I have a question ( Archived) (37)

I just posted in a thread my friend made for me, and she is wonderful for doing so.
But how she titled it made me think "Broken Hearts".

I do not have a broken heart that needs to heal,

I have emotions that need to healed, as I have been emotionaly destroyed.
I feel a big difference between the two, and I will explain my views on in later on.

Can anyone here relate to what I am saying?

Broken Hearts vs Emotional destruction(pain)?


Angel

Is it a matter of quantifying?

You need to heal to the point where it's "just a broken heart"?

No...it is not about quantifying.

I really do feel a difference always have.

A broken heart is for you have been in a relationship dor a very long time, the heart has been establised to be with the other person.
You break up, and the pain goes beyond what words can express.

Sometimes it can be fix...sometimes you just let go with a broken heart.

Emotional destruction, you have not established yourself, per say, as in a long standing relationship.
But the feelings were real, so was the trust, the belief, the hopes.

Then you feel like you have been stab, and finished off.

excuse my spelling...lack of sleep is getting to me

I should actually say something. Right now I can only do this Actions speak loader than words. You're in my prayers.

Thank you Rob....but I really do want to know if others can relate to this.

I appreciate the hug....but I am asking a question, am I the only one that feels a difference, or am I weird?

Rob, thanks for the prayer also

Well.....in my view of this;
A broken heart might be the pain of losing a loved one; ie, a boyfriend, a husband, a parent. Where the loss is that of physicality and or remorse of someone we feel a bond to and feel lost without. That mental, and physically ill, emptiness deep within our chest. The aloneness, emptiness and frustration of feeling like a huge part of who we are is gone. Feeling like a part of me has died.

What I feel is emotional destruction for me is; An event early on in my childhood, that left feelings of ineptness and self loathing. The not being good enough. Being blamed for everything wrong or bad in any particular situation. Being made to feel like your life is an absolute nothing. That you have no usefulness to this world or anyone. Being mentally abused or physically by people we are supposed to feel safe with. Someone that is supposed to love us, makes us feel less than dirt.
Or being grown and letting your feelings for a significant other become their weapon to control you and make you feel less as a person and more of a possesion. Thinking that you cannot live without them. That no one will want you because you are so stupid and ugly. This is made easy by the way we were made to feel emotionally unstable, or worthless as a child. Thus being destroyed emotionally. So that when uncertanty arises, we revert back to that weakend state of "it must be me, or I am bad and deserve it" kind of thing. Emotional behavior can be handled. But it can also come back quick as a blink of an eye. Given the right cercumstance.
Whewww....
Kat

61 views so far, and no one can relate to my question?

Ok, I must be really out of it, that I can't bring my thoughts across today.

Thanks for looking.

I think it's a matter of rationalization. Feelings and emotions aren't always about the truth they are about what one is experiencing while living in their reality. So whether you want to label it as a broken heart or hurt feelings it's all relative.

What does a broken heart mean to you?