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Depends on how traditional the family.
I bet eastern Europeans have big gatherings.
I bet eastern Europeans have big gatherings.
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After my mom and dad died, we had them cremated. Only us kids and spouses had a "reception". I made dinner and we sat around and just talked about them all night.
It was so much nicer than a traditional mass and burial.
It was so much nicer than a traditional mass and burial.
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I guess you followed their will then.
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PattycakesXO: I guess you followed their will then.
Yes, we did. My parents were devout Catholics, and they asked the church if they could be cremated. The church said yes, and their wishes were granted. A few relatives were able to attend my dad's celebration of his life. My mom died 5 years later and just us kids remembered her at her request.My cousin, a devout Catholic who owns a funeral home, said what my parents decided was perfectly fine, and mentioned more families are going the same way.
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PattycakesXO: In your experience are funerals,wakes,burials
no longer a family
undertaking...
OK, a little levity was needed.
The past few years passing is news(and it travels fast on CS).
It's not a family gathering or tradition except for the previous generations.
How about your impressions on the subject of memorials.
I've been to two funerals and they were very different. It depends who's died and if that death could be considered a tragedy. The queen dying was an old lady who I don't know dying of natural causes. Less of an affair than when we buried our grandmother and we went bowling after that. But when those closest to you die heroically in their prime, this changes everything wall to wall tears.no longer a family
undertaking...
OK, a little levity was needed.
The past few years passing is news(and it travels fast on CS).
It's not a family gathering or tradition except for the previous generations.
How about your impressions on the subject of memorials.
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My dad and my sister find dying and suffering too confronting, so I spent the last 48 hours with my mum in a hospice.
She hung on against the odds and died 5 hours into her 85th birthday. I didn't want to see her without her feisty and often hilarious spirit and she passed just before I came back into the room having left to grab a breath of night air.
I'm pretty sure that despite the pain relief and appearance of coma, she did it her way.
She wanted to go straight to cremation and I don't even know where her ashes went.
I travelled straight back home by train so I could wail and gnash my teeth in private without disturbing my dad and my sister's internal struggles with their broken hearts.
None of us wanted a funeral. We each grieved, and are grieving in our own way.
I told my daughter I want to go to medical science (no funeral costs and I'd be making myself useful), or if that's not possible, to go straight to cremation. She said, "Don't worry, we will have some kind of a memorial!" I said, "I'm not worried. I'll be dead." 
What she does should be in the best interests of her grieving process and quite frankly I think she'd be better off spending the money on a family holiday and living life to the fullest. I'd rather like that as a memorial, actually. Y'know, a life experience in lieu of a death experience.
Actually, I think she should do one of those enormous zip lines as a memorial. And go galloping off on a horse and abseiling. She'd love it.
My daughter rang as I was writing this and failing her being able to dye my ashes and release them from an urn in either hand as she goes down a zip line Red Arrows style, she suggested as a nod to my propensity for excessive house cleaning, she could use my ashes as ecologically sound Shake 'n Vac.
She hung on against the odds and died 5 hours into her 85th birthday. I didn't want to see her without her feisty and often hilarious spirit and she passed just before I came back into the room having left to grab a breath of night air.
I'm pretty sure that despite the pain relief and appearance of coma, she did it her way.
She wanted to go straight to cremation and I don't even know where her ashes went.
I travelled straight back home by train so I could wail and gnash my teeth in private without disturbing my dad and my sister's internal struggles with their broken hearts.
None of us wanted a funeral. We each grieved, and are grieving in our own way.
I told my daughter I want to go to medical science (no funeral costs and I'd be making myself useful), or if that's not possible, to go straight to cremation. She said, "Don't worry, we will have some kind of a memorial!" I said, "I'm not worried. I'll be dead."
What she does should be in the best interests of her grieving process and quite frankly I think she'd be better off spending the money on a family holiday and living life to the fullest. I'd rather like that as a memorial, actually. Y'know, a life experience in lieu of a death experience.
Actually, I think she should do one of those enormous zip lines as a memorial. And go galloping off on a horse and abseiling. She'd love it.
My daughter rang as I was writing this and failing her being able to dye my ashes and release them from an urn in either hand as she goes down a zip line Red Arrows style, she suggested as a nod to my propensity for excessive house cleaning, she could use my ashes as ecologically sound Shake 'n Vac.
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jac_the_gripper: I'd rather like that as a memorial, actually. Y'know, a life experience in lieu of a death...
My daughter rang as I was writing this and failing her being able to dye my ashes and release them from an urn in either hand as she goes down a zip line Red Arrows style, she suggested as a nod to my propensity for excessive house cleaning, she could use my ashes as ecologically sound Shake 'n Vac.
My daughter rang as I was writing this and failing her being able to dye my ashes and release them from an urn in either hand as she goes down a zip line Red Arrows style, she suggested as a nod to my propensity for excessive house cleaning, she could use my ashes as ecologically sound Shake 'n Vac.
I did not overlook the rest that was written.Thank you very much.It was very heartfelt.
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Ken I wondered about losing them both, but did not want to pry.
Thank you for being a wonderful son.
Thank you for being a wonderful son.
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CC ..I think we have similar sentiments here in Wisconsin.
Especially the group bowling.
Especially the group bowling.
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PattycakesXO: CC ..I think we have similar sentiments here in Wisconsin.
Especially the group bowling.
Is that with or without cheese hats?Especially the group bowling.
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GullyFoyle: Depends on how traditional the family.
I bet eastern Europeans have big gatherings.
Family and friends.I bet eastern Europeans have big gatherings.
It depends on the person, really.
If it a public figure, someone who worked with many people or a victim of an accident a lot more people will be attending the funeral.
It is not a wedding after all.
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Ten_of_cupss: Family and friends.
It depends on the person, really.
If it a public figure, someone who worked with many people or a victim of an accident a lot more people will be attending the funeral.
It is not a wedding after all.
do you cover all mirrors like the Jews and Irish?It depends on the person, really.
If it a public figure, someone who worked with many people or a victim of an accident a lot more people will be attending the funeral.
It is not a wedding after all.
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Levity
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GullyFoyle: do you cover all mirrors like the Jews and Irish?
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Any other culture specific practices?
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Ten_of_cupss: No, we don't...
I can speak only for Christian orthodox countries and not all of Eastern Europe.------ This thread is Archived ------
GullyFoyle: do you cover all mirrors like the Jews and Irish?
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Ten_of_cupss: I can speak only for Christian orthodox countries and not all of Eastern Europe.
that is enough.How many here know Eastern orthodox practices?
Later Christmas and new year.
Long beards and can marry.
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no longer a family
undertaking...
OK, a little levity was needed.
The past few years passing is news(and it travels fast on CS).
It's not a family gathering or tradition except for the previous generations.
How about your impressions on the subject of memorials.