Inner Beauty vs Outer Beauty (63)
Random_StrangerMade IN, California USA31 Threads 1,183 PostsI am curious to know. We all say we look for only the inner beauty, but c'mon. Are you being honest with yourself? We all know that beauty fads, but the inner can also change. That is why there are divorces that take place many years later. So what are we really looking for? Do we perhaps set our standards too high? To where we focus on the looks and blame others for our mistakes in dating? If a good looking woman went out with an ugly man, is someone getting the raw end of the bargain here? Good looks for someone treating you right? Is there not a line inbetween that we honestly look for? Help me out here.
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Beautys in the eye of the beholder..
we all find different things attractive..looks do matter idc what anyone says .. you can be the sweetest most kind generous person in the world .. but there has to be chemistry, physical attraction there too..
we all find different things attractive..looks do matter idc what anyone says .. you can be the sweetest most kind generous person in the world .. but there has to be chemistry, physical attraction there too..
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Inner beauty hands down. While I like a pretty face as much as the next person. It is the inner beauty that I fall for. My last two husbands were not much to look at. But, I loved them and their hearts and souls for who they were. hey became to me the best looking guys on the block. My heart would race just seeing them and being near them. I would just sit and watch them. I was very pleased with them. Those two men had more beauty in them than most I have met.
Kat
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I think alot of the divorces are due to people looking at the physical side of things rather than who the other person is inside.
As far as getting the raw end of the bargain...how you figure? If someone "good looking" is with someone not so good looking but is happy and getting treated right then obviously someone has the ability to look deeper than the outside. That would be a good thing I would suppose for both concerned.
There are plenty of women and men who are "good looking" and find themselves being dumped because they can't get past their own vanity.
As far as getting the raw end of the bargain...how you figure? If someone "good looking" is with someone not so good looking but is happy and getting treated right then obviously someone has the ability to look deeper than the outside. That would be a good thing I would suppose for both concerned.
There are plenty of women and men who are "good looking" and find themselves being dumped because they can't get past their own vanity.
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For me, I have gone out with people the opposite of what I considered attractive on the outside. It was because of the personality and the way certain things they said sent a happy feeling within me. We had a meeting of the minds and that can change the way I look at someone on the outside.
I can honestly say that what I find attractive about someone on the outside has changed. On the outside, what I used to find attractive years ago, I now I wonder why I did. It is like looking at an old school yearbook, yeah it was hot and in then, but now you laugh at it and can't believe the style and looks of people. The people are still the same person just different looks.
I can honestly say that what I find attractive about someone on the outside has changed. On the outside, what I used to find attractive years ago, I now I wonder why I did. It is like looking at an old school yearbook, yeah it was hot and in then, but now you laugh at it and can't believe the style and looks of people. The people are still the same person just different looks.
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My observations it that many say the do not care about outer beauty. Some confess there must be chemistry and I agree their must. However many of these people that say they are not caring about looks and want to find a good heart.. They focus their Physical attributes in their Profile Pics. They look very sensual or make them selfs out to be attractive as they can. I would love more people to focus on the type of person they are and put that in their profile. There does not need to be an instant attraction to looks there should not be an instant put off as well.
I really think people do not give a chance to learn a person before judging on weather or no they wan to hear them speak. I was a member of EHarmony where as the point was to taylor a person to another person by types of people and personality.. but you only got responded to with pictures up and even then it seems people would hold out for the most physically attractive option and go for that.
I really think people do not give a chance to learn a person before judging on weather or no they wan to hear them speak. I was a member of EHarmony where as the point was to taylor a person to another person by types of people and personality.. but you only got responded to with pictures up and even then it seems people would hold out for the most physically attractive option and go for that.
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Don't know much about anything. Pretty is pretty. Be it tall, skinny or otherwise. I guess being alive should be enough but it isn't.
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I look for both and both are important to me but like someone else said...beauty is in the eye of the beholder......a sweet, caring attitude can make somebodys outer appearance 10 X more attractive to me. Then again, I have dated a few men that could been (or were) models but were such jerks that I dumped them practically instantly. There has to be equal amonuts OR the inner beauty has to out-weigh the outer beauty for me....
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I rely dnt go 4 looks. As long as ther ok lookin I tend 2 go 4 sum1 who makes me laugh. If they wer rely unattractive tho I def woldnt get involvd.
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Beauty......generically attractive, as to the culture and the trends of the day....versus, the internal wisdom, the compassionate heart, a generous, forgiving nature.......mmmm, hard choice....NOT.
Aesthetic attraction versus soul attraction....for me, no choice at all...
Aesthetic attraction versus soul attraction....for me, no choice at all...
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I do like what I like as far as exterior go's.
But if a person has inner beauty I have been know
to see the exterior in a different way. If you don't
connect from the inside. You'll never be happy with
the outside no matter how physically attractive the
person is. Ugliness is to the bone.
But if a person has inner beauty I have been know
to see the exterior in a different way. If you don't
connect from the inside. You'll never be happy with
the outside no matter how physically attractive the
person is. Ugliness is to the bone.
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Inner and Outer...
some of us...well me 
Just have it all!!!
some of us...well me Just have it all!!!
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I go for the whole package idea myself. I'm not fooling myself by thinking I'll get a centerfold, but I do want someone I am physically attracted to. That being said, when a physically attractive girl has really liked me but I find her personality lacking, or sense of humor, intelligence, values came up short, I didn't pursue her because I knew I would be unhappy and it wouldn't work. I really, really envy the few happy couples around my age that I know because it is so rare to see that. Something is different today than in the day of my parents, genuinely happy couples that have been together for 5, 10 or more years are hard to find. I know a few that act happy and fool some people, but you get the guy out on the town or talking by himself and things aren't so great. And how many couples have you seen that seemed fine but all of the sudden they're split up, someone was cheating, finances were totally messed up, happens alot.
All that being said, I do believe the happy relationship is quite feasible and I'm a neverending romantic still looking. Sorry I digressed. Have a good night.
All that being said, I do believe the happy relationship is quite feasible and I'm a neverending romantic still looking. Sorry I digressed. Have a good night.
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Stacy,
Although I believe your posting to be true, you strike me as someone who would attach more importance to physical beauty than to inner beauty. (not putting you on th spot....just a humble observation) To find both is obviously the ideal scenario....
Although I believe your posting to be true, you strike me as someone who would attach more importance to physical beauty than to inner beauty. (not putting you on th spot....just a humble observation) To find both is obviously the ideal scenario....
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You my friend, even though we don't see eye to eye on things, are a very smart person. I just want you to know I appreciate the way your mind works. Very nice.------ This thread is Archived ------
Well....you couldn't be more wrong. None of my serious past relationships would have won any beauty awards...except if they were judged from what they had on the inside.....that made them beautiful to me........
I think you may be judging me from what you THINK you see on the outside...just a humble observation.
I think you may be judging me from what you THINK you see on the outside...just a humble observation.
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In here (anyways) we click on pictures not personality.
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Note well taken....my hat off to you
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We click on the pictures to reveal some personality...if we dont find it...we click the next picture.
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So do you like blue personalities or brown ones?
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