Top five regrets of the dying.. (48)
WadeWilson: beautiful does not do you justice
i fear i must apologise for my poor choice of words
stunning would be more appropriate or even dare i say
heart skippingly stunningly pretty
i fear i must apologise for my poor choice of words
stunning would be more appropriate or even dare i say
heart skippingly stunningly pretty
right so...let's say saturday at 7pm
fifitrixibelle: dont leave yet GS, you`re top of my to do list !
You gotta catch me first
Green_Sleeves: You gotta catch me first
Will never be able to see ya never mind catch ya, am gone cross eyed with all the dancing santas!!
fifitheminx: Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives.
She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.
Damnedd good thread, fifi. I've been pondering this all morning.
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This I've done amid much disapproval. Hey ho.
I've not yet done everything I want to do, but I have time hopefully and things in the pipeline.
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
I worked hard because I had to, but organised it in such a way so as not to miss out on my daughter's childhood. I'm self-employed, the pay has been crap, it involved a lot of sleep deprivation, but a small price to pay for getting to be a mum.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Perhaps its not so much regretting not expressing oneself, but regretting not taking the time to learn, or finding out how to. For all the criticisms of technological communication, perhaps its things like dating website forums which may be key for many in this progression.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
A Taiwanese friend once said to me, "Friendship is like a river. Whichever way it twists and turns, it never runs out."
Friendship can mean many things from life-long bonds to brief exchanges at the bus stop. They are all valuable as part of life's journey and so perhaps we need to view them in a different perspective than regret. The people who are with us when we die are maybe the right ones to be there for whatever reason.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Again, I think this is something that is learned. You can't choose to be happy unless you've learned how to choose.
fifitheminx: What's your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?
This question has stumped me. I think all that has happened has been for a reason (not a fatalistic reason, so much as I dealt with life as it came my way with the skills I had at the time), so things that aren't/weren't ideal I have learned from and I'm still learning from. The not so good things are a part of who I am as well as the good things which brings me back to the first point above.
I have plans for the next part of my journey. If I die before I achieve them, then at least I've tried.
jac379: Damnedd good thread, fifi. I've been pondering this all morning.
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This I've done amid much disapproval. Hey ho.
I've not yet done everything I want to do, but I have time hopefully and things in the pipeline.
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
I worked hard because I had to, but organised it in such a way so as not to miss out on my daughter's childhood. I'm self-employed, the pay has been crap, it involved a lot of sleep deprivation, but a small price to pay for getting to be a mum.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Perhaps its not so much regretting not expressing oneself, but regretting not taking the time to learn, or finding out how to. For all the criticisms of technological communication, perhaps its things like dating website forums which may be key for many in this progression.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
A Taiwanese friend once said to me, "Friendship is like a river. Whichever way it twists and turns, it never runs out."
Friendship can mean many things from life-long bonds to brief exchanges at the bus stop. They are all valuable as part of life's journey and so perhaps we need to view them in a different perspective than regret. The people who are with us when we die are maybe the right ones to be there for whatever reason.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Again, I think this is something that is learned. You can't choose to be happy unless you've learned how to choose.This question has stumped me. I think all that has happened has been for a reason (not a fatalistic reason, so much as I dealt with life as it came my way with the skills I had at the time), so things that aren't/weren't ideal I have learned from and I'm still learning from. The not so good things are a part of who I am as well as the good things which brings me back to the first point above.
I have plans for the next part of my journey. If I die before I achieve them, then at least I've tried.
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This I've done amid much disapproval. Hey ho.
I've not yet done everything I want to do, but I have time hopefully and things in the pipeline.
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
I worked hard because I had to, but organised it in such a way so as not to miss out on my daughter's childhood. I'm self-employed, the pay has been crap, it involved a lot of sleep deprivation, but a small price to pay for getting to be a mum.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Perhaps its not so much regretting not expressing oneself, but regretting not taking the time to learn, or finding out how to. For all the criticisms of technological communication, perhaps its things like dating website forums which may be key for many in this progression.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
A Taiwanese friend once said to me, "Friendship is like a river. Whichever way it twists and turns, it never runs out."
Friendship can mean many things from life-long bonds to brief exchanges at the bus stop. They are all valuable as part of life's journey and so perhaps we need to view them in a different perspective than regret. The people who are with us when we die are maybe the right ones to be there for whatever reason.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Again, I think this is something that is learned. You can't choose to be happy unless you've learned how to choose.This question has stumped me. I think all that has happened has been for a reason (not a fatalistic reason, so much as I dealt with life as it came my way with the skills I had at the time), so things that aren't/weren't ideal I have learned from and I'm still learning from. The not so good things are a part of who I am as well as the good things which brings me back to the first point above.
I have plans for the next part of my journey. If I die before I achieve them, then at least I've tried.
love ur friends view..
friends are people who enhance your happiness..whether it be a short exchange...a comforter from afar or someone u seen everday since u were born...its ur definition and actually links to the first one..living under everyones else expectations.
few things i learned and so glad i did since turning 30....
things that go wrong..the daily lessons..getting hyped about them and feeling like the world is out to get u...is a adolescent way of dealing with things..
unless u can see the tiny lessons and are able to pull it apart like a cooked chicken of emotional training it is, devour it with enjoyment..u will always be 14.
people love you...as they can only love..and if they give u all THEIR love and not what u expect from ur version of love..then what more can u ask for...u are getting their all.
and happiness is a state of mind..not finance or relationship...take finance n relationship away..happiness will remain if the foundation is within urself.
and to my point...
i look forward to learning more..every day..laughing smiling crying loving losing and finding..bring it on!
fifitheminx: love ur friends view..
friends are people who enhance your happiness..whether it be a short exchange...a comforter from afar or someone u seen everday since u were born...its ur definition and actually links to the first one..living under everyones else expectations.
few things i learned and so glad i did since turning 30....
things that go wrong..the daily lessons..getting hyped about them and feeling like the world is out to get u...is a adolescent way of dealing with things..
unless u can see the tiny lessons and are able to pull it apart like a cooked chicken of emotional training it is, devour it with enjoyment..u will always be 14.
people love you...as they can only love..and if they give u all THEIR love and not what u expect from ur version of love..then what more can u ask for...u are getting their all.
and happiness is a state of mind..not finance or relationship...take finance n relationship away..happiness will remain if the foundation is within urself.
and to my point...
i look forward to learning more..every day..laughing smiling crying loving losing and finding..bring it on!
friends are people who enhance your happiness..whether it be a short exchange...a comforter from afar or someone u seen everday since u were born...its ur definition and actually links to the first one..living under everyones else expectations.
few things i learned and so glad i did since turning 30....
things that go wrong..the daily lessons..getting hyped about them and feeling like the world is out to get u...is a adolescent way of dealing with things..
unless u can see the tiny lessons and are able to pull it apart like a cooked chicken of emotional training it is, devour it with enjoyment..u will always be 14.
people love you...as they can only love..and if they give u all THEIR love and not what u expect from ur version of love..then what more can u ask for...u are getting their all.
and happiness is a state of mind..not finance or relationship...take finance n relationship away..happiness will remain if the foundation is within urself.
and to my point...
i look forward to learning more..every day..laughing smiling crying loving losing and finding..bring it on!
You know, for a long time I thought what seemed like the most negative events in my life kind of turned out for the better. It gave me a confidence and optimism, but after a while I realised it was me using the philosophy of 'necessity is the mother of invention' to create out of the hand that was dealt to me. That's given me more confidence and optimism.
So, I agree with your post here, except may I pull apart saffron and cumin braised carrots with broad bean pilaf instead of the chicken?
My biggest regret is mesing someone about years ago who didn't deserve it at all. I should have been straight and honest with them.
The one thing I want to do before I die is go to every single Man U match in a season! Will have to be retired or win the lotto before I can do that one!
The one thing I want to do before I die is go to every single Man U match in a season! Will have to be retired or win the lotto before I can do that one!
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i fear i must apologise for my poor choice of words
stunning would be more appropriate or even dare i say
heart skippingly stunningly pretty