Trust (21)
Trust shouldn't be given freely, it's something that is earned in my opinion. For something as serious as cheating, the trust is shattered and it won't ever come back.
Speaking from the experience of a woman who was cheated on and left (when pregnant) and who stupidly took him back only to have him cheat again a couple years later - ummm NO!! Even in the time when we were back together and he was not cheating (that I know of) I was suspicious of his every move, every phone call, every thing!!
I hear ya, I even bugged the phone.
...that's after i came across other stuff.
I agree when someone cheats the trust is shattered. It happened to me and i had went back with her that was when i was younger and i can honestly say i never looked at her the same. It was a big mistake i will never make again. Cheat once don't come back.
A cheater will most likely cheat again especially when you take them back perhaps because they feel they can get away with it over and over and the person they cheat on keeps enabling them to do so. If you cheat theres the door cya I will never put myself through it again.
This is one of the big ones for me - if I can't trust you - I don't want you around me. This applies to everyone - family, friends, lover.
I don't trust easily to begin with, so when that trust is broken - that person is on their own. I'll be out of there and no looking back. That may sound harsh but eventhough I could forgive I know I could never forget. I would always expect them to do it again. Whatever reason they found the first time to justify the cheating would probably be used again.
With me they wouldn't get the second chance.
I don't trust easily to begin with, so when that trust is broken - that person is on their own. I'll be out of there and no looking back. That may sound harsh but eventhough I could forgive I know I could never forget. I would always expect them to do it again. Whatever reason they found the first time to justify the cheating would probably be used again.
With me they wouldn't get the second chance.
Nope not for me. Trust has to be earned. And in my opinion, once your partner cheats on you, that says exactly what they think of you. A convenience and not a partner.
hmmmmmm 
ok, I am like this........I will trust you until you give me a reason NOT TO!
with that in mind, I was told this from my mom: two things you can't take back......your word and your trust
He cheated???? HE'S OUTTA HERE..........
I will ABSOLUTELY NOT take anyone back.....friends/family/lover/husband......whatever category that person is in.........
Once you kill the trust I have in you.....in your character and your worth, you are GONE-ZO!
thankyouverymuch!
ok, I am like this........I will trust you until you give me a reason NOT TO!
with that in mind, I was told this from my mom: two things you can't take back......your word and your trust
He cheated???? HE'S OUTTA HERE..........
I will ABSOLUTELY NOT take anyone back.....friends/family/lover/husband......whatever category that person is in.........
Once you kill the trust I have in you.....in your character and your worth, you are GONE-ZO!
thankyouverymuch!
Elvis has left the building.
aaaahhhhhhhhhhh er, thankya d'ere young man......
Its not a easy task,but for me,I give trust until otherwise proven diffrent,walls tend to keep alot out,and some of those things are things that we should have allowed in....
I can answer this because a very similiar thing happened to me (the person I was dating was married and pretended to be single). The answer is no. You can try to forgive, but you can never forget the dishonesty. The idea that you are not special and that someone has the gall to offend your intelligence. Don't trust him/her again.
Did you say TRUST ??? What trust??.. sorry but i seem to be having trust ussues because she cheated on me...and not issues with her either... but other women i havent even met yet...this is just too crazy even for me! I never understood it before as much as i do now...I really don't trust women anymore. It's unfortunate that it came to this and not something i'm feeling on purpose. My ex even called from her bf's place and asks "did you want me back?" 
...sorry... i guess i'm just ventilating...
I'll just say this...if u CAN actually regain that trust back...it won't happen over night i'm sure
... Jim
...sorry... i guess i'm just ventilating...I'll just say this...if u CAN actually regain that trust back...it won't happen over night i'm sure
... JimI would not stay with anyone that cheated. I remember trying to put a relationship toether with someone, andd he bragged, he met two girls at a bar and seduced them the night before.
I refused to have anything to do with him after that and I doubt he understand fully why.
Because, years later, he had a live in relationship and did the same thing to her, and I spoke up again to him in front of her because he spoke it out loud. Maybe he got it that time.
I refused to have anything to do with him after that and I doubt he understand fully why.
Because, years later, he had a live in relationship and did the same thing to her, and I spoke up again to him in front of her because he spoke it out loud. Maybe he got it that time.
oh man,, this might sound really bad,, please not offending anyone here but,, i would say no you can not regain the trust,, it's the insecure ones that think they can not get anyone else that still hang in there,, just my 2 cents
Tis is an interesting thread and it's interesting that you never hear from the cheaters... Trust is one of the biggest issues in any relationship - up there with honesty.
I have been both the cheater and the cheated on (what goes around comes around) I realized after I cheated that obviously the relationship I was in was not where I should be, and your right I don't think you can ever fully regain the trust. Now having been in that situation I can honestly say that I will never cheat again (previously said in post above 'once a cheater always a cheater') if I am in a relationship and interested in someone else I would not cross that line without ening the first.
Hoping this doesn't change the opinion of some here towards me. We all make mistakes and learn from them. I know more of who I am now than I did then and that experiance has helped to make me ----me---
I have been both the cheater and the cheated on (what goes around comes around) I realized after I cheated that obviously the relationship I was in was not where I should be, and your right I don't think you can ever fully regain the trust. Now having been in that situation I can honestly say that I will never cheat again (previously said in post above 'once a cheater always a cheater') if I am in a relationship and interested in someone else I would not cross that line without ening the first.
Hoping this doesn't change the opinion of some here towards me. We all make mistakes and learn from them. I know more of who I am now than I did then and that experiance has helped to make me ----me---
but is it the same with each new person...do you completly trust someone else. Even if "your belief in trust" has been broken by another or do you find it hard to start trusting again?
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