The dreaded question.... ( Archived) (128)

I have been talking to a guy I really like for awhile. Things could get serious. He has told me how many woman he has slept with in his life. It is a very low number by todays standards. I chose not to disclose my number. He finally asked that dreaded question today. "How many people have you been with?" I said I'd rather not say just because that's in my past and really only my business. You could tell that he was rather hurt that I was keeping a "secret". I finally told him but don't feel like I really should have been asked that or pressured into answering it.

Why do people ask this dumb question? Especially if they aren't going to like the answer.

DO you think you have the right to know how many past partners your partner has had?

Would you tell him or her? Are you truthful or skim (or) embellish the answer?

I always lie

Then how do I know if you're telling me the truth now???

1. #1 reason - insecurity

2. No reason to know how many at all unless they are going to keep a tally book then I doubt if the relationship would work

3. Depends upon how many drinks I have consummed. No need to lie my past is clear.

Honestly don't know why people ask anyway, trust to the present and don't live in the past.

i think that as long as you pass the no std test it really should not be that big of a deal of how many but how healthy yes that makes a differance


but hey you may be with 50 and not catch anything (if yer lucky)

or be with a very few and catch something

health not quanity is the issue

just a thought

but hey what do i know

i always tell the exact number. and yes, i want to know. believe me, i don't hold it against anyone...but yes, that's something i feel you should tell.

as the numbers increase, so do the chances of exposure to something i don't wish to catch. definitely not something to fib about. not saying to give great details...but yes, the truth. if they can't handle mine, then...i'm on to the next.

the other side...i LIKE experience.

Just about the how many...I don't think they really want to know so I only count the significant ones...not that many

NOT to mention...that i want a relationship that i can tell my partner EVERYTHING...and them not get upset about it. maybe even get into the story...and chuckle...

i want to know my partner, inside and out.

I am mostly honest i think.



Men can't always handle what women can handle and vise versa.