Children play a major role, Question for the men.. (5)

I have a few things here that I am very confused about. First of all, yes I am "only" 23, (but have life experiences that would rival any 30 something person out there). What confuses me is that when I message men (who have children) and whom I think may turn out to be worth my while I am dismissed because of my age. I do not have children of my own, but I do absolutely love them and welcome men with them. What's the reason for the age-ism folks? Help me out here.

Well not sure but it could do have something to do with preferences. Everyone has them. Maybe its nothing personal. Maybe you are not what they are looking for and honestly you shouldn't be wasting your time worrying about what they think of you.

Eventualy you will find someone who will want to be with you for you and not the age or other factors.

Just give it some time and be patient!

I generally have my 'cut off set at 24.....and they have to be a very mature 24.

I find that past experiences and some likes/dislikes are connected with age (no, not all likes/dislikes, but some), jsut due to the time period you grew up in. People growing up in the 60s have a higher tolerance for 'soft' drug use (overall, not the whole generation), than those who grew up with the 80s/early 90s with the agressive anti-drug campaigns. Same goes for different generations' opinions on how much booze consumption is ok before you don't drive.

These are just generalizations, of course. Myself, for example, have a hard time 'connecting' with someone whose musical & life interests lie in mainly a modern hip-hop music scene, which was mostly 'before my time.'

Though, some people are 'old souls', and can connect with someone else of a vastly different age as a result.
But, the 'growing up" part of childhood/teenagehood still remains in place, and affects who we are.

I've always been mistaken for older than I am...though it wasn't due to looks, was just the way I carried myself & acted....I look older than my age now, but when I was 21 I was mistaken for 30+ regularly, but I did look about 19. Then again, I had a business, so that affected my personallity. When I was a teen, I had disdane for the majority of people my age around me, due to the immaturity I saw, and was so annoyed by. I acted 'my age', or so I thought. Maybe I was carrying myself beyond my years.

Keep looking, there will be someone you connect with. Maybe make it clear in your profile that you are more mature than others your age. I don't mean necessarilly saying that outright (though that makes it too the point), but in the way you present yourself. I havne;t read your profile, so perhaps you already have done that.

For me it all depends on the individual.

As for those insults, its not you or your age it the ones saying those things to you that have much growing up to do.