Children don't need best friends - true or false? (48)
They're just trying to(further)do-gooder the schools so that the misfit kids aren't ostracised by the rest.. good luck with that..
But what it will do is help break down meaningful relationships and contribute to the atomisation of society.
But what it will do is help break down meaningful relationships and contribute to the atomisation of society.
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everyone seems to have an opinion on what is best for children.....the scary part is that some of them are in charge of teaching our children.....
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JeanKimberley: everyone seems to have an opinion on what is best for children.....the scary part is that some of them are in charge of teaching our children.....
What on Earth could we do about that? I mean...ask children???
That would be madness!
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jac379: What on Earth could we do about that? I mean...ask children???
That would be madness!
That would be madness!
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JeanKimberley: no we couldn't do that..... then we would have to stop using the saying "out of the mouths of babes"
errr babies.... freudian slip there.------ This thread is Archived ------
JeanKimberley: errr babies.... freudian slip there.
I think you were right the first time, but now you point it out, it could be interpreted differently these days.
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joyaepace: "A head teacher of a leading primary school has said young children should not have best friends because it could leave others feeling ostracised and hurt...
parents of children at a private day school in south-west London have been told it's not good for their offspring to have best friends...
Instead they should be encouraged to have "lots of good friends" to avoid overly possessive relationships and upsetting fall-outs, head teacher Ben Thomas was quoted by the Daily Telegraph as saying".
I find this idea upsetting for few reasons. Firstly, I think it will create a generation of people who are unattached, superficial and indifferent to others since they will never learn closeness and intimacy. Secondly, learning intimacy may be a basis for relationships later in life. When all people are same to you, how are you supposed to stay with one person? Thirdly, close relationships give a feeling of security. I, for example, did not have many friends and never wanted to have them, but was quite happy to have one at a time. Did anyone feel excluded because of that? Don't think so. If I was not allowed to have a friend, how lonely would my school life be? Why should a child be deprived of a friend if a child is not the outgoing type liking to have lots of friends?
And how are they going to terminate the forming friendships? I know that in my nephews' school here in Ireland children are 'rotated' to sit with different children all the time possibly for the same reasons. They still have friends though. Are the teachers to intervene in pupil's relationships even further? How far? Am I old fashioned or what, but this idea seems scary to me. Control and manipulation rather than education in my opinion. What do you think? There is a link if somebody wants to read the article.
parents of children at a private day school in south-west London have been told it's not good for their offspring to have best friends...
Instead they should be encouraged to have "lots of good friends" to avoid overly possessive relationships and upsetting fall-outs, head teacher Ben Thomas was quoted by the Daily Telegraph as saying".
I find this idea upsetting for few reasons. Firstly, I think it will create a generation of people who are unattached, superficial and indifferent to others since they will never learn closeness and intimacy. Secondly, learning intimacy may be a basis for relationships later in life. When all people are same to you, how are you supposed to stay with one person? Thirdly, close relationships give a feeling of security. I, for example, did not have many friends and never wanted to have them, but was quite happy to have one at a time. Did anyone feel excluded because of that? Don't think so. If I was not allowed to have a friend, how lonely would my school life be? Why should a child be deprived of a friend if a child is not the outgoing type liking to have lots of friends?
And how are they going to terminate the forming friendships? I know that in my nephews' school here in Ireland children are 'rotated' to sit with different children all the time possibly for the same reasons. They still have friends though. Are the teachers to intervene in pupil's relationships even further? How far? Am I old fashioned or what, but this idea seems scary to me. Control and manipulation rather than education in my opinion. What do you think? There is a link if somebody wants to read the article.
False Joya e Pace!
Best friends are a very important part of childhood and the teenager’s age.
When my children where little they had “best friends” while we were in USA but we had to return to Mexico (and then back again to USA and then back to Mexico again…)and that was devastating for one of them and not to the other.
For me I do remember my best friends (teen's) and I do keep some communication with some of them.
My philosophy about friends is that:
Friends are to be shared.
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It sounds that the teacher was 'he'. Still interested?