7 day rule (28)
No, I don't think you are out of line. A long distance relationship takes work, lots of work and sacrifice. If he can't sit down and write you even a quick e-mail to say he is busy and just hasn't had much time, then I would start to have doubts about how serious he is about the whole thing. Yes, there is a chance he just simply cannot get in touch with you, storm, power outage or, hopefully not, he is in the hospital. I don't want to make you paranoid, but if it's none of the above reasons, I don't think he's into it as you are. I don't want to see you get hurt by this guy.
John
John
as has been discussed before,,, if something is wrong or they are out of town or something,, it only takes a quick email or quick call to say they are busy,, if no email or call,, tha tis plain and simple just lack of respect,, based on that alone,, does not look good,, but again also,, long distance relationships suck,, we're not stupid,, we all need to get off our butts and actually meet real people in our own areas,, i hope you are ok
Thanks Foxy, as well. We shall see what comes of it.
hmm I like that rule...
I like that rule also.
Guess I better get rid of the 24 hour rule and switch to the 7 day one. 
24hrs??? holy cow thats quick!! LOL
Understood that he has since made contact with you - but especially with the possibility of a heavy work week and the weather possibly causing havoc with communications.....cut him some slack. Long distance relationships require some work - and unfortunately also rely on communications equipment and good old memory....'did I tell her this was a crazy week for me...'
Hope things work out well for the both of you...
Hope things work out well for the both of you...
Like others have said, lack of communication could be due to power outages, computer, telephone equipment failure.....give him a break. Think positively.....long distance relationships can work, but require patience, and work too. What if he had to travel overseas in the military, would you quit on him? I think not!
MAybe the guys can give us some insight into why this happens?
Sounds like someone had a change of mind about the relationship for some reason and is too chicken to deal with it directly. Given that you are long distance and only connect via the ether or telephone it becomes even easier to just go silent and drop out of sight.
I don't know the details of your situation capevixen, but maybe your friend is feeling overwhelmed about being in a "relationship". Speaking from recent experience, I have felt that way if a girl starts to take things too seriously after only a short time dating.
I don't know the details of your situation capevixen, but maybe your friend is feeling overwhelmed about being in a "relationship". Speaking from recent experience, I have felt that way if a girl starts to take things too seriously after only a short time dating.
hey Arthurdent,
Actually, he had to convince me to try this whole long distance thing; I was really reluctant to give it a shot because I'm still getting back into the dating scene, and dating someone I can't see is really not the best way to start out with that, in my eyes. Anyhow, he convinced me, and I've ben feeling a little floored by the whole thing, and now the sudden drop in contact just has me sitting a little blankly with those cartoon question marks above my head....I'm not ready for serious with anyone yet....I just want to know what's going on, is all....mew?
Actually, he had to convince me to try this whole long distance thing; I was really reluctant to give it a shot because I'm still getting back into the dating scene, and dating someone I can't see is really not the best way to start out with that, in my eyes. Anyhow, he convinced me, and I've ben feeling a little floored by the whole thing, and now the sudden drop in contact just has me sitting a little blankly with those cartoon question marks above my head....I'm not ready for serious with anyone yet....I just want to know what's going on, is all....mew?
Well we'll try a little input. We're pigs, plan and simple. We make the contact in the hopes to start something, then low and behold all of a sudden someone near by contacts us. Then we're off and running onto plan B.
Sorry for the bad wording. But I'm just giving the giffft of it.
From what I'm reading of your story. He has a few on line that maybe right for him. He's hoping that you will remain a back-up. To me this is my opion.
We don't nessary do it on purpose. Who am I kidding, yes we do. It's like when women shop for shoes. You see a great pair in the window, go in try them on. But wait there's anoughter pair closer, maybe a little nicer, a little differnt. Hmmmmmmm better try those ones to??? I hope you understand what I'm getting at.
Now we're not all this way. Sometimes all the intentions are good. We want to find someone who we can spend the rest of our lives with also. But sometimes the situation just doesn't allow for it to happen.
From my own past experiances. Long distance don't work, unless one of the parties can have the abilty to get to the other person as often as possible. I think only then there will be a chance to start something. Other than that it's just window shopping.
Hope this helps and stirs up lots of comotion.
Sorry for the bad wording. But I'm just giving the giffft of it.
From what I'm reading of your story. He has a few on line that maybe right for him. He's hoping that you will remain a back-up. To me this is my opion.
We don't nessary do it on purpose. Who am I kidding, yes we do. It's like when women shop for shoes. You see a great pair in the window, go in try them on. But wait there's anoughter pair closer, maybe a little nicer, a little differnt. Hmmmmmmm better try those ones to??? I hope you understand what I'm getting at.
Now we're not all this way. Sometimes all the intentions are good. We want to find someone who we can spend the rest of our lives with also. But sometimes the situation just doesn't allow for it to happen.
From my own past experiances. Long distance don't work, unless one of the parties can have the abilty to get to the other person as often as possible. I think only then there will be a chance to start something. Other than that it's just window shopping.
Hope this helps and stirs up lots of comotion.
Hey Cape, I am sorry to hear that you have not heard from your guy!! The 7 day rule is actually a good thing, I should try that!!
Yes, I agree with you if you have not heard from him than move on with your life girl. Life is way too short to be waiting for a guy let alone one who is so far away. Unless one of you plans to move that way then what is the point anyways??
Go with your gutt instinct, it's never wrong.
Good luck with this guy.
Blueeyedmustand
Take care
Yes, I agree with you if you have not heard from him than move on with your life girl. Life is way too short to be waiting for a guy let alone one who is so far away. Unless one of you plans to move that way then what is the point anyways??
Go with your gutt instinct, it's never wrong.
Good luck with this guy.
Blueeyedmustand
Take care
You were lonely and noticed him, he was lonely and noticed you. It felt good. Imagination is a wonderful tool and yours and his worked over time until you were in a long distance relationship. It was fun and felt good to have someone to think about all the time. We all need or at least want that. Well, for some that goes on and on and you try to find a way to connect physically. Others maybe go along because it feels good that someone wants you. This site is probably full of that type of relationship. I would think that's okay until you meet someone closer, or maybe even in person? What a concept! Dating someone you can see. Maybe I'm all wet but I think that's the better way for me. You're a sweet girl, Vixen and I think you're on the right track. Just time for some reality. Good luck.
Come on, don't beat yourself up. And don't give up. You're too sweet to stay single.
Be careful with posting about men you meet on the site... if they find the forum .. they may think ur possesive or insane... Not saying u are.. but if I read a thread .. about myself from some guy .. Id be like.. uuumm .. CRAZYYYYYYYY
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Just wondering if I can get a little input on this:
I met someone from this site and we connected really well. The downside: he lives in Ontario and I live in Cape Breton. So, we decided we'd try this long distance relationship thing, which I'm usually pretty hesitant to try. Anyhow, I've had no contact whatsoever with the guy since Monday (and I did try to contact him through msn, but have had to response- I have no other way to reach him aside from MSN and this site).
Usually, I have a one week rule with any relationship I'm in. If I don't hear from someone within 7 days (no phone call, no retunred phone call, no email, no nothing), without prior reasoning as to why, then I assume that things are done. It's not like I expect to hear from someone daily, but twice a week or so for someone you're seeing isn't all that much to ask, i don't think.
I jsut want to know, am I expecting too much from this guy? I mean, it was his suggestion we do this, and I'm interested, though still hesitant because of the distance...would I be out of line in considering myself single again if I haven't made contact with him by next MOnday?