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Today's world is one of convenience. If it doesn't work, throw it out. Everything has become disposable. So has the relationship aspect. It isn't going the way I want it, so let's move on. There are too many things to sell us, too much information flying and unfortunatlely the simplicity of life is a thing of the past....as is commitment.

Tell me about it, Roy. lol I hear ya...

i believe that is what is wrong with people today.in the older times when a couple got married it lasted........now when you get tired of someone you can just pay some money and get rid of them instead of tryin to work things out

UMMMMM.....I am the only that sees Solitare has gone into hiding!! NO!! Where did he go? ROY....go on and find him! LOL!

I think there would be fewer divorces if Judges didn't award most of a man's posessions and future wages to the woman. That's a lot of the reason most men don't want to get married; the fear of getting royally and legally shafted.

Well I can speak from the experience of being a divorced women, and one who I might add did not get most of the man’s possessions nor his future wages. In California it’s a 50/50 state, however since we had an amicable parting we shared one attorney and decided together how things would be divided. Our house, with the equity intact, was left to him solely because it was in the city where all of his family lived and it just made more sense and because if we had sold it neither of us would have had enough to get the kind of home either of us would have wanted. So I took his feelings to heart and gave him the house free and clear. He has been happy there ever after. We had two vehicles and so we each kept the one we most often drove. As for future earnings that never even came into play as we both worked and earned our own wages.

While divorce was not something we would have ever chosen for ourselves on the day we got married, we were together 12 years in all; we were not prepared for everything that was to come our way. Although we didn’t reach the rocking chairs on the porch that we had pictured, we still do not feel we threw away our marriage or that it was easy to end. We went to counseling as individuals and as a couple and in the long run came to the conclusion that what was most important was to not hurt one another any longer and to be able to remain friends. That’s exactly what we’ve been able to do. I know that I can pick up the phone and say “I need you to be here” and like a best friend would do; he’d say when and where and come, just as I would for him. We started out as best friends and have returned to that role, and have both grown up a whole lot in the middle of that process and that has helped us to define what it is that each of us needs in a marriage or long-term relationship in order for it to be successful with that right person when he/she hopefully comes along. Of course this is only one persons story and as I have already heard it is not the “typical” divorce story because we did not wage war on each other, stop talking to each other, and/or start talking bad about each other. In fact ladies if anyone is looking for a 43 year old 6’2” Teddy Bear of a guy he is still single, though I will admit is dating a couple of ladies at this time. Lives in California, in the Bay Area, has a good job, just bought a new Harley, and has one of the best senses of humor you’ll ever come across. If you’re interested let me know and we’ll see how best to connect you all.

Well I can speak from the experience of being a divorced women, and one who I might add did not get most of the man’s possessions nor his future wages. In California it’s a 50/50 state, however since we had an amicable parting we shared one attorney and decided together how things would be divided. Our house, with the equity intact, was left to him solely because it was in the city where all of his family lived and it just made more sense and because if we had sold it neither of us would have had enough to get the kind of home either of us would have wanted. So I took his feelings to heart and gave him the house free and clear. He has been happy there ever after. We had two vehicles and so we each kept the one we most often drove. As for future earnings that never even came into play as we both worked and earned our own wages.

While divorce was not something we would have ever chosen for ourselves on the day we got married, we were together 12 years in all; we were not prepared for everything that was to come our way. Although we didn’t reach the rocking chairs on the porch that we had pictured, we still do not feel we threw away our marriage or that it was easy to end. We went to counseling as individuals and as a couple and in the long run came to the conclusion that what was most important was to not hurt one another any longer and to be able to remain friends. That’s exactly what we’ve been able to do. I know that I can pick up the phone and say “I need you to be here” and like a best friend would do; he’d say when and where and come, just as I would for him. We started out as best friends and have returned to that role, and have both grown up a whole lot in the middle of that process and that has helped us to define what it is that each of us needs in a marriage or long-term relationship in order for it to be successful with that right person when he/she hopefully comes along. Of course this is only one persons story and as I have already heard it is not the “typical” divorce story because we did not wage war on each other, stop talking to each other, and/or start talking bad about each other. In fact ladies if anyone is looking for a 43 year old 6’2” Teddy Bear of a guy he is still single, though I will admit is dating a couple of ladies at this time. Lives in California, in the Bay Area, has a good job, just bought a new Harley, and has one of the best senses of humor you’ll ever come across. If you’re interested let me know and we’ll see how best to connect you all.

Michigan's not a 50/50 state, and men get the absolute shaft here. My ex-girlfriend's father lives in a bare house with plywood floors and almost no furniture while having to give half his tiny pay check to his ex-wife, who lives in a large, well furnished house with her new husband.

He has a job, works like 18 hours a day, but on payday has nothing to show for it because of her greed. Also, the judge is still making him pay even though both his daughters are living with him!


I wish all marriages could end as well as yours did, but we all know they usually don't and both sides end up wanting to screw the other as badly as possible.

Remember WAY BACK when divorce was just not an option?

People stayed married. They fought, suffered, led secret, separate lives, but the alternative was dispproval from society or the church. A divorced woman was not accepted in polite society.

Later on, people stayed together for the sake of the children - remember that one?

Now, it's normal to be divorced and people suffer no consequences from society or church.

Yes? No?

Well, that is different, AKDOP, and certainly a path many men in Michigan are trying to walk. I do believe in marriage, however, but it's not because of the money or legal "ownership" of anyone or their stuff. I believe in the original idea of marriage, to have and hold someone dear, close to your heart and never let go for ever and ever through thick and thin.

I don't know how long I'd wait before poping the question now though. I've been to the point of asking twice, and both times the girl surprised me and proved she wasn't worthy of my attention in the first place.