How important is logic in a relationship? (31)

Never fear... when Smoky is near! She provides the answers to Life's Problems.
PERSONAL SACRIFICE: Imagine being in love with someone who doesnt believe in THAT. Its a luxury to just climb out the bath and leave the dirty ring around it, huh? Grotty to have to take cleaning fluid and bend down and mess up your nice clean smelling hands and clean your grot from the bath and then rinse it out and then dry it nice and clean and shiny... for the next person.... Thats Personal Sacrifice.
Imagine... going to take your bath, theres this grot stuck around the high water mark and grot along the bottom of the bath, the soaps all gooey from lying in water, the bathmat is scrunched up and wet, hairs stuck all over the place, towels lying in a heap, toilet not flushed....... Thats NOT Personal Sacrifice..... Thats Selfishness.
(my opinion anyway)
Scenario No 2.... You got the day off. Your partner is late for work. You dash down to the underground garage, extricate the auto and park it ready in front of the house for a quick get-away..... THATS Personal Sacrifice (you could have stayed buried under the duvet). In return, your partner drops off your library books for you after work, making them about half an hour late getting home, so you can have an un-interupted day off.
THATS how Personal Sacrifice works.... Give a little, Take a little... all the way down the line.

What you think about that? To have a relationship that works, can only work on that principle? Otherwise you gonna have gross selfishness, with one person being the doormat, and the other wiping their feet!

Hello my Cyber son! You such a clever person..... and now Aunty Smoky is going to give you some homework to do.........

Next time you meet someone you like.... take a BIG breath, LEAN BACK, RELAX, and wait for THEM to make an impression on YOU. Be cool, calm, and think "James Bond 007".

OR ... Look for Freeze's Thread on Tips for Men..... its the same thing actually... mine's just a bit shorter and easier to remember.

And then dont forget to let me know how it worked out.... okay?

Hi Riziwan...... thought you had left us? Nice to see you popping in now and again.. What you up to since we last saw you?

A long term relationship is a joint commitment, which includes sacrifices. No-one can "offer your sacrifices"... that is an illogical thought-wave...a sacrifice is something that is willingly offered by a person and that which affects the sacrifice donor, it cannot be offered by someone else.

If you had a partner who "offered your sacrifices".... do tell, how did this work? Did she tell people "I'm offering to do your laundry for you" and then call you "Mostdesired! you gotta go do Mrs Smith's laundry!" and you toddled along and did it? And you let this sort of thing go on and on? giving everything that she offered freely to others? If that was the scenario, no wonder you got a wasp up your butt now!

Commitment is not "forcibly reaching an agreement". If you go into business together with someone, you make commitments to your arrangement.... I do this, and you do that. Sacrifices work when you have commitment in your heart... its not a grudge bearing excercise.

May I make a suggestion here? Try reading right thru the threads before doing your postings.... because the way you go round in circles is a bit mind-numbing, and takes the fun out of this Forum.

Dear Master of the Universe, Now YOU read slowly, preferably give up breathing altogether, and understand something here.... there is an art, ART, to being able to write with IRONY and SARCASM... and you do not have this ability. You are coming over as pathetic. I do not know what your mother-language is, but if you are attempting to write in English as a foster language, do not attempt Irony or Sarcasm, it is not possible without a full understanding of a language, because you have not the style to accomplish this. You are only making a fool of yourself.

So now I am "playing the ridicule" (?), have read your posting, expressed my opinion, and am now "giving all the fun back" to you...
and Yes, I am looking smart too.... whatever that is supposed to mean.

And seeing that you want to refer to me as "Sweetheart"... try reading some of "Bigbossboom"s postings.... there was a MAN (I am assuming you ARE a man?... or at least a sort of a man?) who could use that word as it is supposed to be used. I am afraid that you have not the ability to use that word either, so suggest you leave that out of your vituperative vocabulary at the moment, it is not appreciated. I have words \I would like to use as endearments to you too... but this is a decent Forum, so will refrain from it... for now anyway.