internet etiquette ( Archived) (19)

I am wondering what the proper etiquette is for this internet dating routine.

Should you respond to every email and flower you get, or only to the ones you are interested in?

If you are supposed to respond to every one, what is a polite way to say you're not interested?

One guy told me he was 'honored that I contacted him but' ...my feeling is that if he was honored there wouldn't be a 'but' after it. I always feel like people say they are honored or flattered when they really think they are just too good for you. Does anyone else feel that way?

So,, y'all fill me in the unwritten rules here.... please?
Thanks!
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You should only respond to the King's e-mails.....

signed...

The King....

I'm not sure if there's anything set down in stone. I guess everyone's idea of "etiquette", i.e. politeness, courtesy, is different. I always try my best to respond to mails and flowers. I am truly flattered and will say so but I do give my reasons for not being interested. Its the least I can do if someone has gone to the time and trouble, I feel they deserve a reply. Manners maketh the man? But each to their own...........
Go with what you feel comfortable with, yeah?

I'd like to know this, too.
Good question.

And.. what kind of response does the King prefer?

Midland mom,

You are a very intelligent sophisticated woman. You only need to respond to men who treat you as such. You have absolutely no obligation whatsoever to respond to anyone.

Just for the record, about 90% of women that I send emails to NEVER bother to reply! I don’t press it with a second email, but if I did I think they would have the right to block me at that time if they truly aren’t interested.

Have a profile on a dating sight does NOT obligate you in any way to converse with anyone. If I were you I wouldn’t hesitate to block any man who become the least be obnoxious, rude, or hostile in the slightest way.

If you really feel that you’d like to respond to some men with a polite “rejection notice”, that would certainly be alright. But by doing do you are just giving them yet another opportunity to respond back to you. I can see why women prefer to just ignore the men they aren’t interested in actually.

The main thing is to NEVER feel guilty about not being interested in someone. There’s nothing to feel guilty about.

As far as Internet etiquette is concerned. There is no such thing. Just do whatever you feel comfortable with.

There are just too many perverts out there who aren’t worth getting upset over.

You're getting yourself into trouble now.

Actually I have never gotten an email from someone who was rude or obnoxious. I have had a few that I was pretty sure were scams...they are usually persistent and try several times, but I have learned to write back and tell them, as politely as I can, what it is about their note/ profile that makes me suspicous. If they're real they dont' want to look suspicous so they might appreciate the feedback. If they're scammers they know I'm on to them.

I don't think I feel like owe anybody a response, I just feel like it seems a little snobby to ignore them completely. I don't do that in real life if someone starts up a conversation or sends me soemthing, but in real life it's easier to respond in ways that show I'm not interested.

I think I might settle in the middle....repsond to everything with a thanks, because I do sincerely appreciate their time and interest, and compliments, and then maybe say I'm not inteested right now but wish them luck?

Hmmm think I scared the King away??? Maybe he was expecting groveling and 'honoring'?
Oops.. and I've already disobeyed him.. he may be planning my execution!