Do shy guys still exist? ( Archived) (82)

I'm at what again?

To all intents and purposes quantifying shyness, or learning differences is irrelevant. The point is, some people are shy and that maybe rooted in a number reasons, one of which might be to do with autistic spectrum traits, another might be to do with lack of confidence, another might be to do with social isolation and lack of practice.

To treat shyness as a weakness as you have done, when it might be socially functional (as current research is trying to ascertain) is to exacerbate the issue for those who find some forms of social contact uncomfortable.

To blame technology for social inadequacy when it can be a tool for greater social contact, social learning and a strategy for coping is yet another example of how you are constantly derogatory about other people's differences.

Perhaps its you who has the greater problem with social skills.

a little i am....
it all depends which kind of woman is standing in front of me...

Dysfunctional is a common theme in our society these days. Almost everyone we meet seems to come from some sort of dysfunctional family, or has been exposed to a friend overcoming the pain of being in one. The word itself conjures up a negativity that makes most “sane” people withdraw, pull back and shy away…not because they lack compassion so much, but more likely because of what it might mean if they truly can relate to such a thing.
It’s a fine line, one with a very sharp edge. To be touched by dysfunction is to be exposed to mental illness. It’s to walk the path of human weakness, a path no human can escape except through the essence of their own denial. Somewhere along the line, people crossed over, embracing their dysfunctional lifestyles, boldly announcing them to the world as if it were some courageous badge of honor – recognition of their bravery for attempting to overcome such a fate.

Yet, if we look at the words defining dysfunction: socially impaired, broken, flawed, unfit, defective, maladjusted, decayed – proudly claiming such a thing is nothing more than a farce, a way to seek attention and yes, deny one’s true worth within the community and society as a whole. It is also a money pit, waiting to be exploited by those who can profit from it.
The overuse of the word dysfunction has created an entirely new phenomenon, providing people with an excuse to quit the game of life on various levels, and generating millions of dollars for those in the mental health industry. According to the Alliance for Human Research Protection, the American Psychiatric Association and pharmaceutical industry “…has invented and promoted diagnostic categories as the names of objective diseases without any solid way to validate them.”

Hello LB76 :)

Thanx for your contribution...

....oh yeah!....that can make a huge difference in the communication-flow and the degree of our mental and emotional alertness....

Cheers :))

Yeah, it looks like you forgot where you started...and turned the thread into some kind of scientific research.

I admire your brain storming but it became a bit boring.
The shy people will feel embarrassed to admit their shyness now.
No offence, please...

Thank you dear :)

I understand that scientific facts are not that interesting to some people....but, some others strive towards the perpetual expansion of their knowledge (vocabulary inclusive), and some do not....they have other interests.....

In any case, it would be not very tactful of me to interfere in my guests' interactions regardless of their preferences for scientific elaborations.....

Hope you can understand that :))

Cheers :))

Dear Lana, yes I do understand perfectly the way you see and want your thread to be. No harm is done I hope with my inadequate post.

Dear Lana, yes I do understand perfectly the way you see and want your thread to be. No harm is done I hope with my inadequate post.

Bingoooo!


Thanx MGH.....heheheheh

Cheers :)