Paying attention to the text in a profile (16)
I used to write back and forth to couple men on here but that was just friendly chat.
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I dont exchange mail to non forum posters:-)
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I have noticed the same in women responders. But even worse most of the women that contact me have a USA address in there profile, and then in there letter ask if distance is problem. Then tell me they live in Africa, or England. Why can women be so dishonest.
Everything in my profile is 100% true. I am not afraid to tell the truth about myself. I know I am not perfect. In a relationship we have to love each other for who we are.
Everything in my profile is 100% true. I am not afraid to tell the truth about myself. I know I am not perfect. In a relationship we have to love each other for who we are.
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I for one do not have the patience to read long profiles, men don't need that. I just check his age, pic, location and a few stuffs from his "about me" if I can have a good mail exchange conversation with him, we meet for coffee after a few days. I don't take profiles seriously, sometimes. I've also noticed that, the men in this part of the world, don't exactly write all those match this and that. Makes life easy. 
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Interesting. So all taken together, it seems as if a profile is pretty much a waste of time and not to be taken serious. :-~
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Migsy: I dont exchange mail to non forum posters:-)
migsy wheres my mail
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Scubadiva: Interesting. So all taken together, it seems as if a profile is pretty much a waste of time and not to be taken serious. :-~
In my opinion, yea.
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barebum61: migsy wheres my mail
It's in the post office.
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Scubadiva: We all have a profile and one thing I've noticed is that the people who write to me either do not read it or deliberately ignore what I wrote in the text and/or what I checked off in the "looking for" box.
Since I'm a woman, I can only speak for what lands in my box from the male side and I don't know whether it's the same for the men.
Anyway, the result is that I have to write a lot of "thank you, but no thank you" notes.
So my questions are:
1) Do you read the profiles and what the women look for?
2) If you see that there are one or more points where you're not a match, do you write anyway?
3) If yes, why?
Are you not taking the profile serious? Are you hoping that nothing's written in stone and that your looks or other qualities win the day? or are you simply playing the odds? or is there another reason?
Same Q for women who take the initiative to write to men. (Me, I don't write to anybody, but if I did and saw a non-matching point, I'd definitely not write).
Since I'm a woman, I can only speak for what lands in my box from the male side and I don't know whether it's the same for the men.
Anyway, the result is that I have to write a lot of "thank you, but no thank you" notes.
So my questions are:
1) Do you read the profiles and what the women look for?
2) If you see that there are one or more points where you're not a match, do you write anyway?
3) If yes, why?
Are you not taking the profile serious? Are you hoping that nothing's written in stone and that your looks or other qualities win the day? or are you simply playing the odds? or is there another reason?
Same Q for women who take the initiative to write to men. (Me, I don't write to anybody, but if I did and saw a non-matching point, I'd definitely not write).
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Migsy: I dont exchange mail to non forum posters:-)
hmmmm....wait a second till I search my inbox to find out ur mails are there
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Wait mate i am still writting scam letters for all forum posters
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I sympathize with you scubadiva. I have the same problem. I specifically say on my profile to NOT send their, or ask for my, private email addy. Yet, that's the FIRST thing almost every guy on here has done. So, I BLOCK them, just as I say I will. Maybe the guys just like to look at the pictures -- cos they can't read, or think this is another form of Playboy Mag. Actually, I presume all of those guys are scammers, so no offense intended to the genuine guys on here.
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Scubadiva: We all have a profile and one thing I've noticed is that the people who write to me either do not read it or deliberately ignore what I wrote in the text and/or what I checked off in the "looking for" box.
Since I'm a woman, I can only speak for what lands in my box from the male side and I don't know whether it's the same for the men.
Anyway, the result is that I have to write a lot of "thank you, but no thank you" notes.
So my questions are:
1) Do you read the profiles and what the women look for?
2) If you see that there are one or more points where you're not a match, do you write anyway?
3) If yes, why?
Are you not taking the profile serious? Are you hoping that nothing's written in stone and that your looks or other qualities win the day? or are you simply playing the odds? or is there another reason?
Same Q for women who take the initiative to write to men. (Me, I don't write to anybody, but if I did and saw a non-matching point, I'd definitely not write).
Since I'm a woman, I can only speak for what lands in my box from the male side and I don't know whether it's the same for the men.
Anyway, the result is that I have to write a lot of "thank you, but no thank you" notes.
So my questions are:
1) Do you read the profiles and what the women look for?
2) If you see that there are one or more points where you're not a match, do you write anyway?
3) If yes, why?
Are you not taking the profile serious? Are you hoping that nothing's written in stone and that your looks or other qualities win the day? or are you simply playing the odds? or is there another reason?
Same Q for women who take the initiative to write to men. (Me, I don't write to anybody, but if I did and saw a non-matching point, I'd definitely not write).
You know, I had my "wish list" of qualities for my lady. But after selecting quite a few "online friends who are female", I realised that I was selling myself short. I realised that what I wanted in a partner was not necessarily the best selection for me, or the most compatible.
So I broadened my criteria and wow was I surprised at my personal growth, and happiness in my relationships.
No two people are ever going to fit exactly to our "specifications". If you find someone that does, wonderful, but I think that you will be selling yourself short on the variety of experiences, personal growth and enrichment that can come from people who you normally wouldn't have anything to do with. You might actually be surprised who you might start to like....
Be picky by all means, but don't knock those who think you are worth getting in contact with despite your "limiting criteria". Just be polite and say no. Give them cudos for at least having the guts to take a risk. Unless they are a scammer of course....
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Almost anyone I've ever been attracted to wrote detailed profiles, and I'm not going to stop doing it because men from certain cultures are believed to not appreciate it. I'm not trying to attract those men. I'm trying to attract someone who is LIKE ME. So how am I supposed to do that if I follow someone elses rules?
I really don't think much will be accomplished by doing it everybody elses way. Personally, I'm not interested in quantity. I go for quality. Sometimes an email slips through because they weren't paying attention, but unless they said something rude, I'm polite with them.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't change our profiles thinking it's going to make a difference. Be yourself and the right person will find you.
I really don't think much will be accomplished by doing it everybody elses way. Personally, I'm not interested in quantity. I go for quality. Sometimes an email slips through because they weren't paying attention, but unless they said something rude, I'm polite with them.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't change our profiles thinking it's going to make a difference. Be yourself and the right person will find you.
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Scubadiva: We all have a profile and one thing I've noticed is that the people who write to me either do not read it or deliberately ignore what I wrote in the text and/or what I checked off in the "looking for" box.
Since I'm a woman, I can only speak for what lands in my box from the male side and I don't know whether it's the same for the men.
Anyway, the result is that I have to write a lot of "thank you, but no thank you" notes.
So my questions are:
1) Do you read the profiles and what the women look for?
2) If you see that there are one or more points where you're not a match, do you write anyway?
3) If yes, why?
Are you not taking the profile serious? Are you hoping that nothing's written in stone and that your looks or other qualities win the day? or are you simply playing the odds? or is there another reason?
Same Q for women who take the initiative to write to men. (Me, I don't write to anybody, but if I did and saw a non-matching point, I'd definitely not write).
Since I'm a woman, I can only speak for what lands in my box from the male side and I don't know whether it's the same for the men.
Anyway, the result is that I have to write a lot of "thank you, but no thank you" notes.
So my questions are:
1) Do you read the profiles and what the women look for?
2) If you see that there are one or more points where you're not a match, do you write anyway?
3) If yes, why?
Are you not taking the profile serious? Are you hoping that nothing's written in stone and that your looks or other qualities win the day? or are you simply playing the odds? or is there another reason?
Same Q for women who take the initiative to write to men. (Me, I don't write to anybody, but if I did and saw a non-matching point, I'd definitely not write).
I pretty much never e-mail anyone I don't know on CS. Its a rarity and reserved for a select few.
I understand though, there are those that will e-mail despite what it says on my profile. That is down to either those who are scammers and its pretty much an automatic message that's sent regardless of who you are or those who don't read properly or those believe that i.e. you are spoken for, they are the one that can change your mind and correspond with them anyways.....
ANY of them come across as remotely attractive...?!
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Since I'm a woman, I can only speak for what lands in my box from the male side and I don't know whether it's the same for the men.
Anyway, the result is that I have to write a lot of "thank you, but no thank you" notes.
So my questions are:
1) Do you read the profiles and what the women look for?
2) If you see that there are one or more points where you're not a match, do you write anyway?
3) If yes, why?
Are you not taking the profile serious? Are you hoping that nothing's written in stone and that your looks or other qualities win the day? or are you simply playing the odds? or is there another reason?
Same Q for women who take the initiative to write to men. (Me, I don't write to anybody, but if I did and saw a non-matching point, I'd definitely not write).