Dating a Friend's Ex--Okay or Bad Idea? (17)
I would just ask you which is more important; him or your freindship
everything else clouds it, I think.
Just my opinion...Dunno what kind of freindship you have...
everything else clouds it, I think.
Just my opinion...Dunno what kind of freindship you have...
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the friendship, of course.. I have known her for about 12 years... I don't know if it would bother her or not, but I don't want to feel like a heel by asking her if it is the wrong thing to do in general.. she might say that she doesnt care just to be nice- but it might still bother her... but sometimes there are such things as fate,& everything that is meant to happen usually does, so I am confused
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ok,
I won't tell you what to do...But, if it feel wrong (gutt, or like a heel - as you put) then you have the answer already.
Up to you. There are other people out there, freindship comes first. 'Course you know that..
I won't tell you what to do...But, if it feel wrong (gutt, or like a heel - as you put) then you have the answer already.
Up to you. There are other people out there, freindship comes first. 'Course you know that..
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LMAO -- first & second idea, sound like good plans!
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Angie,
I agree with Jax, I would sit down and discuss it with her and not beat around the bush. And be blunt about it. If it really bothers her, she will come right out and tell you.
And of course the friendhsip is the more important thing in the end.
Mom
I agree with Jax, I would sit down and discuss it with her and not beat around the bush. And be blunt about it. If it really bothers her, she will come right out and tell you.
And of course the friendhsip is the more important thing in the end.
Mom
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oh geesh, you're the best!
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I would sit and talk to her and she how she would feel about the two of you dating
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I am glad that you shared it and take advise. I know I have taken advise on here which has helped me. :)
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I have always stayed clear of a friends ex. Even when talked out and the friend says it doesn't bother them.
The truth is that it does bother them no matter what they say.
Since I care about my friends I don't do it just on the chance that it might hurt.
The truth is that it does bother them no matter what they say.
Since I care about my friends I don't do it just on the chance that it might hurt.
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I like jackies first advice. LOL. j/k
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Personally Angie,I think even if she says it ok,and she may/is really over him,deep down its gonna play a part on her,she may say go ahead,but I think its only because she loves you,but to see the two of you together,would be a diffrent story.
Plenty of men in the sea,the friendship could be ruined over it,so think about it hard and clear first,and think how you would feel if the tables where reversed.
Plenty of men in the sea,the friendship could be ruined over it,so think about it hard and clear first,and think how you would feel if the tables where reversed.
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ok angel
you have been friends for 12 years
you say she has not been with him for 4 years
what is missing here
you were there when they were together maybe you should look at why they are not together anymore
after analizing their relationship together then if you still want to see this guy then you must think that it is your friends fault that this relationship has ended otherwise why would you want to set yourself up for failure in a relationship that you already have expierianced second hand
on the other hand we have all had bad relationships but if we know none of the issues of the relationships of whom we seek that is a different issue
but hey what do i know
you have been friends for 12 years
you say she has not been with him for 4 years
what is missing here
you were there when they were together maybe you should look at why they are not together anymore
after analizing their relationship together then if you still want to see this guy then you must think that it is your friends fault that this relationship has ended otherwise why would you want to set yourself up for failure in a relationship that you already have expierianced second hand
on the other hand we have all had bad relationships but if we know none of the issues of the relationships of whom we seek that is a different issue
but hey what do i know
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hhmmmmmmmmmmmmm iwonder if ya did or not hhhmmmmm
nosey nosey nosey :>]
nosey nosey nosey :>]
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y'all are more open than I am. Under no circumstances would I date a friends ex. Truth be told, I would probably know more than I would want to about the person already, and there would be no mystery. But to each his own, and I guess it would have to do more with your friends attitude.
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that was the point
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I have a good friend, & we saw her ex-boyfriend out the other night with mutual friends.. there was an attraction there, but I am hesitant, because of the unspoken "friends rules"-- She isn't really interested in him, but they are close friends. I feel like I should just ask her if it would be okay to date him, but then again, they are not dating & haven't in 4 years, so should be fair game right?
(or should I just view him as "off-limits")