Dating in hope...... (38)
Glengirl: To follow on from Chancers poll....
If someone had on their profile that they don't want children, and you do, would you date them anyway, in the hope that they might change their mind?
This question is posed to both male and female posters
If someone had on their profile that they don't want children, and you do, would you date them anyway, in the hope that they might change their mind?
This question is posed to both male and female posters
I'd date them wondering if they're possibly my soulmate. At this stage I could take it or leave it as far as having kids was concerned. I'm not a big believer in dealbreakers... as long as they're tidy and don't go to mass too often.
Glengirl: To follow on from Chancers poll....
If someone had on their profile that they don't want children, and you do, would you date them anyway, in the hope that they might change their mind?
This question is posed to both male and female posters
If someone had on their profile that they don't want children, and you do, would you date them anyway, in the hope that they might change their mind?
This question is posed to both male and female posters
i think you can take with a pinch of salt what people put in their profiles
jaette: i think you can take with a pinch of salt what people put in their profiles
Most of it, yes, but I think people would give an honest answer to the children question
delamer: I'd date them wondering if they're possibly my soulmate. At this stage I could take it or leave it as far as having kids was concerned. I'm not a big believer in dealbreakers... as long as they're tidy and don't go to mass too often.
For some strange reason, I have this image of frequent mass goers being ultra tidy
Glengirl: To follow on from Chancers poll....
If someone had on their profile that they don't want children, and you do, would you date them anyway, in the hope that they might change their mind?
This question is posed to both male and female posters
If someone had on their profile that they don't want children, and you do, would you date them anyway, in the hope that they might change their mind?
This question is posed to both male and female posters
it's a dealbreaker for me... if someone doesn't want kids i won't waste their time or mine.. i want kids someday.. simples
Glengirl: Most of it, yes, but I think people would give an honest answer to the children question
no i have found that is the one question you will definitely not get an honest answer to, for various reasons
fitandfun79: it's a dealbreaker for me... if someone doesn't want kids i won't waste their time or mine.. i want kids someday.. simples
Just as a follow on from this...if you met someone, got on well but very soon after you found out she couldn't have kids would it still be a dealbreaker?
skyblue43: Just as a follow on from this...if you met someone, got on well but very soon after you found out she couldn't have kids would it still be a dealbreaker?
good point.. one i've often thought about... that's completly different.. if i fell in love with someone who wanted kids, but for whatever reason we couldn't have kids together, i'm sure id be devastated but would NOT break up/divorce/seperate, whatever..
Glengirl: To follow on from Chancers poll....
If someone had on their profile that they don't want children, and you do, would you date them anyway, in the hope that they might change their mind?
This question is posed to both male and female posters
this is slightly off the point but i dont think i could date a girl with kidsIf someone had on their profile that they don't want children, and you do, would you date them anyway, in the hope that they might change their mind?
This question is posed to both male and female posters
unouwantme2: this is slightly off the point but i dont think i could date a girl with kids
Off the point, but a good one all the same. Any particular reason?
fitandfun79: good point.. one i've often thought about... that's completly different.. if i fell in love with someone who wanted kids, but for whatever reason we couldn't have kids together, i'm sure id be devastated but would NOT break up/divorce/seperate, whatever..
Yeah I think its most peoples answer...but it does show that kids are an absolute 100% necessity for you...
skyblue43: Yeah I think its most peoples answer...but it does show that kids are an absolute 100% necessity for you...
they are.. i do want a family... i do want to be a dad (a good one hopefully)... i guess it's important that someone i want to settle down with wants the same thing. The idea of having a family is important to me
Glengirl: Oh, don't go there
I dare not.
I've made my point anyway. 
Glengirl: Off the point, but a good one all the same. Any particular reason?
call it greedy if you like but just couldnt be with a girl who has kids from another lad, especially if he is still constantly in my gf's life along with the kids.. i just think me(who loves going out) getting it on with a girl who has 1 or more kids is an open wound for disasterfitandfun79: they are.. i do want a family... i do want to be a dad (a good one hopefully)... i guess it's important that someone i want to settle down with wants the same thing. The idea of having a family is important to me
I know its difficult to be specific but at what point in a relationship would you raise the question......and also as regards not breaking up would there be some point in time that would need to be passed...ie...If you were dating someone for 5 years and engaged to be married and you found out she could not have kids you would stay in the relationship. If you met a girl one night, got on well and in conversation she happened to mention she could not have kids I'm guessing you'd not look for a second date...do you have a notional cut off point?
unouwantme2: call it greedy if you like but just couldnt be with a girl who has kids from another lad, especially if he is still constantly in my gf's life along with the kids.. i just think me(who loves going out) getting it on with a girl who has 1 or more kids is an open wound for disaster
An honest answer, and there's nothing wrong with that. If you're not comfortable with the fact that she already has kids, it's better for everyone that you stay away
skyblue43: I know its difficult to be specific but at what point in a relationship would you raise the question......and also as regards not breaking up would there be some point in time that would need to be passed...ie...If you were dating someone for 5 years and engaged to be married and you found out she could not have kids you would stay in the relationship. If you met a girl one night, got on well and in conversation she happened to mention she could not have kids I'm guessing you'd not look for a second date...do you have a notional cut off point?
lot to answer there...
and to be honest, i don't know how well i can answer it. as regards your past point, yes there would be no second date if it came up in conversation that she wanted no kids.
yes, if i was engaged and with someone years and we found out she couldnt have kids, as long as i loved her (which i should if im engaged) then i would stay. (there is always adoption)
I'll put it like this, it's a dealbreaker for me if it comes up when i first start seeing someone that they don't want kids.
There is no specific 'cut off point'.
fitandfun79: lot to answer there...
and to be honest, i don't know how well i can answer it. as regards your past point, yes there would be no second date if it came up in conversation that she wanted no kids.
yes, if i was engaged and with someone years and we found out she couldnt have kids, as long as i loved her (which i should if im engaged) then i would stay. (there is always adoption)
I'll put it like this, it's a dealbreaker for me if it comes up when i first start seeing someone that they don't want kids.
There is no specific 'cut off point'.
and to be honest, i don't know how well i can answer it. as regards your past point, yes there would be no second date if it came up in conversation that she wanted no kids.
yes, if i was engaged and with someone years and we found out she couldnt have kids, as long as i loved her (which i should if im engaged) then i would stay. (there is always adoption)
I'll put it like this, it's a dealbreaker for me if it comes up when i first start seeing someone that they don't want kids.
There is no specific 'cut off point'.
Makes sense...I remember when I was faced with the possibility of no kids within my marriage and it scared me...thankfully things changed...
skyblue43: Makes sense...I remember when I was faced with the possibility of no kids within my marriage and it scared me...thankfully things changed...
glad to hear that
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If someone had on their profile that they don't want children, and you do, would you date them anyway, in the hope that they might change their mind?
This question is posed to both male and female posters