Can we all be blind? (24)
I Totally agree, that Phisical attraction gets in the way and narrows the posibilites Of Finding a Good hearted person, But on CS I also believe Distance is the # One Killer, as far as Immigrations have it to a Money theme, and make it hard to Immigrate without very costly risks involved...
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You know when you say 'we'..you're kind of taking my inventory and including me in the 'we'...and I might not be like that.
You should stick to saying 'I'...
because you're avoiding how you are as a person...and what you're really saying when you say 'we'...whether you're aware of it or not,is saying 'we' put emphasis on physical attraction and it's your opinion and thoughts,and you're avoiding focusing on yourself.
You should stick to saying 'I'...
because you're avoiding how you are as a person...and what you're really saying when you say 'we'...whether you're aware of it or not,is saying 'we' put emphasis on physical attraction and it's your opinion and thoughts,and you're avoiding focusing on yourself.
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..but to answer the question,I think you could get by on charm or good looks for about 15 minutes...after that,there better be some substance.
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thewall2: You know when you say 'we'..you're kind of taking my inventory and including me in the 'we'...and I might not be like that.
You should stick to saying 'I'...
because you're avoiding how you are as a person...and what you're really saying when you say 'we'...whether you're aware of it or not,is saying 'we' put emphasis on physical attraction and it's your opinion and thoughts,and you're avoiding focusing on yourself.
You should stick to saying 'I'...
because you're avoiding how you are as a person...and what you're really saying when you say 'we'...whether you're aware of it or not,is saying 'we' put emphasis on physical attraction and it's your opinion and thoughts,and you're avoiding focusing on yourself.
That might have worked for you typing it, but it doesn't work for me reading it. I couldn't make sense of what you were saying.
Can you sum it up without all the "we, I". I would like to understand what you meant.
I liked your next post better when you answered what the OP had asked.
The Dobe
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thewall2: You know when you say 'we'..you're kind of taking my inventory and including me in the 'we'...and I might not be like that.
You should stick to saying 'I'...
because you're avoiding how you are as a person...and what you're really saying when you say 'we'...whether you're aware of it or not,is saying 'we' put emphasis on physical attraction and it's your opinion and thoughts,and you're avoiding focusing on yourself.
You should stick to saying 'I'...
because you're avoiding how you are as a person...and what you're really saying when you say 'we'...whether you're aware of it or not,is saying 'we' put emphasis on physical attraction and it's your opinion and thoughts,and you're avoiding focusing on yourself.
My apologies, I was not writing completely in first person, it was a generalised opinion of 'we as a society whole'. Not specific to you either. Some will fit the niche, some won't. I'm half in and half out. I recognise the issue and am trying to work past it.
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Emerold99: My apologies, I was not writing completely in first person, it was a generalised opinion of 'we as a society whole'. Not specific to you either. Some will fit the niche, some won't. I'm half in and half out. I recognise the issue and am trying to work past it.
Apology accepted,I'm oversensitive at times,it's a character defect I NEED TO work on.
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hey emerold! 
first things first....good question.
second..
a few weeks ago, I saw a program on TV called the Dark Room.
3 boys and 3 girls who didn't know each other and never met before.
every time a couple was meeting in the dark room, they couldn't see each other.
now there was a couple that REALLY fell hard in love, allthough they had never seen each other..
kissing and hugging and so on in that dark room. they said that the other's scent smelled so good, felt right and so on. totally smitten, the both of them as it seemed from in interview later on and before they would meet.
in this interview, both were asked to draw a picture from the other person, in the way they thought the other would look like.
they messed up completely and when they finally met in broad daylight, the mutual attraction faded in an instant.
they said the other was not attractive by looks...
interesting isn't it?
first things first....good question.
second..
a few weeks ago, I saw a program on TV called the Dark Room.
3 boys and 3 girls who didn't know each other and never met before.
every time a couple was meeting in the dark room, they couldn't see each other.
now there was a couple that REALLY fell hard in love, allthough they had never seen each other..
kissing and hugging and so on in that dark room. they said that the other's scent smelled so good, felt right and so on. totally smitten, the both of them as it seemed from in interview later on and before they would meet.
in this interview, both were asked to draw a picture from the other person, in the way they thought the other would look like.
they messed up completely and when they finally met in broad daylight, the mutual attraction faded in an instant.
they said the other was not attractive by looks...
interesting isn't it?
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carenza: hey emerold!
first things first....good question.
second..
a few weeks ago, I saw a program on TV called the Dark Room.
3 boys and 3 girls who didn't know each other and never met before.
every time a couple was meeting in the dark room, they couldn't see each other.
now there was a couple that REALLY fell hard in love, allthough they had never seen each other..
kissing and hugging and so on in that dark room. they said that the other's scent smelled so good, felt right and so on. totally smitten, the both of them as it seemed from in interview later on and before they would meet.
in this interview, both were asked to draw a picture from the other person, in the way they thought the other would look like.
they messed up completely and when they finally met in broad daylight, the mutual attraction faded in an instant.
they said the other was not attractive by looks...
interesting isn't it?
first things first....good question.
second..
a few weeks ago, I saw a program on TV called the Dark Room.
3 boys and 3 girls who didn't know each other and never met before.
every time a couple was meeting in the dark room, they couldn't see each other.
now there was a couple that REALLY fell hard in love, allthough they had never seen each other..
kissing and hugging and so on in that dark room. they said that the other's scent smelled so good, felt right and so on. totally smitten, the both of them as it seemed from in interview later on and before they would meet.
in this interview, both were asked to draw a picture from the other person, in the way they thought the other would look like.
they messed up completely and when they finally met in broad daylight, the mutual attraction faded in an instant.
they said the other was not attractive by looks...
interesting isn't it?
Very. Which brings me to my next question.
Could I look past the lack of physical attraction myself if everything else was right? I think I'd try very damned hard.
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Emerold99: Very. Which brings me to my next question.
Could I look past the lack of physical attraction myself if everything else was right? I think I'd try very damned hard.
Could I look past the lack of physical attraction myself if everything else was right? I think I'd try very damned hard.
yeah....me too.
wonder what other members have to say about this.
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i'm very visual...
the physical attraction is a conditio sine qua non for me to establish a romantical relationship...
that being said my concept of physical atttractives is way far from the classic canons...
just to be down-to-eart and make some example:
i have never considered Alain Delon as an atractive man...while i have considered Gary Moore as a very attractive man..he was voted as the ugliest gitarist according to a poll in a musical magazine...
the physical attraction is a conditio sine qua non for me to establish a romantical relationship...
that being said my concept of physical atttractives is way far from the classic canons...
just to be down-to-eart and make some example:
i have never considered Alain Delon as an atractive man...while i have considered Gary Moore as a very attractive man..he was voted as the ugliest gitarist according to a poll in a musical magazine...
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Emerold99: I sometimes wonder whether we put a little too much emphasis on physical attraction when looking for someone to connect with.
If people had no pictures at all on their profile we suffer from one form of sensory deprivation and are forced to use other measures to find someone compatible. ie: personality, intelligence, wit.
Some of the nicest people I have met on this site never had pictures on their profile.
What do you all think? Do we place expectations on others too much? Have we unintentionally narrowed our search options because we have become shallow; and as a society and our moral code has flown out the window?
I understand when someone states that physical attraction is conducive to a healthy relationship but doesn't one become physically attracted to the persona as well? Physical attraction fades, inner beauty will always remain.
i agree with what you"ve saidIf people had no pictures at all on their profile we suffer from one form of sensory deprivation and are forced to use other measures to find someone compatible. ie: personality, intelligence, wit.
Some of the nicest people I have met on this site never had pictures on their profile.
What do you all think? Do we place expectations on others too much? Have we unintentionally narrowed our search options because we have become shallow; and as a society and our moral code has flown out the window?
I understand when someone states that physical attraction is conducive to a healthy relationship but doesn't one become physically attracted to the persona as well? Physical attraction fades, inner beauty will always remain.
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carenza: hey emerold!
first things first....good question.
second..
a few weeks ago, I saw a program on TV called the Dark Room.
3 boys and 3 girls who didn't know each other and never met before.
every time a couple was meeting in the dark room, they couldn't see each other.
now there was a couple that REALLY fell hard in love, allthough they had never seen each other..
kissing and hugging and so on in that dark room. they said that the other's scent smelled so good, felt right and so on. totally smitten, the both of them as it seemed from in interview later on and before they would meet.
in this interview, both were asked to draw a picture from the other person, in the way they thought the other would look like.
they messed up completely and when they finally met in broad daylight, the mutual attraction faded in an instant.
they said the other was not attractive by looks...
interesting isn't it?
first things first....good question.
second..
a few weeks ago, I saw a program on TV called the Dark Room.
3 boys and 3 girls who didn't know each other and never met before.
every time a couple was meeting in the dark room, they couldn't see each other.
now there was a couple that REALLY fell hard in love, allthough they had never seen each other..
kissing and hugging and so on in that dark room. they said that the other's scent smelled so good, felt right and so on. totally smitten, the both of them as it seemed from in interview later on and before they would meet.
in this interview, both were asked to draw a picture from the other person, in the way they thought the other would look like.
they messed up completely and when they finally met in broad daylight, the mutual attraction faded in an instant.
they said the other was not attractive by looks...
interesting isn't it?
Notwithstanding a possible anomaly in the experiment, whilst studying a sense like vision along with searching for significance in individual preferences for other senses, its entirely possible to deduce (or is it induce?) from the data given, that we are not necessarily "blind" per se', but rather, choosey creatures. Some of which possess more developed senses, not necessarily more restrictive, just more quickly sensitive to the multiple types of "vibes" received from members of the opposite gender.
Apply that formula to any combination which may be short of the two members of the couples' desires, and you have a mismatch. The definition of attractive remains relative.
I have to tell a quik topical and humorous story.
I volunteered for this type of thing, and was told simply to meet a woman and remain in a room with her "chatting" for five minutes...
At the end of a pleasant conversation, we were told to go in a cubicle separated from each other and fill out a questionaire.
Question 5 was, "Is this person physically attractive to you? I got kinda mad and said out loud, "You didn't tell me to really look at her, you told me to talk with her." Over the cubicle wall I heard her laugh and say "OMG! I was just thinking the same thing!"
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lucynad: i'm very visual...
the physical attraction is a conditio sine qua non for me to establish a romantical relationship...
that being said my concept of physical atttractives is way far from the classic canons...
just to be down-to-eart and make some example:
i have never considered Alain Delon as an atractive man...while i have considered Gary Moore as a very attractive man..he was voted as the ugliest gitarist according to a poll in a musical magazine...
the physical attraction is a conditio sine qua non for me to establish a romantical relationship...
that being said my concept of physical atttractives is way far from the classic canons...
just to be down-to-eart and make some example:
i have never considered Alain Delon as an atractive man...while i have considered Gary Moore as a very attractive man..he was voted as the ugliest gitarist according to a poll in a musical magazine...
Hello Lucy,
I agree Phisical Attraction is all in the Eyes of the Beholder, I am Not Looking for a Queen, but a Queen in My Eyes!
Meaning That I seek a lifetime Love, I want to be able to wake up to them First sight in the Morning, and Be Proud to know That I can Smile, and Kiss them Intimately, Instead of Rolling off and Hiding under the Bed!, lol But a Beautiful Woman can also turn me away in 15 Minutes, If We dont Cling....
To want to spend Your Life with someone, they better have more than attraction!!!!
It Must go More than skin deep, It must Bond at the Soul, and not just at the Mind, or appearance...
Its the Right Combination, Just like opening a Safe, we could be close, have 4 Numbers right, But the last Number is the One That COUNTS!
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HotrodLarrys: Hello Lucy,
I agree Phisical Attraction is all in the Eyes of the Beholder, I am Not Looking for a Queen, but a Queen in My Eyes!
Meaning That I seek a lifetime Love, I want to be able to wake up to them First sight in the Morning, and Be Proud to know That I can Smile, and Kiss them Intimately, Instead of Rolling off and Hiding under the Bed!, lol But a Beautiful Woman can also turn me away in 15 Minutes, If We dont Cling....
To want to spend Your Life with someone, they better have more than attraction!!!!
It Must go More than skin deep, It must Bond at the Soul, and not just at the Mind, or appearance...
Its the Right Combination, Just like opening a Safe, we could be close, have 4 Numbers right, But the last Number is the One That COUNTS!
I agree Phisical Attraction is all in the Eyes of the Beholder, I am Not Looking for a Queen, but a Queen in My Eyes!
Meaning That I seek a lifetime Love, I want to be able to wake up to them First sight in the Morning, and Be Proud to know That I can Smile, and Kiss them Intimately, Instead of Rolling off and Hiding under the Bed!, lol But a Beautiful Woman can also turn me away in 15 Minutes, If We dont Cling....
To want to spend Your Life with someone, they better have more than attraction!!!!
It Must go More than skin deep, It must Bond at the Soul, and not just at the Mind, or appearance...
Its the Right Combination, Just like opening a Safe, we could be close, have 4 Numbers right, But the last Number is the One That COUNTS!
hi, larry...and...a happy easter!
yep...in order to it to last it must provide the so called "full package"...
a couple is suppose to talk as well...
from time to time ;)
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lucynad: hi, larry...and...a happy easter!
yep...in order to it to last it must provide the so called "full package"...
a couple is suppose to talk as well...
from time to time ;)
yep...in order to it to last it must provide the so called "full package"...
a couple is suppose to talk as well...
from time to time ;)
They must do more than talk Lucy, They must COMMUNICATE!
At a simular level!
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Thanks :)
I see it as two seperate things, as I mentioned above (perving vs life partner 'attraction')...of course we all want someone who is 'attractive', but I see it as, whats 'attractive to me' (or any of us), isnt necessarily whats 'attractive' to society in general. Unless youre someone who picks someone because they will 'look good on your arm' when youre out :)
And hey if we all happen to find someone who is 'hot on the outside' as well as on the inside...well, thats even better! lol
Emerold99: I like your way of thinking. Sort of puts a little perspective on the situation. Wheelchairs actually don't bother me at all tbh... I'd still be with that person if everything else was going well.
I do wonder if we all see this as two separate things though, or have some of us blurred the lines too much that we can't differentiate anymore.
I do wonder if we all see this as two separate things though, or have some of us blurred the lines too much that we can't differentiate anymore.
I see it as two seperate things, as I mentioned above (perving vs life partner 'attraction')...of course we all want someone who is 'attractive', but I see it as, whats 'attractive to me' (or any of us), isnt necessarily whats 'attractive' to society in general. Unless youre someone who picks someone because they will 'look good on your arm' when youre out :)
And hey if we all happen to find someone who is 'hot on the outside' as well as on the inside...well, thats even better! lol
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Agree, a couple must do more than talk, They must COMMUNICATE, is very important thing in relationship, but at the same time for me important to feel physical attraction for a man to connect with him, not means he must be Alen Delon ... but something close of MY image of attaractive man ( sure, different people have different image), we can discuss a lot of Soul Beauty but sure if we are not feeling physical attraction for somebody...we never eccept even beauty of his/her soul.. we say about that person ''he/she is nice, smart, with nice soul but i have nothing to do with him/her" ... isn't? At any case I told about my way...FOR ME IMPORTANT PHYSICAL ATTRACTION PLUS A RIGHT WAY OF COMMUNICATION .... :-) hard to meet 2in 1 :-)
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If people had no pictures at all on their profile we suffer from one form of sensory deprivation and are forced to use other measures to find someone compatible. ie: personality, intelligence, wit.
Some of the nicest people I have met on this site never had pictures on their profile.
What do you all think? Do we place expectations on others too much? Have we unintentionally narrowed our search options because we have become shallow; and as a society and our moral code has flown out the window?
I understand when someone states that physical attraction is conducive to a healthy relationship but doesn't one become physically attracted to the persona as well? Physical attraction fades, inner beauty will always remain.