Just wondering whether anyone has had any terrible experiences with their SO's children. If so, how did you manage to overcome the problem.
I recently separated from my SO after a 12 month relationship. It all started well until I altered SO's way of thinking regarding his daughters horrible treatment of him. They were spoiled, jealous, abusive when they didn't get what they wanted, and toxic to his emotional state. Aided by their BM who then claimed $300.00 per week for child support for the youngest (16). Our relationship fell to pieces because of the 25 years of mental strain he has been carrying around on his back. Instead of working towards a positive future that we could share, he was fixated on the fact that he lost his daughters to their mother who in turn had held an ongoing affair behind SO's back for 10 years WITH HIS OWN UNCLE. Altogether they played happy families and accepted what their mother had done but wouldn't accept me (because I didn't approve of their vindictive and horrid attitudes). He and I broke up 10 days ago when we had a huge argument. I feel like he has taken me on a scenic route through his private history of hell and has made absolutely no effort to fix the issues that burden him; no effort to heal the hate and pain.
Casey should have been trialed for conspiracy after the fact. In some way, she was at least an accomplice in the disappearance and murder of her child. As it stands now, double jeopardy will come into play, so even in the future if they reopen with new evidence she can't be found guilty, even if she is.
It's probably something you needed to learn for yourself. This thread here is much the same. People can say what they like, but only those truly curious will pay it any significant attention when reading.
Yes I know John. It's all good though. I wanted a broad response, you can't please all of the people all of the time but I wanted others opinions on this matter all the same.
Sometimes people become so enclosed in their own little world that they don't see thing anything wrong. I was hoping this thread would show me -and maybe others- that various peoples personal experiences or povs of their relationships, likes and dislikes may in some small way help us all in our own endeavours to find a partner.
my question was posed in relation to the 'lead up' of love. Attraction happens in the beginning, love happens later, but what do you like, need and hate in order to fall in love with the other person... see the difference?
Why is it sad? I was in a relationship for over 19 years before setting foot on this site. I have never been married and my relationship lasted longer than a lot of legitimate weddings.
Whilst the memories and photos of weddings are lovely to look at, they are not essential to fulfillment and whilst I believe in the constitution of marriage I don't feel the need to show everyone else how much I love my partner because I have a piece of paper stating so.
IMO, legitimate marriages end in costly drama. If you want to get married and have memories and photos to look back on... go have a pagan ceremony, if you're that keen.
Well, I am. I'm not trying overly hard to find someone mind, but I've noticed a shallow depth to some people and at this stage in my life I feel I can afford to be a bit choosy in what I am looking for. Maybe my expectations are too high? Personality and wit are huge boons for me and I'd like to feel appreciated for the same?
I guess I'm working on bettering myself so I can contribute more to a relationship if I ever find one again...Uni studies, personal health, learning more about others' relationship values etcetc.
Going back onto the so called 'meat market' has changed in 20 years. Attitudes, expectations, technology; they all have some impact in what defines a relationship now-a-days. The last thing I want is a string of meaningless relationships to my name. So really, I guess the buck stops with me.
hmmm, now see the prob with that is that some men might see this act of friendly spontaneity as 'neediness' or 'dependance'. So when is this custom acceptable and when is it too much?
LoL you had me confused there. I wasn't responding to movember. I was responding in general to the thread but just an fyi, the 'movemeber' you wanted clarification on means mo and november. In other words, the poster means that she doesn't like moutsaches at all except for during the month of November which I gather must be for some sort of fund raising scheme?
Are you sure you create enough friction to get some spark happening with those 2 brain cells? Perhaps you're not holding your tongue right? Swing it to the left....and cross your eyes. Conserve energy!
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Question re: Step Families
Just wondering whether anyone has had any terrible experiences with their SO's children.If so, how did you manage to overcome the problem.
I recently separated from my SO after a 12 month relationship. It all started well until I altered SO's way of thinking regarding his daughters horrible treatment of him. They were spoiled, jealous, abusive when they didn't get what they wanted, and toxic to his emotional state. Aided by their BM who then claimed $300.00 per week for child support for the youngest (16). Our relationship fell to pieces because of the 25 years of mental strain he has been carrying around on his back. Instead of working towards a positive future that we could share, he was fixated on the fact that he lost his daughters to their mother who in turn had held an ongoing affair behind SO's back for 10 years WITH HIS OWN UNCLE. Altogether they played happy families and accepted what their mother had done but wouldn't accept me (because I didn't approve of their vindictive and horrid attitudes). He and I broke up 10 days ago when we had a huge argument. I feel like he has taken me on a scenic route through his private history of hell and has made absolutely no effort to fix the issues that burden him; no effort to heal the hate and pain.