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deblake60: Basically this is a vent, but I do hope certain "women" here on CS sees it.
Recently, I let my parents move in with me due to the combination of their health and finance problems.
Somehow, when I am honest about this to women I am talking with, I'm treated badly and to put it politely, degraded for my act.
1) Just to be clear, they moved into MY home, not the other way around.
2) I think that the women should be thankful that I had even told them about these arrangements. To be truthful about it, I didn't have say anything.
3) I will NEVER put my folks in a home and having it suggested is just outrageous.
4) The folks had always been there for me and I did not hesitate when they had asked me for help.
5) I would do anything for any family members of mine, as well as good friends.
6) I would REALLY like to know how is it that "I'm less of a man" because I let my folks move in? (As a woman had put it).
Let's also get another thing straight, when I made my profile it was before they moved in, granted I could have edited, but I didn't lie about anything.
I told "you" when you asked about where I lived.
To the rest of CS, comment if you want or not, either way I feel better now for blowing off this steam.
I think ur a great man..to hell with the women that think differently..Recently, I let my parents move in with me due to the combination of their health and finance problems.
Somehow, when I am honest about this to women I am talking with, I'm treated badly and to put it politely, degraded for my act.
1) Just to be clear, they moved into MY home, not the other way around.
2) I think that the women should be thankful that I had even told them about these arrangements. To be truthful about it, I didn't have say anything.
3) I will NEVER put my folks in a home and having it suggested is just outrageous.
4) The folks had always been there for me and I did not hesitate when they had asked me for help.
5) I would do anything for any family members of mine, as well as good friends.
6) I would REALLY like to know how is it that "I'm less of a man" because I let my folks move in? (As a woman had put it).
Let's also get another thing straight, when I made my profile it was before they moved in, granted I could have edited, but I didn't lie about anything.
I told "you" when you asked about where I lived.
To the rest of CS, comment if you want or not, either way I feel better now for blowing off this steam.
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kissmedeeply: I think ur a great man..to hell with the women that think differently..
Thanks KMD, I appreciate that!
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deblake60: Thanks KMD, I appreciate that!
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deblake60: Basically this is a vent, but I do hope certain "women" here on CS sees it.
Recently, I let my parents move in with me due to the combination of their health and finance problems.
Somehow, when I am honest about this to women I am talking with, I'm treated badly and to put it politely, degraded for my act.
1) Just to be clear, they moved into MY home, not the other way around.
2) I think that the women should be thankful that I had even told them about these arrangements. To be truthful about it, I didn't have say anything.
3) I will NEVER put my folks in a home and having it suggested is just outrageous.
4) The folks had always been there for me and I did not hesitate when they had asked me for help.
5) I would do anything for any family members of mine, as well as good friends.
6) I would REALLY like to know how is it that "I'm less of a man" because I let my folks move in? (As a woman had put it).
Let's also get another thing straight, when I made my profile it was before they moved in, granted I could have edited, but I didn't lie about anything.
I told "you" when you asked about where I lived.
To the rest of CS, comment if you want or not, either way I feel better now for blowing off this steam.
Recently, I let my parents move in with me due to the combination of their health and finance problems.
Somehow, when I am honest about this to women I am talking with, I'm treated badly and to put it politely, degraded for my act.
1) Just to be clear, they moved into MY home, not the other way around.
2) I think that the women should be thankful that I had even told them about these arrangements. To be truthful about it, I didn't have say anything.
3) I will NEVER put my folks in a home and having it suggested is just outrageous.
4) The folks had always been there for me and I did not hesitate when they had asked me for help.
5) I would do anything for any family members of mine, as well as good friends.
6) I would REALLY like to know how is it that "I'm less of a man" because I let my folks move in? (As a woman had put it).
Let's also get another thing straight, when I made my profile it was before they moved in, granted I could have edited, but I didn't lie about anything.
I told "you" when you asked about where I lived.
To the rest of CS, comment if you want or not, either way I feel better now for blowing off this steam.
You are a good man, deblake.. I would do the same if any member of my family needs help.. she can't deal with it? screw her.. You'll meet a better person because it's obvious that you deserve better!
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@KMD, I worked in the Nursing homes and I've seen how things are done. Although mistreatment rarely happens, but they are way undermanned.
@SL, Thank you. Nothing really got started between her and I (thank God). But you would like that reading her profile and since we where in the same stage of life, she would have a better view?
@SL, Thank you. Nothing really got started between her and I (thank God). But you would like that reading her profile and since we where in the same stage of life, she would have a better view?
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deblake60: @KMD, I worked in the Nursing homes and I've seen how things are done. Although mistreatment rarely happens, but they are way undermanned.
@SL, Thank you. Nothing really got started between her and I (thank God). But you would like that reading her profile and since we where in the same stage of life, she would have a better view?
I work in homecare so know what you are saying@SL, Thank you. Nothing really got started between her and I (thank God). But you would like that reading her profile and since we where in the same stage of life, she would have a better view?
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I think you shouldn't feel the need to justify yourself.
Apart from the fact that your parents had health problems, on the financial side, there are more and more families pooling together to face the crisis than ever before.
I think your decision to care for your parents makes you MORE of a man. Their loss.
Apart from the fact that your parents had health problems, on the financial side, there are more and more families pooling together to face the crisis than ever before.
I think your decision to care for your parents makes you MORE of a man. Their loss.
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deblake60: Basically this is a vent, but I do hope certain "women" here on CS sees it.
Recently, I let my parents move in with me due to the combination of their health and finance problems.
Somehow, when I am honest about this to women I am talking with, I'm treated badly and to put it politely, degraded for my act.
1) Just to be clear, they moved into MY home, not the other way around.
2) I think that the women should be thankful that I had even told them about these arrangements. To be truthful about it, I didn't have say anything.
3) I will NEVER put my folks in a home and having it suggested is just outrageous.
4) The folks had always been there for me and I did not hesitate when they had asked me for help.
5) I would do anything for any family members of mine, as well as good friends.
6) I would REALLY like to know how is it that "I'm less of a man" because I let my folks move in? (As a woman had put it).
Let's also get another thing straight, when I made my profile it was before they moved in, granted I could have edited, but I didn't lie about anything.
I told "you" when you asked about where I lived.
To the rest of CS, comment if you want or not, either way I feel better now for blowing off this steam.
Recently, I let my parents move in with me due to the combination of their health and finance problems.
Somehow, when I am honest about this to women I am talking with, I'm treated badly and to put it politely, degraded for my act.
1) Just to be clear, they moved into MY home, not the other way around.
2) I think that the women should be thankful that I had even told them about these arrangements. To be truthful about it, I didn't have say anything.
3) I will NEVER put my folks in a home and having it suggested is just outrageous.
4) The folks had always been there for me and I did not hesitate when they had asked me for help.
5) I would do anything for any family members of mine, as well as good friends.
6) I would REALLY like to know how is it that "I'm less of a man" because I let my folks move in? (As a woman had put it).
Let's also get another thing straight, when I made my profile it was before they moved in, granted I could have edited, but I didn't lie about anything.
I told "you" when you asked about where I lived.
To the rest of CS, comment if you want or not, either way I feel better now for blowing off this steam.
Often what we see in others, ( people we meet)lets us know how shallow & selfish some people are, imagine meeting a woman/man & this type of problem never came-up, then one day the problem arrives,u have to help-out your family, & it is only at that moment u find-out the value of your partner, The "VALUE",is showing u what would happen "IF" you got sick, & was a burden on your partner, this could happen at 30, or 65, the moment will arrive when the Value is exposed,
Good luck with the folk's at home, & don't worry about cheap shallow minded people, u should thank these people for letting u know how they think, there value's etc, there are some great people out-there & one will come knocking one day, But in the mean-time, maybe buy a dog, they are very good value, & don't have hidden negative traits......
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There is a big difference between someone who still lives at home with mom and dad mooching off them,and a person who takes their mother and father into their home to live with and take care of them.
What you did was admirable.
What you did was admirable.
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I know I shouldn't have to explain myself, but it just upset me of the way things happened and what was said to me.
As it was said a bit ago, I know that if I needed help from "her", there would be no doubt she would bale. . . . regardless of the relationship status between us.
As it was said a bit ago, I know that if I needed help from "her", there would be no doubt she would bale. . . . regardless of the relationship status between us.
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Which "women" (in inverted commas)on CS would you be referring to ?!
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What you are undertaking is very admirable. And I have known wives who have helped extensively with the husband's elderly parents, uncomplaining, so they are out there!
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What you’re doing is great and more people should be doing this especially in our part of the world but there’s also another side to it.
I have a sister who dated a guy who took his parents in and after dating for years she finally left because his parents came first so they didn’t have much going for themselves relationship wise.
On the market today you'll find many house plans for people who want to take in their parents and these plans are a larger house divided into two apartments known as “Bi-Generation Homes”, the smaller one being for the parents. This way there’s place for intimacy with the person you're dating, living with or married to.
I have a sister who dated a guy who took his parents in and after dating for years she finally left because his parents came first so they didn’t have much going for themselves relationship wise.
On the market today you'll find many house plans for people who want to take in their parents and these plans are a larger house divided into two apartments known as “Bi-Generation Homes”, the smaller one being for the parents. This way there’s place for intimacy with the person you're dating, living with or married to.
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deblake60: I know I shouldn't have to explain myself, but it just upset me of the way things happened and what was said to me.
As it was said a bit ago, I know that if I needed help from "her", there would be no doubt she would bale. . . . regardless of the relationship status between us.
As it was said a bit ago, I know that if I needed help from "her", there would be no doubt she would bale. . . . regardless of the relationship status between us.
Are you upset because SHE thought/felt that or because you think others might think the same?
If you know this person not be of the compassionate kind, should you just move on?
Have you worked out exactely why you are upset? Is it disappointment?
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Onlyguy: What you’re doing is great and more people should be doing this especially in our part of the world but there’s also another side to it.
I have a sister who dated a guy who took his parents in and after dating for years she finally left because his parents came first so they didn’t have much going for themselves relationship wise.
On the market today you'll find many house plans for people who want to take in their parents and these plans are a larger house divided into two apartments known as “Bi-Generation Homes”, the smaller one being for the parents. This way there’s place for intimacy with the person you're dating, living with or married to.
I have a sister who dated a guy who took his parents in and after dating for years she finally left because his parents came first so they didn’t have much going for themselves relationship wise.
On the market today you'll find many house plans for people who want to take in their parents and these plans are a larger house divided into two apartments known as “Bi-Generation Homes”, the smaller one being for the parents. This way there’s place for intimacy with the person you're dating, living with or married to.
Right you are!! I have already consulted with a builder about some modifications I want to make in my home when the time comes....also, there are many "creative" ways to make time for and insure intimacy with your partner...
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you have no obligation to justify your actions. find someone who understands your situation. I admire your devotion to your family!
I am sorry to hear you have been treated badly
I am sorry to hear you have been treated badly
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EagleWoman: Are you upset because SHE thought/felt that or because you think others might think the same?
If you know this person not be of the compassionate kind, should you just move on?
Have you worked out exactely why you are upset? Is it disappointment?
If you know this person not be of the compassionate kind, should you just move on?
Have you worked out exactely why you are upset? Is it disappointment?
You are probably right EW, more disappointment. I know of the two I've been speaking with, one is heavily into the forums.
Maybe I thought she would "slander" me or try to degrade me. As you know I can't name a CS member.
But you would be as shocked as I was by her.
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OMG! I got an email stating that I was slandering her here on the forums. lol. I didn't mention any names or even gave detailed enough clue to her identity. She is going to turn me into the MODS, so not sure what will happen.
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deblake60: OMG! I got an email stating that I was slandering her here on the forums. lol. I didn't mention any names or even gave detailed enough clue to her identity. She is going to turn me into the MODS, so not sure what will happen.
I'd tell her to kiss my rosey red ( ! )
Hope it's not a friend...but if it is... the above still applies.
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Recently, I let my parents move in with me due to the combination of their health and finance problems.
Somehow, when I am honest about this to women I am talking with, I'm treated badly and to put it politely, degraded for my act.
1) Just to be clear, they moved into MY home, not the other way around.
2) I think that the women should be thankful that I had even told them about these arrangements. To be truthful about it, I didn't have say anything.
3) I will NEVER put my folks in a home and having it suggested is just outrageous.
4) The folks had always been there for me and I did not hesitate when they had asked me for help.
5) I would do anything for any family members of mine, as well as good friends.
6) I would REALLY like to know how is it that "I'm less of a man" because I let my folks move in? (As a woman had put it).
Let's also get another thing straight, when I made my profile it was before they moved in, granted I could have edited, but I didn't lie about anything.
I told "you" when you asked about where I lived.
To the rest of CS, comment if you want or not, either way I feel better now for blowing off this steam.