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Lannna23las Vegas, Nevada USA23 Threads 1,091 PostsI found myself in completely weird situation: My Ex started dating my co worker and 'best" friend. I have been working as a fragrance retail sale specialist for well known brands. Time to time, I had someone who was working for me (giving me a hand). This woman worked for me for a longest period of time, and I started being more opened toward her. I even invited her for a Christmas and introduced to my family. A little while she told me: "your husband looks great, where he works? How much money he makes? (she did not ask those questions that directly, but she asked all of them) After I left, they started to exchange text message, went out for coffee, he invited her for dinner.... Since, I suppose to start working for the same company here in LV, I gave a hand to my manager that two of them dating (at this kind of jobs there are a lot of gossips around). I just wanted her to be aware of possible gossips and how to deal with them. instead, my manager gave her a call, she started crying and immediately lying, and manager (they know each other for 10 years - I don't know what I was thinking about by telling her) started blaming me for all situation!! Even saying that she might take me on court because I was preventing her of doing her job! Plus, my manager was pretty much like : "you digging a hole to yourself." Now, I am confused, madddddddddddd, disappointed, ........ what would you do?
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Put your "best" friend in the same category, an Ex.
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CasualCarol: Put your "best" friend in the same category, an Ex.
True, needs to find a new set of people to associate with. Sometimes, the world can be too small for comfort. ------ This thread is Archived ------
CasualCarol: Put your "best" friend in the same category, an Ex.
I did that
But what about manager? You think she is going to be smart enough to recognize what's going on? Or she will stick and "protect" her old friend (they know each other for 10 years?)
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CuddlingSoul: True, needs to find a new set of people to associate with. Sometimes, the world can be too small for comfort.
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Sorry to hear that. I would like to say it's your (co worker/best friend) fault. When she knew he is your ex she must not start dating with him but Now a days who cares!!
Second you also did mistake by putting your legs between their matter.
If i am in this situation I cant change what happened in past but I will have patience and see and If i find myself emotionally strong i will join work because there will be always such gossips around and i will have to hear and reply. Your boss and co-worker/friend will do nothing because you didn't do anything wrong so that they can take you to court but i really dont know what rules and laws are there in your country. if you like you can tell what kind of possible action they can take against you regarding court.
I didn't know you live in LV. Its very beautiful. Its my dream to visit that country( sin city) and allow me to drink that day only
Second you also did mistake by putting your legs between their matter.
If i am in this situation I cant change what happened in past but I will have patience and see and If i find myself emotionally strong i will join work because there will be always such gossips around and i will have to hear and reply. Your boss and co-worker/friend will do nothing because you didn't do anything wrong so that they can take you to court but i really dont know what rules and laws are there in your country. if you like you can tell what kind of possible action they can take against you regarding court.
I didn't know you live in LV. Its very beautiful. Its my dream to visit that country( sin city) and allow me to drink that day only
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it is ease just forget abought it and move on if the lady you speaks of dose try legale action she dosent have a leg to stand on in the state of Nevada and if your manager starts to hurass you abought the problem then youll have to go to corprit but don't let it get you down just move on with your life and find a new man that will treat you like a goddess
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I'm with Carol on this. Place her firmly in the "ex" category
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Lannna23: I found myself in completely weird situation: My Ex started dating my co worker and 'best" friend. I have been working as a fragrance retail sale specialist for well known brands. Time to time, I had someone who was working for me (giving me a hand). This woman worked for me for a longest period of time, and I started being more opened toward her. I even invited her for a Christmas and introduced to my family. A little while she told me: "your husband looks great, where he works? How much money he makes? (she did not ask those questions that directly, but she asked all of them) After I left, they started to exchange text message, went out for coffee, he invited her for dinner.... Since, I suppose to start working for the same company here in LV, I gave a hand to my manager that two of them dating (at this kind of jobs there are a lot of gossips around). I just wanted her to be aware of possible gossips and how to deal with them. instead, my manager gave her a call, she started crying and immediately lying, and manager (they know each other for 10 years - I don't know what I was thinking about by telling her) started blaming me for all situation!! Even saying that she might take me on court because I was preventing her of doing her job! Plus, my manager was pretty much like : "you digging a hole to yourself." Now, I am confused, madddddddddddd, disappointed, ........ what would you do?
Yikes! Sorry to hear this. You friend certainly broke the Cardinal & unspoken GF code/rule that hands off - regardless of him being your ex!! Glad you dumped her too!
As for the manager situation, it sounds like a very touchy situation, since she is friends w/ your ex-friend. But since I don't know her or her mind-set, it's almost impossible for me to give you solid advice. So I'll just say I hope it all works out in the end! Keep your integrity & honesty intact, as you have so far, and hopefully Karma will take care of you, and them, in the end!
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Lannna23: I found myself in completely weird situation: My Ex started dating my co worker and 'best" friend. I have been working as a fragrance retail sale specialist for well known brands. Time to time, I had someone who was working for me (giving me a hand). This woman worked for me for a longest period of time, and I started being more opened toward her. I even invited her for a Christmas and introduced to my family. A little while she told me: "your husband looks great, where he works? How much money he makes? (she did not ask those questions that directly, but she asked all of them) After I left, they started to exchange text message, went out for coffee, he invited her for dinner.... Since, I suppose to start working for the same company here in LV, I gave a hand to my manager that two of them dating (at this kind of jobs there are a lot of gossips around). I just wanted her to be aware of possible gossips and how to deal with them. instead, my manager gave her a call, she started crying and immediately lying, and manager (they know each other for 10 years - I don't know what I was thinking about by telling her) started blaming me for all situation!! Even saying that she might take me on court because I was preventing her of doing her job! Plus, my manager was pretty much like : "you digging a hole to yourself." Now, I am confused, madddddddddddd, disappointed, ........ what would you do?
Im probably the worse possible choice when it comes to give advice's ...in short Im unable to help but I can make it worse ...
1.erase her from your Christmas shopping list
2.laxative in her morning cup of coffee
3.sneak in her house and trow some mineral wool in her underwear drawer
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Lannna23: I did that
But what about manager? You think she is going to be smart enough to recognize what's going on? Or she will stick and "protect" her old friend (they know each other for 10 years?)
But what about manager? You think she is going to be smart enough to recognize what's going on? Or she will stick and "protect" her old friend (they know each other for 10 years?)
It's sad, but the whole idea to work is to be professional no matter what.
You cannot change other folk - you can only change yourself.
No one likes to get between relationships - and why did you and your husband become ex's? Obviously feelings from the past and that relationship are spilling over into the present.
Separate your family life from your work life -
There is no blame here at all - it is just that everyone want to go to work without any drama.
this is why people do not play where they work - because life is messy - don't mix work and romance.
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JeanKimberley: It's sad, but the whole idea to work is to be professional no matter what.
You cannot change other folk - you can only change yourself.
No one likes to get between relationships - and why did you and your husband become ex's? Obviously feelings from the past and that relationship are spilling over into the present.
Separate your family life from your work life -
There is no blame here at all - it is just that everyone want to go to work without any drama.
this is why people do not play where they work - because life is messy - don't mix work and romance.
You cannot change other folk - you can only change yourself.
No one likes to get between relationships - and why did you and your husband become ex's? Obviously feelings from the past and that relationship are spilling over into the present.
Separate your family life from your work life -
There is no blame here at all - it is just that everyone want to go to work without any drama.
this is why people do not play where they work - because life is messy - don't mix work and romance.
Absolutely right, JK. Romance and career do not mix well
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guysimple: Sorry to hear that. I would like to say it's your (co worker/best friend) fault. When she knew he is your ex she must not start dating with him but Now a days who cares!!
Second you also did mistake by putting your legs between their matter.
If i am in this situation I cant change what happened in past but I will have patience and see and If i find myself emotionally strong i will join work because there will be always such gossips around and i will have to hear and reply. Your boss and co-worker/friend will do nothing because you didn't do anything wrong so that they can take you to court but i really dont know what rules and laws are there in your country. if you like you can tell what kind of possible action they can take against you regarding court.
I didn't know you live in LV. Its very beautiful. Its my dream to visit that country( sin city) and allow me to drink that day only
Second you also did mistake by putting your legs between their matter.
If i am in this situation I cant change what happened in past but I will have patience and see and If i find myself emotionally strong i will join work because there will be always such gossips around and i will have to hear and reply. Your boss and co-worker/friend will do nothing because you didn't do anything wrong so that they can take you to court but i really dont know what rules and laws are there in your country. if you like you can tell what kind of possible action they can take against you regarding court.
I didn't know you live in LV. Its very beautiful. Its my dream to visit that country( sin city) and allow me to drink that day only
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lonly57030: it is ease just forget abought it and move on if the lady you speaks of dose try legale action she dosent have a leg to stand on in the state of Nevada and if your manager starts to hurass you abought the problem then youll have to go to corprit but don't let it get you down just move on with your life and find a new man that will treat you like a goddess
Thank you
I know that she can not do any at court. She needs a proofs, and she does not have any.
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unlaoised: I'm with Carol on this. Place her firmly in the "ex" category
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LadyLori: Yikes! Sorry to hear this. You friend certainly broke the Cardinal & unspoken GF code/rule that hands off - regardless of him being your ex!! Glad you dumped her too!
As for the manager situation, it sounds like a very touchy situation, since she is friends w/ your ex-friend. But since I don't know her or her mind-set, it's almost impossible for me to give you solid advice. So I'll just say I hope it all works out in the end! Keep your integrity & honesty intact, as you have so far, and hopefully Karma will take care of you, and them, in the end!
As for the manager situation, it sounds like a very touchy situation, since she is friends w/ your ex-friend. But since I don't know her or her mind-set, it's almost impossible for me to give you solid advice. So I'll just say I hope it all works out in the end! Keep your integrity & honesty intact, as you have so far, and hopefully Karma will take care of you, and them, in the end!
Thank you.
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Dedovix: Im probably the worse possible choice when it comes to give advice's ...in short Im unable to help but I can make it worse ...
1.erase her from your Christmas shopping list
2.laxative in her morning cup of coffee
3.sneak in her house and trow some mineral wool in her underwear drawer
1.erase her from your Christmas shopping list
2.laxative in her morning cup of coffee
3.sneak in her house and trow some mineral wool in her underwear drawer
Laxative is a great solution!
Should try that one
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JeanKimberley: It's sad, but the whole idea to work is to be professional no matter what.
You cannot change other folk - you can only change yourself.
No one likes to get between relationships - and why did you and your husband become ex's? Obviously feelings from the past and that relationship are spilling over into the present.
Separate your family life from your work life -
There is no blame here at all - it is just that everyone want to go to work without any drama.
this is why people do not play where they work - because life is messy - don't mix work and romance.
You cannot change other folk - you can only change yourself.
No one likes to get between relationships - and why did you and your husband become ex's? Obviously feelings from the past and that relationship are spilling over into the present.
Separate your family life from your work life -
There is no blame here at all - it is just that everyone want to go to work without any drama.
this is why people do not play where they work - because life is messy - don't mix work and romance.
We became ex mainly because of his mental abusive behavior. Even before I moved in another state we were separated. My ex-best-girlfriend / coworker knew about that, because she went through divorce with her husband, and then you know......she said something about her ex....I said about mine. She was pretty much familiar with whole situation. I didn't get upset that much wit two of them seeing each other. I know in fact that she is looking for money only and my ex is looking for way to harm me on all possible ways. She is just a tool in his hands (and she is blinded by his money so she cannot see that). I don't want to lose my integrity, dignity and reputation at work (they have a branch here in LV where I should work); just because of my ex manipulates with her, and her going around and spreading stories about me. That was a reason to bring them back in present, otherwise... I was making a jokes about it! Then the nightmare became a truth - my manager left me a voicemail (as I said I wanted her to be aware of entire situation, and possible outcomes - nothing more than that), .... that was ugly one
...... and that made me worry, she openly accused me for doing.......I even don't know what. Because my ex-girlfriend started crying and lying and making her self "poor" ...... and it turned that I am evil and devil! No matter on fact that I did not cross the line between work and personal - my ex-girlfriend did! Now it seems that I will have ex-work too ------ This thread is Archived ------
Had I been in that situation I would have given a new dress to my best friend and coworker for keeping my ex-husband away yet I would prefer not to be best friends with my co-worker because of trust issues but always keep the door open in work-relationships, the most possible.
If that place of work enhances gossiping I would rather look for another job or keep to myself no matter how I was going to be labeled.
If that place of work enhances gossiping I would rather look for another job or keep to myself no matter how I was going to be labeled.
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lifeisadream: Had I been in that situation I would have given a new dress to my best friend and coworker for keeping my ex-husband away yet I would prefer not to be best friends with my co-worker because of trust issues but always keep the door open in work-relationships, the most possible.
If that place of work enhances gossiping I would rather look for another job or keep to myself no matter how I was going to be labeled.
Ohh ..Mis Life ...pleaase More ...If that place of work enhances gossiping I would rather look for another job or keep to myself no matter how I was going to be labeled.
Lifey
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