What is the worst dating advice you've ever been given? (57)
twinkles1994Vancouver, Washington USA84 Threads 2,258 PostsEveryone gives you advice on what you should do or how you should act. I'm just curious as to who has gotten the worse advice and if they've actually followed that advice. My mom told me once to act like I'm helpless and afraid to get my hands dirty. I never did follow that advice. Thanks for the advice mom, love you anyway!
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The worst dating "advice" and that, "surprisingly" continues to exist in these modern times, is the whole dating "rules" to begin with. The gender "roles," to be more specific. The ones that state a man's supposed to get what he can get whenever he can get it and then the completely asinine and absurd assumption that women should react to it by playing "hard to get."
Now, I ask you: What IDIOT came up with that one?
No damn wonder relationships and proper dating etiquette is so damned confusing. And it always will be so long as double standards like these exist.
Now, I ask you: What IDIOT came up with that one?
No damn wonder relationships and proper dating etiquette is so damned confusing. And it always will be so long as double standards like these exist.
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Funny you should write that the woman should play hard to get according to the "rules".
I was given the exact same advice to play hard to get by a woman on my last date....which I did not heed but might have helped....who knows.
I was given the exact same advice to play hard to get by a woman on my last date....which I did not heed but might have helped....who knows.
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I absolutely agree..it's ridiculous.
And you spelled "promiscuous" correctly.
And you spelled "promiscuous" correctly.
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Come on, Tumpa...even though you're not a neanderthal, you must know that most (many) guys consider "getting lucky" as a badge of honor, "high-five" moment.
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With all due respect, I could never subscribe to this "badge" or "high-five" theory. To me, the locker room or poker table talk is just lame. Why? It is like trying to describe to someone how succulent last night's steak was, when in fact you can use every possible connotation to try to draw out the taste, but unless they were physically eating steak as well, you can never instill the delight in the steak into their mind. The same goes with the story of the night before. I will stick with my own sentiment that a gentleman never kisses and tells...
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All of it,seems I never find the right one,I don't have much going on and girls see that,but I wont give uo hope.
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Refreshing perspective. Thanks.
And as far as I am concerned, there is no "due respect" to men who are like that.
And as far as I am concerned, there is no "due respect" to men who are like that.
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Alright Tumpa barring you, most men do kiss and tell. If they don't score it's a tragedy. point is there are different rules for men and women. that adds more to the whole problem with dating, i broke the rules on my last date, i asked and i paid.
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i havnt been on a date in almost a decade,but thats becouse i was married,now were separated im probally going to need advice my self, ive lost touch with dating hehehe
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For those men who need some points....
You don't have to score to have made some goals in life.
You don't have to score to have made some goals in life.
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Here's the best advice hunny, when you pick me up bring me flowers! 
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...or maybe, having a "goal" doesn't necessarily constitute "scoring"
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awww i will hun, it will be a bluddy long walk to yours but i will come with flowers hehehe
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who gave you the "worst dating advice" to walk? By the time you arrive the flowers will be limp....
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The idea that men who are promiscuous are thought of highly by women stems from the simple fact that women are highly attracted to "experienced" men, and for all intents and purposes they loath virgins. They see virgins as inexperiened "boys" (i.e. Not "real" men)
Men pick up on this "demand" that women make of them and from that they learn that to be attractive to a woman a man needs to have lots of experiencs. Thus is born the image of "the stud" as being attractive to women. And I believe that it is. I know with certainty that "most" women shy away from male virgins. Especially the older he is. I'm not sure of the exact age, but basically if a man is still a virgin by his 30's women start to actually see that as a "red flag".
So men are encouraged by woman to run around and get all the experience they can as soon as they can. And then women complain about the very thing they are DEMANDING that men do!
Life's a joke.
Men pick up on this "demand" that women make of them and from that they learn that to be attractive to a woman a man needs to have lots of experiencs. Thus is born the image of "the stud" as being attractive to women. And I believe that it is. I know with certainty that "most" women shy away from male virgins. Especially the older he is. I'm not sure of the exact age, but basically if a man is still a virgin by his 30's women start to actually see that as a "red flag".
So men are encouraged by woman to run around and get all the experience they can as soon as they can. And then women complain about the very thing they are DEMANDING that men do!
Life's a joke.
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I think the best advice I can give to men is that (and I'm presuming to speak for MOST women, not all), if she accepts an invitation to go out on a date with you, it's YOU that she's happy to be with, not the car you drive, nor the amount of money you spend on her, etc.
Tokens of affection are always appreciated, sure (like a single rose or a small box of candy or something; that's just an added touch that tells a lady that she's special to him) but, mainly it's YOU she is interested in.
I always took it for granted that a lot of the guys I went out with thought they were as wonderful as I thought they were; the more I observe on Internet dating sites, the less I'm thinking this.
Men are really a lot more vulnerable than I had originally thought, and really do seem to care what women's opinions are of him. The bad thing is, so many of them try to "impress" entirely the wrong way.
Tokens of affection are always appreciated, sure (like a single rose or a small box of candy or something; that's just an added touch that tells a lady that she's special to him) but, mainly it's YOU she is interested in.
I always took it for granted that a lot of the guys I went out with thought they were as wonderful as I thought they were; the more I observe on Internet dating sites, the less I'm thinking this.
Men are really a lot more vulnerable than I had originally thought, and really do seem to care what women's opinions are of him. The bad thing is, so many of them try to "impress" entirely the wrong way.
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The idea that men who are promiscuous are thought of highly by women
NOOOOO!! Not that they are thought of highly by WOMEN, but by other MEN! That's what I was referring to, anyway. I think men who screw around are trash.
NOOOOO!! Not that they are thought of highly by WOMEN, but by other MEN! That's what I was referring to, anyway. I think men who screw around are trash.
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Exactly! Most of us don't care what your bank account looks like or if you drive a new merecedes or ride a bike! It's more impressive if you just be yourself and not try to be flashy and fake!
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<-----the only flash was on the camera.
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