House husband. (32)

Here speaks a man who has never been a house husband.

all i said is, i cant treat someone as a man, and look up on him, if he is at home doing the dishes. i work too, support my child without any help. so i think i am independent enough. A man from MY Experience cant even do the cleaning , washing etc propely, so there isnt much point for them to do it. but it is hard for a women to do everything alone. Its not impossible because i am doing it..
But in the family a man should be the man.one of My problem with my ex was, that i could fix the car, he couldnt. I could put a shelf up but he didnt even know how to use a drill. He had no idea of DIY works or anything, but i did all the cooking , cleaning , working as well, and i did bring same ammount of money to the house, but then i realised i didnt have anyone to look up on...what for?? So thats why i said i think a man should do things like that , just because a women earn less and being with the kids more doesnt make it any more less of a person. And that doesnt mean that she couldnt support herself if needed.

I didn't intend to offend you and you are obviously coping just fine bringing up your kids alone.

I think though you simply had the bad luck to have a LAZY ex husband. There are no man or woman 'things' as you put it, many women can fix a car but can't cook, likewise there are men who are great cooks yet are unable to attempt DIY.

My last serious boyfriend did all the cooking, shopping, cleaning and worked, but DIY or such like, he didn't have a clue and would rather pay somebody else to do it. I worked longer hours than he did and finished much later so he had no problem doing those things.

Gender based roles should be a thing of the past.

I was not raised in a household where there were anything such as "gender-based chores" Everything was shared or done by whoever had the time, inclination/know-how, whatever.
When I was married, we both shared all chores and projects; what one of us did not know, understand or do alone, we learned one from the other, showed each other etc. as I found to be a very harmonious way of living, be it refinishing antiques, putting up shelves or even cleaning the oven(that is not what I could term f u n by any stretch of the wildest imagination!)Yuk. Sometimes we even took turns working in or outside the home; sometimes we worked together and it was FUN; we helped each other; we learned from each other. To me that was the ideal way.
From those whom I see around me today, far too many were "spoiled rotten" as the saying goes, and one or both are ,unfortunately...tragically, unfit psychologically for a "happy" marriage; marriage or Life is not all about them only. But never despair! Have patience! You'll find him! %)

Hi. u didnt offend me at all, i just said what i personally think. thats why i said luckily there is lots of different people on the world so they all like differeny things. i just said what i like. i wouldnt like my partner to do the cleaning, cooking, etc..

I don't want a man to look up to (unless he's 1,93 )...
I think the keyword is mutual respect, not one looking up to the other!

Agreed

the answere is so simple share everthing u can and make time for each other and for yourself mutual respect makes for good partnership

Magnificent pic. Welcome.