Am I wrong to expect honesty here? (59)
Sunny143christchurch, Canterbury New Zealand112 Threads 20 Polls 1,093 PostsLibertus: So if words mean nothing......... what are we doing here?
we are just having fun here
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Libertus: I have been on this site on and off for nearly two years now. I have yet to find an honest and upfront woman. Many say they are, but I find after we chat for a while, problems arise and stories change. Am I expecting too much? If we are honest from the start do we attract less people? I am sure this is not a gender thing, it must be a human thing..... or am I wrong?
I don't think you are wrong..... however - your profile indicates that you don't even have someone you trust to take your photo..... it seems that the issue is not on honesty from others so much as trust of anyone from you......
just my thoughts...
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Libertus: I have been on this site on and off for nearly two years now. I have yet to find an honest and upfront woman. Many say they are, but I find after we chat for a while, problems arise and stories change. Am I expecting too much? If we are honest from the start do we attract less people? I am sure this is not a gender thing, it must be a human thing..... or am I wrong?
yes u r right..ther's no honesty here
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Sunny143: we are just having fun here
fun??
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GreenBoots: Spend any amount of time around people,
you get your heart broke.
Treachery, hypocrisy, promise of love.
Look into the mouth of a person and
you'll find lies, wriggling there like maggots,
waiting to grow wings.
The world has gone mad.
A man could kill from sun up,
to sunset, and still his work would never be done.(a guy from CSI said this, I think it aplies)
you get your heart broke.
Treachery, hypocrisy, promise of love.
Look into the mouth of a person and
you'll find lies, wriggling there like maggots,
waiting to grow wings.
The world has gone mad.
A man could kill from sun up,
to sunset, and still his work would never be done.(a guy from CSI said this, I think it aplies)
oh ganome oh ganome
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If you consider your spare time precious, and you are a member of this website if you are hoping to find the partner of your dreams by posting on these forums, you are in all likely-hood completely wasting your time.
It depends why your on the site. If it's to find someone to share your life with, look at the statistics alone. You have more chance of being abducted by aliens from planet "Spongebob".
For example, How many people post on the forums, that you have something in common with, that you would like to have a personal relationship with? Then eliminate anyone outside your region.
Try the mathematics, then factor in the chance that that possible one person may feel the same way about you. You have more chance meeting someone during your day to day life! Then factor if if you have the same interests, and you tick all the same boxes that you may or may not find important.
It's far better to go through life open minded and who knows what will come your way. It's a dating website, that's full of disingenuous profiles. If you think it's worth several years of your life messaging every one of them you still won't know if their honest or your ideal partner.
If your using the site as a means to get dates, and your not getting any dates, then it's a case of "Grab Life By The Balls" and go out there and see what the big wide world has to offer.
However if you sit in front of your computer, day after day hoping people will rush into your life, based on posting a short sentence, or using a few emotion characters then you are, most probably wasting your time.
You might meet some nice people to talk to and have them as online friends, and if that is useful and rewarding for you then great. However if you just want a relationship a week after signing up, by mail order then your definitely wasting your time here.
After all, it depends on what you consider your time is worth, and what your willing to put into anything. Do you think me posting a photo proving I'm not an ugly swine will help? Possibly.....but it's going from "Virtually No Chance" to "Possibly".
However if you display an actual personality, some people may like that and get in touch? Good luck anyway!!
It depends why your on the site. If it's to find someone to share your life with, look at the statistics alone. You have more chance of being abducted by aliens from planet "Spongebob".
For example, How many people post on the forums, that you have something in common with, that you would like to have a personal relationship with? Then eliminate anyone outside your region.
Try the mathematics, then factor in the chance that that possible one person may feel the same way about you. You have more chance meeting someone during your day to day life! Then factor if if you have the same interests, and you tick all the same boxes that you may or may not find important.
It's far better to go through life open minded and who knows what will come your way. It's a dating website, that's full of disingenuous profiles. If you think it's worth several years of your life messaging every one of them you still won't know if their honest or your ideal partner.
If your using the site as a means to get dates, and your not getting any dates, then it's a case of "Grab Life By The Balls" and go out there and see what the big wide world has to offer.
However if you sit in front of your computer, day after day hoping people will rush into your life, based on posting a short sentence, or using a few emotion characters then you are, most probably wasting your time.
You might meet some nice people to talk to and have them as online friends, and if that is useful and rewarding for you then great. However if you just want a relationship a week after signing up, by mail order then your definitely wasting your time here.
After all, it depends on what you consider your time is worth, and what your willing to put into anything. Do you think me posting a photo proving I'm not an ugly swine will help? Possibly.....but it's going from "Virtually No Chance" to "Possibly".
However if you display an actual personality, some people may like that and get in touch? Good luck anyway!!
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felixis99: actually from a female perspective -which would be the more relevant in this context - his post is quite accurate purry - but I can also see why it might make some men uncomfortable.
Although I think his post could apply to women as well in their relationships with men - but being that I am not a man, I am not as certain about that
Although I think his post could apply to women as well in their relationships with men - but being that I am not a man, I am not as certain about that
Thanks for your response.
Accurate only because you happen to agree with a posters perception, regarding their painting of a picture of a man without knowing the DEGREE of dishonesty he’s experienced or the particulars surrounding the other parties position.
To attempt to size one up with what limited expression the man has expressed within this thread is based on nothing more then assumptions, unless the two have had ongoing private correspondence that I’m unaware of.
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jono7: i think you're probably right.
but i draw a line in the sand with it between those that lie because of denial and are believing their lie...and those that intentionally lie to others for self gain.
i think everyone has denial, even those who think they are too aware to have it..we all blind spots.
as for the OP's question:
yes, expect honesty.
i think most folks on here find what they think they will find.
but i draw a line in the sand with it between those that lie because of denial and are believing their lie...and those that intentionally lie to others for self gain.
i think everyone has denial, even those who think they are too aware to have it..we all blind spots.
as for the OP's question:
yes, expect honesty.
i think most folks on here find what they think they will find.
Sorry sweetie. Whatever the case may be, it still stands.
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I promise you i'll never to ask you personal questions
Only on revelation time once every week.
Only on revelation time once every week. felixis99: you found the words I could not locate! Yes and also playing 20 questions is NOT getting to know someone - people unfold - the best way to END a friendship is to ask someone to reveal too much, more than they are comfortable with - too soon
if a man pries with a lot of personal questions it is a turn off and makes me suspicious of him
even tho he might just be trying to get to know me - that's not how it's done - I'm not for "hire"
if a man pries with a lot of personal questions it is a turn off and makes me suspicious of him
even tho he might just be trying to get to know me - that's not how it's done - I'm not for "hire"
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Libertus: I have been on this site on and off for nearly two years now. I have yet to find an honest and upfront woman. Many say they are, but I find after we chat for a while, problems arise and stories change. Am I expecting too much? If we are honest from the start do we attract less people? I am sure this is not a gender thing, it must be a human thing..... or am I wrong?
I have been here from sometime...but found more scammers than true ones :(...but the true ones i found are really nice ones.
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Libertus: I do not agree that we can be dishonest in a relationship. We need to trust. If this is not a minimum requirement for you, then how do you expect to have a decent life?
you are absolutely right Libertus ... very well said ,
honesty has to be the basic requirement for any relationship to thrive and flourish . no relationship is going to fare well , based on lies -- and any way ,, lies have a nasty habit of coming back and biting ya on the bum :-)
From honesty , comes trust , good communication , and comfort from the most special and precious person in your life .
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Lonely am I
Lonely are the nights
Lonely are the days
Lonely am I, in so many ways
Lonely are the seasons
Lonely are the years
So lonely am I, that it brings tears.
Lonely is this place
Lonely is my life
Lonely am I, that I reach for a knife
Lonely is this court room
Lonely is my sentence
So lonely am I that I ask for repentance
Lonely are the nights
Lonely are the days
Lonely am I, in so many ways
Lonely are the seasons
Lonely are the years
So lonely am I, that it brings tears.
Lonely is this place
Lonely is my life
Lonely am I, that I reach for a knife
Lonely is this court room
Lonely is my sentence
So lonely am I that I ask for repentance
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Libertus: I have been on this site on and off for nearly two years now. I have yet to find an honest and upfront woman. Many say they are, but I find after we chat for a while, problems arise and stories change. Am I expecting too much? If we are honest from the start do we attract less people? I am sure this is not a gender thing, it must be a human thing..... or am I wrong?
I think one can HOPE for honesty (or anything else for that matter) but to EXPECT often only leads to bitter disappointment. Besides, others are not obliged to conform to what the rest of us may deem appropriate.
Not everyone lives by the same code of conduct, my friend. Maintain a charitable nature towards others despite their sub-standard behaviour at times and you may be able to hold the moral high ground. Rise above it.....
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STILL!!!! i just posted a thread wondering where you were.i miss several regular posters( including you) and had to email only to find out they are no longer here,or blocked from forums.
p.s. i was wondering because i was also blocked briefly and am getting re-acquainted.
p.s. i was wondering because i was also blocked briefly and am getting re-acquainted.
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chris27292729: I promise you i'll never to ask you personal questions Only on revelation time once every week.
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It´s not wrong to expect honesty anywhere. It is one of the most important aspects of friendship, relationships, business, but more importantly between lovers. However, very few are paragons of virtue and most are quite capable of lying, which leads on to forgiveness and understanding from the person who´s been lied to.......oh my.......what a complicated species we are.
But..........it is still NOT wrong to expect honesty. On the net, it is easier for people to lie, but why worry if you are not directly involved with the party. Unless you actually get involved on a personal basis it´s not really going to affect your life.
But..........it is still NOT wrong to expect honesty. On the net, it is easier for people to lie, but why worry if you are not directly involved with the party. Unless you actually get involved on a personal basis it´s not really going to affect your life.
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you deserve it.
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Libertus: I have been on this site on and off for nearly two years now. I have yet to find an honest and upfront woman. Many say they are, but I find after we chat for a while, problems arise and stories change. Am I expecting too much? If we are honest from the start do we attract less people? I am sure this is not a gender thing, it must be a human thing..... or am I wrong?
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