Affection or Suffocation (4)
I think all the times I've experienced this, its not affection that I've found stiffling, its power and control issues cloaked with and disguised as affection.
How do I deal with it?
How do I deal with it?
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jac379: I think all the times I've experienced this, its not affection that I've found stiffling, its power and control issues cloaked with and disguised as affection.
How do I deal with it?
How do I deal with it?
Yeah FLY...
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This is a good question, thought provoking 
If I think back to past relationships where I've felt smothered, it's the ones where that person is unable to give me one minute to myself, constantly calling, text messaging etc.
While at first this is fun and probably to be expected, when it goes on and on and particularly when you've mentioned that you're intending to spend time with family, or simply relaxing alone, I start feeling pressured and uncomfortable.
In the instances where I've realised that the relationship just isn't going to work, and said so, that attention then escalates
and makes me even more determined to end the whole thing 
In thinking back about these situations, no, I'm sure I did the right thing as I can't be somebody's everything, sometimes I need to breathe.
If I think back to past relationships where I've felt smothered, it's the ones where that person is unable to give me one minute to myself, constantly calling, text messaging etc.
While at first this is fun and probably to be expected, when it goes on and on and particularly when you've mentioned that you're intending to spend time with family, or simply relaxing alone, I start feeling pressured and uncomfortable.
In the instances where I've realised that the relationship just isn't going to work, and said so, that attention then escalates
and makes me even more determined to end the whole thing In thinking back about these situations, no, I'm sure I did the right thing as I can't be somebody's everything, sometimes I need to breathe.
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What triggers that feeling of being smothered in you and what do you do to handle it?
Have you ever looked back and thought that maybe you made a mistake in not giving it enough time to balance itself out?
I have been on both sides of this situation and am curious to see how differently men handle these issues than women.