New here so this has probably been done a thousand times before but here's my Dear John ( Archived) (18)

Hi Royston,



I just wanted to drop you a note to explain my rubbishness because I really want you to know about some stuff before it hits the ******* grapevine and spreads like wildfire.



Since we finished I’ve had some contact with (ex, who is now stopping her from talking to me!) and as a result we’ve decided to give things another go, which probably sounds like madness but I know it’s the right thing for us to do.



I know it’s probably not what you want to hear, but I want to be honest with you because you’re a really fantastic person and I had a great time with you….it just wasn’t right in the end. I remain sure that out there somewhere is the girl of your dreams…..and she’s a very lucky girl indeed.



I’ve found quite a few things of yours around the flat so I’ll aim to get them to *** when he’s back from Oz if that’s OK?



Sorry again, take good care, and I wish you lots of fun looking for that soulmate…..you absolutely deserve the best.



Take Care,



What does guy have to do? Obviously being nice don't help!

Obviously she wasn't the right one for you or you would still be together. As hard as it may be to hear this, you just have to move on. You're a great looking guy - stay nice!! Stick around the forums too - ya never know! Not to mention it is alot of fun!

Apparently, you were taken for granted...never a good thing to have happen, in any relationship. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

Be welcome, best wishes, & enjoy your stay here

You'll be fine, in time. You have honest eyes.

Welcome to the site.

welcome

enjoy

have fun

What does a guy have to do? Keep being nice, and keep looking.
A little understanding on your part for her situation would be nice.
Just because she wasn't the right one for you doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Just the combination was apparently. Move on.

You will never be "Lonely" here......

Hi Royston,


Ouch.

To have had a relationship where your things are still hanging around in her flat, says you had some history there.


So your relationship had ended, she decided to look at her ex, and their relationship, and perhaps work through it with him, (ie hook up).

May I ask, was your relationship with this woman a very long one? Was there much time between her ending her relationship with her ex, and starting one with you?

I suspect that you are looking at the whole thing the wrong way...you were you, and gave what you did to the relationship, and only you know the depth and sincerity that you gave to it.

Perhaps this woman did not give the same depth and sincerity, and so the whole thing was unbalanced.

I suspect you were giving more to this relationship the two of you had, than she was.

Why did it end between you two?

And as to what can you do differently in your next relationship, work through this one, own your part in it, and heal, first.

Then be all of you, honest and clear, and remain true to yourself.

huh

since I've notseen you around cs, not sure what grapevine is mentioned...

coming to forum with a supposed letter?

blah blah

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Who says you've been nice?