.
If a guy isn't nice, romantic and caring from the start then he never will be.
pisces80: I was dating a single mother of 3kids few months ago, i treated her like a queen and did everything to make her happy even if it means going out of my way. I was honest to her and loved her kids and gave them my time when they demand it, she called off the relationship thrice and after a while we always get back together, because she keeps telling me she is sorry that she doesn't know watz wrong with her and she doesn't deserve me. I encourage her to give herself another chance, that she also deserves to be happy. To cut the long story short, one night she text me and said she wants to end the relationship and that was for the 4th time, i asked why and she said her kids father came back. I said ok, after 5months she text me from no where telling me that she is sorry that she hurt me that ever since she left me that she has never been happy blah blah!!! And now she wants another chance, after doing all she did..
Tho it hurts when people you love so much turn out to be the ones who hurts you without looking back and later they ask to come back when the are hurt by someone else. Do they think the people who have good heart are foolish???
Tho it hurts when people you love so much turn out to be the ones who hurts you without looking back and later they ask to come back when the are hurt by someone else. Do they think the people who have good heart are foolish???
she can probably see that you are a decent guy so she used you to play daddy to her kids when their father was off doing whatever he was doing, forget about her and move on she is just using you, I'm surprised you went back the 3rd time, if you break up once you should leave it at that, its over, dont look back, its the best way
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Tho it hurts when people you love so much turn out to be the ones who hurts you without looking back and later they ask to come back when the are hurt by someone else. Do they think the people who have good heart are foolish???