Men doing a runner..... (122)
LittleWomanMullingar, Westmeath Ireland2 Threads 27 PostsAw thanks a million biggles90000 
Oh I do know that Blipper2000 and their first text clearly lets me know they like me but I'd much prefer them being blunt from the off and tell me.... After all I'm a big girl now!! 
Thanks for the hugs :hugs:
Thanks for the hugs :hugs:
Do u not think u should be honest from the start sharina? I have 5 kids too and I'm always honest from the start explaining that they don't all live with me anymore coz of college etc. but they still do a runner.... Would u prefer to get to know someone first, maybe like them a bit only for them to do a runner once u tell them the truth??
Well rosii I definitely don't want anymore children and I've stated that on my profile. I'm lookin for someone for me now....
I agree with u totally howlingwolf, the last fella I dated had no kids but said he loved kids. He got on very well with mine but eventually asked me to choose between him and my children because he couldn't understand why my children always had to come first and was jealous of the relationship I had with my children. So I showed him the door....Nicely!
Well said bmcq1... Men and women need to understand that ur children will always come first....
While I respect single parents and all they do for their kids. There's no way I would date one, a relationship would just be totally out of the question for me. I've been there and done that and it was a disaster. I'd happily befriend them and all of that but when it comes to relationships, no way.
Again, please do not take this as a dis against single parents, because it's not - just in my personal experiences and opinions, its a deal breaker. Relationship wise - I don't want to take on anyones former relationship baggage. With kids in the picture, it also brings ex's into the picture and that gets messy at the best of times.
Again, please do not take this as a dis against single parents, because it's not - just in my personal experiences and opinions, its a deal breaker. Relationship wise - I don't want to take on anyones former relationship baggage. With kids in the picture, it also brings ex's into the picture and that gets messy at the best of times.
my fiance has 3 children 2 living at home
now they are grown up in eldest is 24 next 2 is 20 and 21
only problem i have with them is getting to clean up and help round the house
but i wouldnd trade them for anything as much a part of my family as my fiance
now they are grown up in eldest is 24 next 2 is 20 and 21
only problem i have with them is getting to clean up and help round the house
but i wouldnd trade them for anything as much a part of my family as my fiance
LittleWoman: Well said bmcq1... Men and women need to understand that ur children will always come first....
hiya, if ya click the "quote" thingy on the right it'll quote the post your replying too 
Sativa_Soul: While I respect single parents and all they do for their kids. There's no way I would date one, a relationship would just be totally out of the question for me. I've been there and done that and it was a disaster. I'd happily befriend them and all of that but when it comes to relationships, no way.
Again, please do not take this as a dis against single parents, because it's not - just in my personal experiences and opinions, its a deal breaker. Relationship wise - I don't want to take on anyones former relationship baggage. With kids in the picture, it also brings ex's into the picture and that gets messy at the best of times.
Again, please do not take this as a dis against single parents, because it's not - just in my personal experiences and opinions, its a deal breaker. Relationship wise - I don't want to take on anyones former relationship baggage. With kids in the picture, it also brings ex's into the picture and that gets messy at the best of times.
very honest sativa_soul
i got thinking earlier..no less when washing my kitchen floor lol
the OP should count herself lucky in some ways..
she got rid of very unsuitable people nice and early on..
i got thinking within my own situation....
who i am now ...is a product of me having my 3 wonderful children..and the experiences thru being a mother and also a human.,
being around my kids shows my softer side, they may have even created the woman i am now, in relation to how i deal with the small things and big things in life...they certainly put me into perspective and all around me..and they give me joy..and bring it to others too.
if someone gets to know me..they get to know a mother..as well as a woman.
if someones not into kids dont come near me..not saying they have to be the biggest fan of kids..but my kids are part of me..and I am part of them and if someone got to know and love me..they would see my nurturing and personality in them 3 little humans too and grow to at least like n care for them..but they wont be their daddy..a good influence in their life tho is always welcome.
they have a daddy already and my relationship with my ex would never interfere with a new one...
kids coming first..that sentence doesnt suit me..everyone is on an even playing field but it would take a strange person to expect u to put them ahead of ur babies..but as kids are kids and adults understand more..well thats how it shoudl go..bitta love n understanding..
cos thats the meaning of life isnt it.. Love?
sorry i know its long winded and blah blah..but its just something i had to put out there..as a parent.
fifitheminx: well i didnt mean it in the sense of men who didnt like kids..more in the sense of another mans kids..
yeah i see how that coulda been taken up wrong i apologise and yeah i see ur point..ur personal preference is exactly that ..urs , personal and a preference and ur entitled to that..
u know what u want...and are willing straight off to state it.
yeah i see how that coulda been taken up wrong i apologise and yeah i see ur point..ur personal preference is exactly that ..urs , personal and a preference and ur entitled to that..
u know what u want...and are willing straight off to state it.
thanks... and yes.. i am a pretty straightforward person. I have nothing but respect for single mums, i just get annoyed sometimes when i see the comments that disrespect guys who don''t want to get involved with single mums. There are many reasons why men choose not to, and nobody can know another persons reasons so shouldn't judge. JMO
fifitheminx: thats the thing..
its not their kids thats the problem..communicating to the woman its the ex, fact u want to be her only child provider, or whatever reason is not being given..
its blaming her kids..
now can u understand why that would get their back up?
its not their kids thats the problem..communicating to the woman its the ex, fact u want to be her only child provider, or whatever reason is not being given..
its blaming her kids..
now can u understand why that would get their back up?
I think 'blaming' is a strong word.. but i can understand that if someone gets involved with a single parent, then uses the kids as an excuse to get away... that is bad form.. very bad form
fitandfun79: thanks... and yes.. i am a pretty straightforward person. I have nothing but respect for single mums, i just get annoyed sometimes when i see the comments that disrespect guys who don''t want to get involved with single mums. There are many reasons why men choose not to, and nobody can know another persons reasons so shouldn't judge. JMO
my post wasnt in judgement.. what i was trying to convey is..my personal opinion on how i would like to be seen..as a mother..and a woman
i wasnt stripping down any man, or menfolk..i kinda like them too much to have a negative view on them..if u read what i said its not in judgement and its kinda not directed at u...u can read on a profile a woman has kids and avoid her..
i havent had any problems with men and my kids..yet
fifitheminx: my post wasnt in judgement.. what i was trying to convey is..my personal opinion on how i would like to be seen..as a mother..and a woman
i wasnt stripping down any man, or menfolk..i kinda like them too much to have a negative view on them..if u read what i said its not in judgement and its kinda not directed at u...u can read on a profile a woman has kids and avoid her..
i havent had any problems with men and my kids..yet
i wasnt stripping down any man, or menfolk..i kinda like them too much to have a negative view on them..if u read what i said its not in judgement and its kinda not directed at u...u can read on a profile a woman has kids and avoid her..
i havent had any problems with men and my kids..yet
agreed completley.. if a guy doesn't want to get involved with a single mam, he should stay away from single mums.. :)
fitandfun79: agreed completley.. if a guy doesn't want to get involved with a single mam, he should stay away from single mums.. :)
exactly.. not all do tho.. sadly..
same with men with kids.. if a woman isnt comfortable with the whole thing she should really not get involved with them...its about knowing who u are and what ur capable of.
fitandfun79: agreed completley.. if a guy doesn't want to get involved with a single mam, he should stay away from single mums.. :)
exactly.. not all do tho.. sadly..
same with men with kids.. if a woman isnt comfortable with the whole thing she should really not get involved with them...its about knowing who u are and what ur capable of.
fifitheminx: exactly.. not all do tho.. sadly..
same with men with kids.. if a woman isnt comfortable with the whole thing she should really not get involved with them...its about knowing who u are and what ur capable of.
same with men with kids.. if a woman isnt comfortable with the whole thing she should really not get involved with them...its about knowing who u are and what ur capable of.
fifitheminx: my post wasnt in judgement.. what i was trying to convey is..my personal opinion on how i would like to be seen..as a mother..and a woman
i wasnt stripping down any man, or menfolk..i kinda like them too much to have a negative view on them..if u read what i said its not in judgement and its kinda not directed at u...u can read on a profile a woman has kids and avoid her..
i havent had any problems with men and my kids..yet
i wasnt stripping down any man, or menfolk..i kinda like them too much to have a negative view on them..if u read what i said its not in judgement and its kinda not directed at u...u can read on a profile a woman has kids and avoid her..
i havent had any problems with men and my kids..yet
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J/K 
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