Should you and a potential match be financially compatible? ( Archived) (55)

Love conquers all.
Yeah, sure. I once beleived in the tooth fairy as well.

For all those saying money doesn't matter, give all of yours away then.....now we have truth. The sad fact is, the priveledged lead a different life than the rest of us. The possibility of a prince or princess charming is the stuff of fairy tales. Sure, it is possible to date them. But, the differences will always be apparent. When your mate carries the same weight on buying a three hundred dollar coat the same as you feel about getting gloves from the dollar store, things start to get hairy. As someone who has dated someone with more money than I, beleive me; if they grew up with money.....they just don't understand having to earn what you have.

i beg to differ......


what is apparent is that people with money are frightened that they will be taken advantage of



and poor people have nothing to loose
i came from a seriously wealthy family and being Lebanese wealth is looked at differently than in the West....

i hated the way i was looked at because of my background
5 debutante balls like a piece of meat at a cow auction....


nope i will tell you i will choose the generosity of a poor man who understands the real value of life than a rich one who counts the bookkeeping and has an accountant living in his heart.....


by the way i gave the family fortune up
Founded THE INTERNATIONAL CENTER FOR THE HEALING ARTS

and built clinics and safe houses all over the world...

i am a single head of household and just as broke as the rest of ya!!!

For all intents and purposes my last girlfriend was basically a millionaire. My income is basically below the poverty level. The difference in our income was not an issue at all. Of course, she was a very special woman. Not high-class or snobbish at all. She was very down-to-earth. We were together for over 6 months. Shared some really great times together. We went Dutch almost everywhere we went. She never gave me any money, and I never asked for any. We parted for reasons completely unrelated to money.

I don't know how it would have worked out had we married, but somehow I don't think it would have ever been a problem really. Although, if we had married I probably would have become a millionaire on my own anyhow. I have the potential to become a millionaire. I always have. It's just not something that I'm interested in pursuing alone. I'm not driven by money. Money doesn't mean anything to me. Obviously I need to have enough to survive, but I mean it's not important to me to have any money beyond the simple things in life. So there's nothing to drive me to go after it in great abundance.

I'm pretty sure that if a woman came into my life I would instantly be sparked into making more money. Not because she would push for it, but because I would want to provide her with better things. I have the potential to become a millionaire. But I don't think I would ever shoot that high even if I had a partner. What would be the point? If making money became my objective in life I think I'd really have to stop and ask myself, "Why am I doing this?". And if I took the time to answer that question properly I'm sure I'd back off from my pursuit of making money and focus on more important things in life.

I'm a very happy man financially. I mean, sure, hitting a lottery would be great because that's money that didn't require trading in your life for. But if you end up spending all your time and energy in your pursuit of making money, then was it really worth it??? My answer to that question is, no. It isn't worth it.

Although, realistically speaking I'd probably have a better chance with a bag lady than a rich bit$c$. The bag lady would be more apt to appreciate what I have to offer her. A roof over her head, a running vehicle, food always available, etc.

This thread is still of great interest to me. Still think it carries HUGE weight. Shouldn't, but it does.

2Good...I'm agreeing with you again. Been in these types of opposite financial situations in a relationship, and there's always an issue of some sort.

Alex, you're one in a million dahling, you don't count. LOL

This is always a tough issue..

I am financially secure and I feel lucky to be that way. I believe it's not what you have, but what you do.

If you want to make a lot of money and work hard and love what you do, good for you. If you want to do something that doesn't make a lot of money and love what you do, again, good for you.

I like people who are doing something - WANT to do something - contribute to the world.

I would not be comfortable with a person who is a couch potato.

I probably should have added that my million dollar girlfriend was a self-made millionaire. So she was fully aware of what it's like to live in poverty. She'd been there and done that for most of her life actually. So I really have no experience with living with someone who had it all handed to them on a silver platter ever since they were a baby.

Talking about difference financal levels, and talking about how those financial levels came to be are two different things I guess.

Well no, laziness is a whole seperate issue. LOL NEW THREAD!

I just stay permanently poor, doing sucky online work so I can raise my babies instead of farming them out to God knows who.

Hard for some on the opposite end of the financial spectrum to comprehend that concept. "I could provide a better life for them if I had a better paying job outside the home."

Well hmmmm, I could buy them fancier toys, or I could be home teaching double digit math to a preschooler. Not a hard choice for me.

Oh another thing too,… over about a 3 month period I taught her how to operate a motorcycle. After she became proficient at it we went out to a bike shop and I helped her pick out a "new" bike. Only she didn’t even buy a brand new one. She bought a really nice used one at a very reasonable price. She was just able to pay for it out of pocket like it was nothing.

So she definitely wasn't extravagant at all. She probably retained a lot of her poverty mentality from earlier years. She did own an expensive house and car though. But not outrageously expensive. Although, her property taxes were probably more than I made at that time! (ha ha)

I know what you mean about choosing between making money and raising your own kids. You're definitely making the smart choice there!

That's what I mean about making lots of money not being worth it. If it takes you away from quality time with your loved ones is it really worth it? I think not.

I'd rather be poor and spend time with my family than be rich and just exchange notes about each other's lives once in a while. I can't understand people who do that! Choose money over time with family and loved ones???? Me not!