Some Words For Your Teenager ( Archived) (30)

Well...I just got some very discouraging news. My 17 year old son, who just received his FOURTH moving violation a couple of weeks ago...is going to lose his driving privileges for a full year. In the Commonwealth of Virginia..your third demerit point conviction will result in your license being revoked for a year or until you are 18, whichever is longer. So, I have a 17 year old High School Senior that can't drive due to inattention behind the wheel. His first ticket came from changing lanes without checking the mirror and hit a pick up truck, barely reportable damage, but reportable nonetheless (3 points). Bought him a new car in June, he drove it the same day to MD, caught a speeding ticket in MD, 69 in a 55. He didn't tell me about that one. I found the ticket under the seat of his car, two days before they would have issued a bench warrant for his arrest. One month later, late for work, 74 in an 55, Careless and Reckless Driving. Court took his license for 90 days. DMV took his license for 90 more. One month ago, took him to court and appealed to the court for a restricted license so he could drive back and forth to work. Court granted the restricted license. Two weeks ago, driving in the ice and snow, lost control of his car, spun out, hit a State Police car, and slid down an embankment, totalled his car, he didn't get hurt. Careless and Reckless number two for that one. He was supposed to get his license back tomorrow. Found out that he has to have a Judges signature to get it back. Called my lawyer, found out that he is going to lose it for a year. Man, what a way to begin life after High School, with no license. Share this one with your teenager. He's lucky he's still alive, but he'll be on foot until he's almost 19 years old.

im glad hes ok but the fact he cant drive for a year sucks

Here in Michigan they can revoke driving privilidges until they turn 21.



teenagers 16 to 21 have this attitude, it won't happen to me.
Plains I know you tried to warn your boy probably, more than once...

This is a problem that is growing, disrespect for the rules of teh road.. and having parents that will move heaven and earth to give their kids second and third chances...

its a good thing every county and state is hurting for cash, cause that allows us to more intervene for our kids sake to save them.

When we were young, back then the courts where not considered a source of revenue for the county or states. it was handing out justice and teenagers where ordered by the courts to experience life lessons...

Yeah only a year he's fortunate. he has you as a father who retained an attorney on his behalf... I hope he laerned and appreciates you.


Good luck

well my daughter will have her licience and a car in two wks...keeping my fingers crossed

Haven't we all felt ten foot tall and bullet-proof at some stage in our lives? Teenage years are a time of testing...the boundaries, themselves...their place in society...I hope that your son will find the discomfort of public transport, and having to wait for a ride...a healthy reminder, that his actions have consequences...


On the flip side, he is alive, has harmed no others...and I find it a little harsh that his last accident in the snow and ice cost him his 'grown-up' independence...

It's no so much the last accident that is going to cost him...if that were the only infraction...probably a slap on the wrist and be on your way...But the Fourth....OUCH....He has to learn...and learn the hard way.

in my opinion if he cant pay attention behind the wheel of a car or stay in the speed limit he needs to be walking or riding untill he can..


i'd rather have to drive him back and forth where he needs to go .. (not where he wants to go) instead of letting him drive and having the chance of him losing his life or causing someone else to

if he loses his license again...he won't be able to drive anywhere. Not to work, not to school, nothing.

only if you allow yourself to suffer

if you make it easier for him what will he learn from it

its ok daddy will hold my hand and make it easy on me

he should be the one to suufer most

he made his bed ----- tuck him in

just a thought

but hey what do i know