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Jul 3, 2011 11:32 PM CST I Know You!
gsmonks
gsmonksgsmonksSpalding, Saskatchewan Canada20 Threads 10 Polls 386 Posts
Picture yourself on a lazy day, with nothing much to do besides window-shop and kill time. You do something you don't normally do- you meander from shop to shop, taking your time, stopping to look at flowers, even though you don't plan to buy any. But it's the kind of day when it's nice to wander through a flower shop, admiring the hanging baskets and wind-chimes and kitchy lawn-ornaments, when suddenly you become aware of a presence! Someone nearby with their back to you, unaware that you're even there. And then that person turns around, and your eyes lock, and it's as if you've known them all your life, even though you've never seen them before. In the same instant you feel a visceral attraction, as though this is the person you belong with!

Everything about that person seems comfortable and familiar- the way they stand, the way they're dressed, the way they act and move. The person strangely fits no preconception you've ever had about someone you'd wanted to meet. Despite the feeling of familiarity, you're in entirely unfamiliar waters.

And then you notice the wedding-ring, and the small child, unnoticed before, clutching their skirt or pant-leg, and you realise that it can never be, yet you wonder if that person felt the way you did, if only for an instant.

Anything like this ever happen to you?
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Jul 4, 2011 12:37 AM CST I Know You!
Dagosto
DagostoDagostoKnoxville, Tennessee USA74 Threads 15 Polls 3,076 Posts
Nope, can't say as it has, to me. Yet you paint a delightfully evocative picture of the scenario. Were you to develop this premise into some work of fiction, I'd say you had a winner of a story on your hands. What would the protagonist do? What would the outcome be? Could it be happy -- the ring is pending divorce finalization, the child a niece or nephew? Or could it be a story of doomed and star-crossed lovers, meant for one another, yet met too late, too late? Only you know, storyteller. But I'm intrigued and want to hear the rest.

wine
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Jul 4, 2011 2:32 AM CST I Know You!
Liebe2
Liebe2Liebe2Salmiya, Hawalli Kuwait12 Threads 3,449 Posts
It takes me less to notice the wedding band. I turn around and walk away quickly. No wondering how he feels, for it's irrelevant dancing
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Jul 4, 2011 3:44 AM CST I Know You!
mariespoodles
mariespoodlesmariespoodlesSydney, New South Wales Australia25 Threads 1,648 Posts
Not the wedding ring part but yes, the familiar part happened.

By the time I really knew why I was so drawn to him, I was married. After many yrs of struggling to make it work, we finally sank.

I realised after being with that person for yrs, I had attracted the same emotional issues I had not resolved with my father. Emotional unavailability and how to recognise the mind games attached and how not to play them, was to be my lesson.

My marriage to this person mirrored that of my mother and fathers relationship (never thought highly of it) grrrrr!! mumbling ... I fell into the trap of history repeating itself... old patterns... It was sooooo familiar to me...

Ha! no wonder it was all so familiar... it was what I already knew... what I was already comfortable with (subconsciously)... I believed it was a winner with my whole head & heart @ the time, while my inner knowing totally knew it was sooo utterly dysfunctional and wrong for me... it almost broke me. blues

Although time to heal and not seeking @ this point is my main focus right now, it turns out that I'm totally over Emotionally Unavailable Syndrome doh doh doh

The up side is, I learnt more about myself and gained a wonderful son out of it!!! wine yay yay
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