A recent discussion in the forums made me realise that some people use these terms interchangeably.
I feel they don't mean the same ... in fact I would go as far as to say that someone who is very sentimental could at the very same time be extremely un-romantic.
Do you think that the emotion that generates being sentimental is the same one that generates being romantic?
How do you or have you experienced these two emotions?
Hola WB, I agree they are not the same but there is a certain amount of romanticism attached to sentimentality. But it has no active purpose, it is dead energy, comforting perhaps to the individual, but it only lives in memory, not in the here and now like romantic energy can and should be.
A recent discussion in the forums made me realise that some people use these terms interchangeably.
I feel they don't mean the same ... in fact I would go as far as to say that someone who is very sentimental could at the very same time be extremely un-romantic.
Do you think that the emotion that generates being sentimental is the same one that generates being romantic?
How do you or have you experienced these two emotions?
How do you feel about them?
I'm sentimental for my very 1st love. She was a nymph. Had I only known everyone else would be different.
A recent discussion in the forums made me realise that some people use these terms interchangeably.
I feel they don't mean the same ... in fact I would go as far as to say that someone who is very sentimental could at the very same time be extremely un-romantic.
Do you think that the emotion that generates being sentimental is the same one that generates being romantic?
How do you or have you experienced these two emotions?
RDM59: Hola WB, I agree they are not the same but there is a certain amount of romanticism attached to sentimentality. But it has no active purpose, it is dead energy, comforting perhaps to the individual, but it only lives in memory, not in the here and now like romantic energy can and should be.
Hey you!!!!
Yeah! I like the way you describe sentimental as dead energy and romantic as in the here and now!! Makes sense!!
RDM59: Hola WB, I agree they are not the same but there is a certain amount of romanticism attached to sentimentality. But it has no active purpose, it is dead energy, comforting perhaps to the individual, but it only lives in memory, not in the here and now like romantic energy can and should be.
Hey you!!!!
Yeah! I like the way you describe sentimental as dead energy and romantic as in the here and now!! Makes sense!!
I am not sentimental.There are no photos in my house,no keepsakes ect. However i am romantic,and love nothing better than to romance a woman i care for. I see sentiment as a personal feeling,memories off,something someone wants to hold on to for whatever reason,and i see romance as something i can give to someone else.
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
time4fun4u: I am not sentimental.There are no photos in my house,no keepsakes ect. However i am romantic,and love nothing better than to romance a woman i care for. I see sentiment as a personal feeling,memories off,something someone wants to hold on to for whatever reason,and i see romance as something i can give to someone else.
To me, the difference between being sentimental and being romantic is not just that one is related to the past and the other is related to the present but also relates to who you have the feeling for...
For example you can be sentimental about a childhood memory, an event in the past, old photos, etc Your child, Your parents, Old friends, family,
But romantic feelings are only for a lover, a partner, a special person who you have "different" feelings towards I mean you don't feel romantic towards your parents or children but you can be sentimental about them
jac379: I've done all those things for my daughter, but that wouldn't be classed as romance.
To me, its just normal.
I think its pretty self indulgent of me when I do things like this because I gain pleasure out of someone else's pleasure.
How is that different from the self indulgence of sentimentality?
I think i see the differance as doing it for someone for whom i have special feelings differant to what one has for family or friends ect. What you say,what you write,what your actions are,i would suggest wpould be differant to your lover as opposed to a family member or friend.
jac379: I've done all those things for my daughter, but that wouldn't be classed as romance.
To me, its just normal.
I think its pretty self indulgent of me when I do things like this because I gain pleasure out of someone else's pleasure.
How is that different from the self indulgence of sentimentality?
Hi jac And I agree with your post, as I too have done the exact same things for my family.
I think, perhaps unlike you, that sentimentality and romanticism are linked in that I have found the men I´ve known who are sentimental also have a romantic nature.
Out of curiosity, what would you deem to be a romantic act? I have my own opinion on this, but I´d be interested in hearing yours.
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
time4fun4u: I think i see the differance as doing it for someone for whom i have special feelings differant to what one has for family or friends ect. What you say,what you write,what your actions are,i would suggest wpould be differant to your lover as opposed to a family member or friend.
Ok, so the tone might be different for a lover as opposed to a friend, or family member, but it strikes me the difference that is criticised between sentimentality and romance is to do with self-indulgence.
Admitedly, if a friend is departed, it has no effect upon them if you keep a button, a scarf, or a dog collar. To me, its an attempt at retaining a connection with that person through a memory aid.
Having said that, maybe if the person has departed, its less self-indulgent. If we buy a gift, or do something to please another who is still around, in part we expect some kind of return for that - their pleasure, or continued interest, whatever.
Is their any such thing as true altruism and is romance any "purer" than sentimentality?
no, senitmental and being romantic are definitely not the same. I am not a romantic but I am sentimal about certain things which do not relect around love or romance.
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
JAN_is: Hi jac And I agree with your post, as I too have done the exact same things for my family.
I think, perhaps unlike you, that sentimentality and romanticism are linked in that I have found the men I´ve known who are sentimental also have a romantic nature.
Out of curiosity, what would you deem to be a romantic act? I have my own opinion on this, but I´d be interested in hearing yours.
Hi Jan
I honestly couldn't tell you that which I deem a romantic act. I'm not sure whether its a matter of semantics, or whether I'm too Aspergic to get it, or whether I'm just too cynical.
I certainly don't think making a comercial fuss over something like Valentine's, or anniversaries is romantic. I find all that kind of stuff rather cringeworthy. Its a bit like, "on such and such date you have to be nice!". Ergo, I can see the merit in sponteneity.
However, if I see a book that someone would gain pleasure from, or flowers, does it make a difference whether I have thought of a friend, family member, or lover, other than the expectation of return?
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
JAN_is: Hi jac And I agree with your post, as I too have done the exact same things for my family.
I think, perhaps unlike you, that sentimentality and romanticism are linked in that I have found the men I´ve known who are sentimental also have a romantic nature.
Out of curiosity, what would you deem to be a romantic act? I have my own opinion on this, but I´d be interested in hearing yours.
PS. Jan, I've just re-read your comment. I think romance and sentimentality are inextricably linked, as I commented earlier after reading the definitions in my Oxford.
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
Sunnydaze14: To me, the difference between being sentimental and being romantic is not just that one is related to the past and the other is related to the present but also relates to who you have the feeling for...
For example you can be sentimental about a childhood memory, an event in the past, old photos, etc Your child, Your parents, Old friends, family,
But romantic feelings are only for a lover, a partner, a special person who you have "different" feelings towards I mean you don't feel romantic towards your parents or children but you can be sentimental about themOMG I thought a bit too much about that didnt I?
So romance is sentimentality, specifically towards a lover?
In which case, as the Oxford implies, to an extent the two are interchangeable.
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A recent discussion in the forums made me realise that some people use these terms interchangeably.
I feel they don't mean the same ... in fact I would go as far as to say that someone who is very sentimental could at the very same time be extremely un-romantic.
Do you think that the emotion that generates being sentimental is the same one that generates being romantic?
How do you or have you experienced these two emotions?
How do you feel about them?