If they don't turn you on physically, then... 1. do you hold out for one that does? 2. try to find something about them that does? 3. call it a loss and start a physical relationship anyway? 4. don't care as long as they care about you?
There's lots of other choices, I'd love to hear some honest answers.
Me, I'd rather sleep with someone who turns me on and I love, occassionally it's been both, but more often than not in the past I've settled for someone who is just a great person. This seems a bit sad really but is probably a good reflection of reality and available choice.
I tried the no physical attraction route. It worked for a while because he was attracted to me. But after a short time, I just dreaded his calls and finally told him it was just not working out.
Better to just say the "let's just be friends" and assume they'll go away because they don't want to be just friends.
I havn't been in many deep relationships, but the ones I have, I didn't care about pyschical attraction because I felt loved and wanted to some degree. For someone who is as ugly as I am, psyicallity(sp?) just dosn't exsist.
if they don't turn you on, I think its a mute point. But I would guess it is a matter of your desperation to be in a relationship. I can't see how this would be a healthy relationship though. Might even be borderline selfish on your part. You're obviously not going to feel the same way the other person does. In this respect you are only setting them up for a fall. Seems cruel to me. But it's your call, if you think you can make yourself care for someone else................................whatever.
If they don't turn me on................ How do I tell my obese, mean, twice as old as me boss to lay off. It's to the point I am ready to go off on her. She finds reaspns to stand waaaayy to close to me. I politely step away and she closes the distance. Gross. Plain gross. What's a nice way to say "you sicken me with your voice, attitude, personality, body, and you also scare me."
2good sounds like she is invading your personal space. If you could tell her she is invading your space by explaining it to her how you feel about it she might back off some. She may not be aware of how you feel about the invasion.
Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself in this matter, I told someone once on no uncertain terms that I hated them touching me and time wasn't going to make it any better. You can't work when you're worried about something like that becuase you are always waiting for them to come around again. Tell her she'd be better off leaving you alone, it's not cute, it's not funny and you won't come around. Other that than I suggest you hire a drunken mess off the street (you might have to pay them a bit:) and get him to follow her around like a love sick puppy and see how she likes it.
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1. do you hold out for one that does?
2. try to find something about them that does?
3. call it a loss and start a physical relationship anyway?
4. don't care as long as they care about you?
There's lots of other choices, I'd love to hear some honest answers.
Me, I'd rather sleep with someone who turns me on and I love, occassionally it's been both, but more often than not in the past I've settled for someone who is just a great person. This seems a bit sad really but is probably a good reflection of reality and available choice.