How Do You Deal When Another Leaves the Nest-Across the Country? (14)
Hey hon,
I'm far from knowing alot here, but at 22, just giving her as much wisdom you have is it.
Since she's already been there, and looks like it is a good thing? Then, it is her choice.
That is gonna be hard as hell, knowing how close you are to your loves.
Suppose she left for school? Would it be the same feeling? Or, is there something more to your feeling than just love and concern?
xxxooo
I'm far from knowing alot here, but at 22, just giving her as much wisdom you have is it.
Since she's already been there, and looks like it is a good thing? Then, it is her choice.
That is gonna be hard as hell, knowing how close you are to your loves.
Suppose she left for school? Would it be the same feeling? Or, is there something more to your feeling than just love and concern?
xxxooo
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Well i'd keep the homefires burning cause she will be back,believe me.Meanwhile your kids are grown so do something good for you jojo..:)
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Take the time to accept it, so that you can give her your happiness, the greatest wisdom of all time.
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I told my son; I knew he had to make his own life, and decisions; but I loved him; and would miss him. I also told him: he was welcome back home, at anytime, with or without her. Then you just prey for them every night.
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Well JoJo your babies are growing up,and as much as we can't wait for the day they leave,it breaks are heart to see them go.
All I can say is trust in her judgement,and support her dissisons,like the rest of us Jo,you have to live to learn,and all we can do is be there for them.
Chad has moved out aagin,and is living with his girfriend,this is the 3rd time Chad has left the nest....lol
We never stop being parents,even after they are gone,we still worry,sometimes even more,but it ALWAYS turns out ok.
Looks like your load is getting smaller Joanne,which means that now you can start to shine,have JoJo time,be good to you,your excuses won't be heard now.
Megan all the best to you,may you get all that you deserve,and all that you need.
Megan and JoJo stock up on the long distance cards,your gonna need them,and Joanne,you stock up on kleenx,your gonna need it for a few days..........lol
P.S Joanne,call me sometime,its been far to long,losts to tell............Love you and miss you.
All I can say is trust in her judgement,and support her dissisons,like the rest of us Jo,you have to live to learn,and all we can do is be there for them.
Chad has moved out aagin,and is living with his girfriend,this is the 3rd time Chad has left the nest....lol
We never stop being parents,even after they are gone,we still worry,sometimes even more,but it ALWAYS turns out ok.
Looks like your load is getting smaller Joanne,which means that now you can start to shine,have JoJo time,be good to you,your excuses won't be heard now.
Megan all the best to you,may you get all that you deserve,and all that you need.
Megan and JoJo stock up on the long distance cards,your gonna need them,and Joanne,you stock up on kleenx,your gonna need it for a few days..........lol
P.S Joanne,call me sometime,its been far to long,losts to tell............Love you and miss you.
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My son moved to the west coast. There's always the telephone and we talk frequently. And email pictures which is fun too.
Young people need to stretch their wings and have their own adventures :)
Young people need to stretch their wings and have their own adventures :)
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Thanks so much for all of your intelligence, wisdom, love, and best wishes.
That's pretty much what I figured I would have to do.
I think maybe her dad is having a worse time of it than me.
I have been trying to figure out sprcial things to do between now and then and spending time with her before she leaves.
And Cheri, I wll be in touch soon, when things slow down around here, lol.
JoJo XXXOO
That's pretty much what I figured I would have to do.
I think maybe her dad is having a worse time of it than me.
I have been trying to figure out sprcial things to do between now and then and spending time with her before she leaves.
And Cheri, I wll be in touch soon, when things slow down around here, lol.
JoJo XXXOO
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Make sure your phone works or that your internet does so they can email. Just like you it was hard when you left the first time.
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um i had to try to login for this.. it worked!
so Jo Jo my eldest is 32, my son is 21 and well my little one is still home....
but hey a simple question.....no one seems to have asked yet...
have you met him?
if you havn't well then i think a road trip is in order....
just my opinion...lol
i wouldn't hand over my child to anyone unless i at least got a REAL GOOD LOOK IN HIS/HER EYES
if ya know what i mean lol
big kiss mom!!
love alex
so Jo Jo my eldest is 32, my son is 21 and well my little one is still home....
but hey a simple question.....no one seems to have asked yet...
have you met him?
if you havn't well then i think a road trip is in order....
just my opinion...lol
i wouldn't hand over my child to anyone unless i at least got a REAL GOOD LOOK IN HIS/HER EYES
if ya know what i mean lol
big kiss mom!!
love alex
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Hi Alex,
I guess that is what worries me, although he has been forking over all of her expense money, so he must be at least financially solvent.
I just worry whether he will treat her right, and no we have not met.
She went out there on her own, much to our dismay.
That is just a very long way not to know what is or is not going on - I just hope things do not turn out badly.
One can only hope for the best.
JoJo
I guess that is what worries me, although he has been forking over all of her expense money, so he must be at least financially solvent.
I just worry whether he will treat her right, and no we have not met.
She went out there on her own, much to our dismay.
That is just a very long way not to know what is or is not going on - I just hope things do not turn out badly.
One can only hope for the best.
JoJo
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Hey Joanne not the mother of the year(me) or of an older grown child all i can say is let her you are there for her and that you love her and dont let her go without knowing you are there always for her and without knowing she can call you and wright or email you guys
all the best of luck
hun
all the best of luck
hun
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you are going arn't you???!!!!
the hell with work or whatever!
these are memories to make it is the proper way to do your part
oho oh oh hoho hhhhooooo listen to me "proper" hah!
but really
you need to meet him
you need to look him in the eyes this is your daughter woman!
it has nothing to do with suspicion or mistrust it has to do with being a mother.
one day she will be one and this moment will come to her as well.....show her what to do....
you need to see with your own eyes where she is how he lives. money means nothing he could have maxed out his mother's or dead wife's credit card!
naaaaaaawwwwww ya gotta meet him......
everything everyone else has said is ABSOLUTELY TRUE
but
YOU NEED TO DO THIS
what if? ......it's logic
the hell with work or whatever!
these are memories to make it is the proper way to do your part
oho oh oh hoho hhhhooooo listen to me "proper" hah!
but really
you need to meet him
you need to look him in the eyes this is your daughter woman!
it has nothing to do with suspicion or mistrust it has to do with being a mother.
one day she will be one and this moment will come to her as well.....show her what to do....
you need to see with your own eyes where she is how he lives. money means nothing he could have maxed out his mother's or dead wife's credit card!
naaaaaaawwwwww ya gotta meet him......
everything everyone else has said is ABSOLUTELY TRUE
but
YOU NEED TO DO THIS
what if? ......it's logic
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Okay,so Alex,your in a far away land,and your mind is in better order then the rest of us............lol
Yes JoJo,you have to see and feel for yourself,rest won't come easy till you do,and no,the phone won't do,get on a plane,or in your car and drive to see where it is your daughter is going to be spending her time.
Am here if you need me,you know how to reach me.
Love ya girly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes JoJo,you have to see and feel for yourself,rest won't come easy till you do,and no,the phone won't do,get on a plane,or in your car and drive to see where it is your daughter is going to be spending her time.
Am here if you need me,you know how to reach me.
Love ya girly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I have my second oldest, Meghann (she has been in here -her ID is Ragdollgirl)is 22. Meg met someone from here and corresponded for a few months. He sent her a plane tick and she spent a few week with him in his home in Minnesota.
Now a few weeks later she has decided to move out there with him permanently and is leaving right after Thanksgiving.
How do you deal with the loss and what can you say?
She has made up her mind and none can dissuade.
Anyone have any suggestions?
JoJo